Met my husband's family.

If someone is annoyed with you and he is saying bad things, if at that moment you question why he is saying such things, it is like pouring oil on a fire. It is best to ignore him. He will stop when he doesn't see any reactions from you.

What do you do, it's very true. Serving those who like it, will only make you tired, and bring no benefits.

don.t worry are sweat if his family like you are not god love you no matter what your hands are like.remember a person that insults others make themself look small.hold your head up you are blessed.

hello indahfth, i would avoid people who makes me sad and angry. in my thoughts, who cares about him? i will not die even if i dont meet him/her i would not care if he/she calls me a snob because i will always shook hands with other people who knows how to smile. ann

Obviously that particular man is not a gentleman but he is still you husband's relative or family so just let his hard heart to melt by your good deeds and do not let him to change you by thinking bad or what you had done is absolutely right because time will come he will see and get what he deserves to.

Sometimes it is best to be silent when it comes to family members like this. Simply saying that in order to keep the peace and not interrupt a family gathering. If I had a situation where a family member was like this one, I would be silent at the moment as I don't want to cause a fight and or scene in the party. But if someday we meet again in private I would let the family member know that they are doing an injustice with me. It is not in my nature to fight and or argue with people, especially family so I understand why you kept silence. Words are merely ignorance and although they can make me feel bad I don't allow words to change my character.

people said that silence is gold.. but maybe if you talk and tell him that you are not like he said maybe that it could be a diamond. however we need to make things clear and tell them what we really are so they can understand us not just spoiling

hello indah..i confuse who does your mean, she or he?? man or woman?? don`t hear what anybody else comments..sometimes we need for hearing but sometimes we don`t need their comments.. if you feel you are right, and you feel OK, so go on

I am not sure what you mean. Does it matter about one’s hand relative to his or her personality? Once the moment that you married, you are one of his family members. Why do you have such rite to have your hands while you meet?

keep that, silence is gold. only some reasons you can talk to defend yourself. nice wife, always take care his husband heart. it's you.

It is better to be a rough hands and let them murmur, just let it passed to your other ear.... it is like a story of a Father, a Boy, and a Donkey: If there is not riding on a donkey while walking in the streets, the people murmur that "What is the use of the donkey if no riding on it?" therefore, that father took his boy to ride on donkey... and the people murmur again, that boy is a lazy boy because he let his father walk while the boy is sitting on a donkey.... so the father bring his boy down walking on the ground while that father rides on that donkey... so the by-standers again murmur "What a st2pid kind of father he is, for letting his boy walk while he (as a father) rides on his donkey" so the father took his boy and two of them now ride the donkey... then the people again murmur... poor little donkey... the boy and the father rides on a poor donkey... so the father and his boy get down to the ground and that father look for bamboo pole and tied donkeys feet to both sides of the bamboo pole (like a barbecue) while carry by his father on the front pole and for the boy to carry on the other end of the bamboo pole.... the people witness are all rolling on the floor laughing out loud.... when they passed on the bridge, the rope that tied on one of the feet of donkey untied and loosen and the donkey began to kicking and the donkey feel on the river while the current are very strong.... they lost their donkey.... so the moral lesson is that each of us have our own world that we follow, and don't listen to their murmur, anyway, no matter how strong the current of the tide and wind, we are the captain of our soul and we are the master of our own self.

I think your attitude is silent on the treatment your husband's family was very precise, like the proverbial silence does not mean defeat.let others say that is not good to you and be yourself, to what we change just to please others while we suffer because of changes imposed. stick with you a calm attitude in order to maintain a relationship with your husband and your husband would discuss with his family with a good attitude

Don't worry it means she envy you, why? I don't know but I am sure that she sees something very special on you, something that she really would to have. "You have enemies? Good. That means you have stood for something, sometime in your life".Winston Churchill.

You do not reply ugliness with ugliness as well. I know, you are very angry. But, with angry, would not solve the problem. Remain friendly, which is important, you are doing something right.

If this guy is insulting you your husband should come to your aid. Maybe in your country that is okay but not here. If your hands are rough use lotion. That is pretty easy. Don't give a jerk material to use against you! I don't really think this person is much to worry about.

What else could you do. Best to just avoid him.

Well, that kind of person do not deserve your attention. Ignore him and by that you'll show him and everybody else that his opinion doesn't matter. He sounds like a pervert, why would he talk about your skin to anybody else? You are somebody else's wife, for God sake! However, if you are being insulted, fight back. You don't deserve to be insulted, and he has absolutely no right to insult you. Does he pay your bills? If he doesn't, then tell him it's better to keep his mouth shut.

If that happens to me, I'll confront him and tell everything to mu husband. He doesn't has the right to insult me and back fight me. He should give me the respect so I should respect him also. The next time you saw him, pretend that you don't seem to be around and leave.

Indahfth, I'm not sure why you put up with being abused the way you do. I've followed a lot of your posts... believe me, if your hands were rough the person would have said some other disparaging remark. I think I would have stood in front of him and said, "Excuse me!?" Let him say that to my face... he probably would cower away then.

O..dear.. I understand how difficult is it for your every time to communicate with husband's family.But I am agree with some opinion that we come here to be teached and teach others too. It is so difficult to give you any advice, because we do not know enough to do it regarding this situation. But sometime we must be silint, but some time not. As I see you culture does not allow women to have and say you opinions or... But if you love your husband I think you can try to speak with him about this situation and your fillings inside.And if your husband respect you he will tell their family, that if they do not like you it is ok, but they must respect you as his wife and women and do not allow to make gossip with others people about you! When the people do this it means that they do not respect themselves too! Do not worry, you must be love and kind women-wife!!! We are not a sweats for everyone!You husband must be in this situation who will be you bodyguard! Take care about yourself.