home for the aged

hi tigeraunt, It never cross my mind to send my parents to home for the aged I want to take care of them like they do to me in my younger years. I see myself taking care of them when they are no longer can take care of themselves I understand those people who prefer sending their parents in this kind of institution they have reasons but for me I rather take care of my parents happy mylotting

It is not always that children would be settled in the same city or area where the parents live. Sometimes the parents themselves encourage their children to leave the shores seeking greener pastures and this is on the increase. When this happens rather than be left alone to fend for themselves it would be better if they are in a safe place where they will be taken care of.

Hello tigeraunt. In our country there are a lot of homes for the aged, especially in the cities. Just this summer I got to know that one of my neighbors of my generation has sent her mother in such a home for the aged. They have several siblings. They do so because their aged mother is not totally conscious all the time. In the home for the aged, their mother get better care from there and they often go and see her in that home. My own parents are in their seventies and eighties and they can still take good care of themselves in their own house. I do not stay in the same city with my parents and siblings, but my siblings,especially my sister often visits them and help them. My parents feel good staying in their own house. My greatest wish to them is for them to stay healthy, which is the most important to us children. Take care.

i have been doing medical transcriptions for a doctor who works for a facility for the aged, a nursing home in Florida. the truth is most of these old folks have families and they were sent there for a lot of practical reasons. As age advances, so thus our functional capacity to do the daily activities of everyday life and sometimes associated with some endstage diseases, Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, etc. These facilities actually provide rehabilitation, therapy, skilled-nursing assistance, hospice for terminally-ill, and medical workup needed for diagnosis and prognosis. In my own personal opinion, i think it is the best place that could provide "CARE" for them rather than staying at home and be taken care of by family. i wouldn't feel guilty if i were to send my parents when they are too old as i know they will be taken care of properly and could be provided medical attention when needed and on my part, visiting regularly and giving encouragement would be the best thing to do.

Well i wouldn't send my parents at the home for the aged.. i will take good care my parents as they take good care of me when im young. I treasured my parents that's why i loved them. I think many Filipino take good care of their parents if its old aged because Filipino is really bounding with the families...

I think it is a hard decision to send your parents to such a home. It depends how able are you to take care of them. If you must go to work and nobody stay at home, you can't leave them alone, specially if they are suffering any illness. You need to pay a nurse to take care at them. Or you need to have someone who is able to do that task. Sometimes old people are suffering of an illness which avoid that they can take care from themselves. You need to have time and much love. But if you can't have them at home it is not bad idea if you find a home and the proper people to take care of them.

I am afraid that Australians do sometimes find it necesary to put their elderly parents in a nursing home. This is not because they have no family, but due to their parent or parents having ilnesses and medical conditions that are too difficult to look after without expert care. My father has alztheimers, and although my mother looks after him now, within a year or two, he will need to go into a nursing home. Often patients with dementia are too difficult for ther partners or spouses to look after. Also with significant physical disabilities if it difficult to care for our parents. I wouldn't be able to care for my parents, as I work full time, and the government wont give me an age pension until I am 67.

Never! I would never send my Mom to a hospice or any home for the aged. I promised God that I will take care of her as long as she lives. It's the only way i can repay her for what she did to me eversince i was born. Also, it is also God's commandment that we should honor our parents.

Hi ann, personally speaking I can't even think of doing such a thing to my mother, in fact we consider each day that she spends with us children is a blessing because we don't get to see her much.She divides her time between the three of us.However, I have seen some families where the parents are made much of in front of visitors and treated like dirt , and in such cases the poor parents are probably better off in an old age home where they may get some company and peace of mind...

I never dreamed in my whole life to send my parents to a nursing home, that's totally appalling and ridiculous. Well, in the Philippines, sending parents home is never a practice because part of children's duty is to take care of their parents.

Sweety here there are several managed by some private trusties, the sad part of the story is, some persons, leave their old parents there, instead of taking care by them selves, how sad; they have to face the consequences, have to face the court there high above.. thanks for sharing. Take care.

No I won't because it is my responsibility as their child to take care of them when they grow old, I mean nobody will understand them more than I do.I also don't want my children to do the same thing to me so I have to set an example to them that parents should be loved and taken cared of.

I've gone to the Golden Acres a few times and saw the patients there. I observed that there are several patients for one caregiver. I won't really send my parents to a home like that, not that the services there are not good but these patients suffered from loneliness away from their families even if their needs were being taken care of. We can only repay what our parents had done to take care of us during our childhood and even during our married life wherein when we have problems it would be our parents whom we have gone for financial reasons most of all. In times of failure and frustrations, our parents are always there to console us.

It is certain that old age will come upon every one.If every one has a vision of future no one would allow his/her aged parents to spend the time of weakness and illness without having the proximity of the beloved children.In my opinion, in a civilized society aged parents should be under the care of the children in the same way the children were under the care of the parents at their younger age.

Hi Tiger, so far my grandmother is still staying with us until now. We never plan to put her in the home for the aged. It is a pity to see those old people being put in that home and lived there without their loved ones around. Now, my grandmother is in her 70's and we let her stay with us. We just feels it is a sad matter to put old people to stay in that home. Maybe for some people, because of their family and work burden, so no choice have to send their old parents to that home.

Anny dear We have such houses called 'Bridhhasram'; some ungrateful sons biased by their wives send the aged parents there; but they forget that their son's will do the same thing to them,, my dad is no more, my mom lives with his son.. i am sure my kids will never do this to me or hubby