High Pressure parent?
By jodylee
@jodylee (946)
United States
4 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I was not a high pressure parent but I was completely open and honest with my children. I did not just speak the talk and as I walked the talked. I lead by example and made sure that when I said something would affect them, I made sure I was not hypocritically saying them but told them why.
I was not afraid to cry in front of my kids and when explaining things and I was very open to hearing their side and views.
Having them at such a young age, being a single parent, working full-time and attending college, quality time was very important and always made sure they knew what my own personal goals were. This gave them a sense while growing up that there is a real world out and and that I was living it, and what I expected out of them.
So far so good and they are accomplishing their own personal goals not because I said so but because they want to.
@jodylee (946)
• United States
26 Sep 11
:) Sounds about right! My kids are little right now but that seems to be the parenting path I am on as well. I want them to learn from my actions, not just my words.
Good for you for working so hard, I am sure they learned more than any school could teach just by watching you!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I try not to be high pressure but I am honest with them. I tell them their lives don't end over certain choices or mistakes but it sure can effect the way they live to make them. Examples are also important...children never see it "happening to them." I try to be as positive as possible and if they are giving something their all...that is all I can ask. What seems to serve my children well is a place that they come to get away from the pressure. I don't have to do it...it's already out there. I do expect them to take care of their responsibilities though.
@jodylee (946)
• United States
25 Sep 11
Sounds like you and I are pretty similar in this respect. I feel very much the same that examples are important and that if they are doing their best then they are doing great!
Honesty is the best policy, I give it to my kids straight and help them understand good decision making. There is so much pressure out there that it is intimidating. No need to do that at home too.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
Yes I am!
I have high expectations for myself, so naturally I also have high expectations for my children. Specially that I try to provide them with all the necessary resources.
With this high expectation, is also the frustration when my children don't necessarily achieve goals I've set for them.
I don't think this is the way to rear children.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
25 Sep 11
every parent wants the best for your child.
But sometimes we parents have too high standards for our children.
must be able to comply with their wishes and just give them tips.
For the life of our children, we do not live it and live it.
the only thing we can do for them is to educate them and train them to be good and very inteligantni.
the rest depends on them.
friendly advice must also be given.
nice day!