I have leared the hard way that the only person i can trust is me

I hate that you are having to go through something like this. It is very difficult to go through. But, I know you must be hurting and very disappointed at something, but there are people you can trust. It is just unfortunate that we have to live and learn before we know for sure who those people are. There are actually people you can trust. I know because I am one. I wish you the best and pray God sends you someone you can truly trust.

I guess in a way, that's true. I trust few people in life except for myself. I know that if I tell others that, they'll criticize me for that and argue that I should be more open and look at life more optimistically. But realistically and logically, you are the only one you can trust because you are the only person you truly know. People will argue that you can find good friends and true love that you can learn to trust, but that's extremely rare and doesn't happen as often as most people would like. So for now, it's just me, myself, and I. But I do hope that you and I will eventually find someone we can truly trust! Happy mylotting!

Sounds like me! I trust only a few people and myself. I have been burned way to many times over the years becuase I thought I could trust anyone! Not a good thing! I am a slow learner and now I know who to trust! Myself and only a few freinds! I wish I could trust my family but that is not possible!

I have learned that, too. Although not in a very hard way. I do still get close to some people, but, I no longer give my complete trust. I reserve a little bit of doubt. For example, even if that person says he can be trusted when it comes to secrets, I do not divulge everything to him. Or even if he says he can be trusted with money, no way, as in no way would I trust anybody with money. Even if he seems to really have a good reputation. Even the most righteous could get tempted. We're all humans anyway. And as to relationships, I try to follow what they say - to "leave something for my self."

I do trust my partner and my children and can rely on them to be honest and daring to critique in good ways which will be best for me. I do have other trusting people but do have some reservations with certain aspects of my life. I don't think we need to entrust everyone we know.

I too sadly learned this lesson years ago. I have been tempted to break my rule of if I don't want it repeated don't tell anyone...and actually I did break it a couple of times and regreted doing so.

don't ever give anyone the power to change who you really are. people are going to be hurtful and mean and not nice. that doesn't mean you should live your life not being the happy trusting loving person you are.

You sound alittle like me. Can you trust your family? Mine have problems and I can't always. But I always love them regardless. Its like living with Mr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. I guess all we can do is trust in ourselves and hope that at some point someone comes along to change things.

I will say that i tend not to tell people any thing that i do not want other people to know, this way it can not come back to bite us later on.I find that by not seeing people that are two faced as much, my life is a lot better and that i am a lot happier.I have friends that come to see me and i never seem to let on a lot of what is happening, as they are the ones that tend to tell me,lol.

Hiya joy, While its true that trusting and loving yourself is the best thing to do we still need each others company. Right on you must have had People hurt you a lot by the sound of it I can chip in there and say the same but like you I have decided too that the best Friend I have is me first and the rest after. Like jugs says avoiding People that can be like that can make your life much less complicated. All the People I need to avoid are an Ocean away from me so are´nt I the lucky one eh? Before I would not have thought that but now I do by golly I do the further away the better. In my case being away from them does not make my Heart grow fonder I have been able to neutralize their nasty behaviour towards me and not let it bother me as well. Hope you have some wonderful Friends around you and you can always make others along the way.xxx

hi, sometimes we are wrong to choose a person to trust because sometimes that person is the one will bring us down,so hard to find real people now a days,but before we trust other people we need to trust our self first.

At least you learned that. Some people never learn. I agree with your discussion, I know for a fact that the only person I can trust is myself.

hi joystick some or our secret, can't be shared to other people. but not of all your problem can you keep by yourself. you remind me with with my life 4 years ago. you will find another person that you can trust. not just learn about your life, learn about people around you too.

I feel the same way as you do and agree. We always have to have our guard up because not everyone is to be trusted. I also cannot trust anyone because of all the experiences I went through with friends who I trusted who ended up talking behind my back and spreading rumors. It's like all the secrets I've told them were all out there.

i start to believe only me about ten years ago but then i am lonely cause i can't trust anyone and i can't share anything with anyone too but then i just leave it i guess i am taking the risk now

Yes, it is way better to limit the amount person whom we trust. There are times though where self is not even worth trusting. For instance, I don't trust myself with handling money for the reason that I spend it more readily that it should be. Trust will only be given to persons that have a good reputation and even so that self is too hard to consider not worthy of trust, there are instances that self must be included in the not-to-be-trusted category. There was a person I think a woman who spent her money gambling trusting herself that she wouldn't lose money. She got broke in no time. That's why trusting self is not always necessary.

rightly said... its 100% true... trusting the other person wil always result in trouble in the end... have felt it atmost of the times....