I Am SORRY But I Can't Turn Back The Time

No kids dont think that way my grandson kept trying for yers to get his mom and dad back together. He just didnt know the whole story of what happened to them. He only heard his moms side of things his dad kept quit never tore down his mom but she cut down his dad all the time. with my urging his dad finally told him why they seperated. adn altho his mom has remarried several times!! and his dad only remarried once he still thinks sometimes that they should get together again he is 26 now! and he needs to get over it. He has really not accepted his step mom althi she is the most wonderful person he just not gave her a chance even when he lived witht hem for awhile. He also lived with me for a year but nothing took of training I tried to give him

Sweetie, children are strange creatures. They always want their parents to be together, no matter what or what age they are. I see and hear this a lot as most of the parents in this country are remarried or divorced. That's life unfortunately, i think you need to talk with your son though. Some things are just not meantt to be.

Sorry, but families with step children do not work, particularly if the children were young when their bilogical parents separted. I know a lot of parents willsay ai am wrong, but the statsa show that second marriages fail more than first marriages. This is because of step children.My own two step children were a disaster. They put my husband ina corner and he didn't know how to get out of it. Our marriage failed becuase of them. Step children dont seem to be happy to see their parents happy in a new family. All they want is to get whatever they can get out of both parents, by using emotional stuff. My step children used their father against their mother, their mother against me and it became a very bad state of affairs. Whatever you do, don't give into your sons immature behaviour.

My husband and I have gone through this. My husbands, kids, mother, cheated and married someone else. They accept their ste-father but since my husband married me, they totally ditched their dad, mu husband. They don't like me and never gave me chance.

Hi neil, I support saphy’s opinion. All kids wishing to live with their parents together. Some kids become angry and refuse to accept again but I think this refusal comes from the disappointment. Whatever may be, the kids are suffering due to broken relationship, it is true.

Hello to you. Still have some unresolved problems huh? Some kids just don't understand the life's changes. Especially in marriage. When they have grown up in a certain lifestyle and such that is all they know and all they understand. I think that as they grow older they may understand it better.

My parents also seperated when I was very young. It took me many years to accept. I have to go through a lot of phases and rebel stage to understand that things happen for a reason. Children are very idealistic and they live in a fantasy world. That's why it's very hard to break their hearts. Try watching Junior masterchef. You'll notice how the the judges deliberates their rating to the children's masterpiece. Hardly disappointing - all encouraging because they don't want to break their hearts. If they are not pleased with the result, they have this subtle way of saying so that the child assigned or who cooked that dish will not be so heartbroken. I hope everything is okay with you and your family. Keep the faith, Neil. You'l;l be able to go through with it. =)

neildc I dont know how old your first born son is but children despite all the efforts of parents are indeed hurt and bothered by divorce. look they are still kids with the innocence of children even when they get to 16 theres still a lot of child in this almost adult teen. I know that what you are saying is the ideal way for them to take a divorce but they do not really start thinking like you and I until they are 20 then suddenly' mom and dad are just amazing how smart they are, before this kids from divorced moms and dads do wish they would love one ]other again. innocence til they grow up. I know I was 20 before I realized my parents were not old fogeys but really intelligent people.I dont think its relatives making them say these things as I have heard children from split up families say these things tol t hank G od me and my husband weathered all the storms as a pair and supported each other. not all marriages were like ours was. No Neilk you cannot turn time b ack , but you can have a bit more patience as once your first born son gets that aha gee my dad is smart after all then he can see and feel like you wish he felt right now. hugs from hatleyl

I think a child is always going to wish his parents were back together, no matter how old they get. As they mature they may realize WHY the couple split up, but that may not change the desire for them to reunite. I know your not sure who to believe, whether it came from your son or not, or from inlaws, relatives, etc.

hello neil, My 3 kids has different opinion and views. My daughter is neutral.. my second son will give you a big answer NO! the youngest will only say "I DON'T KNOW" kids....

For me yes that's it you need to go ahead if you want more life meaning full.

Hi Neil, my father was almost 20 years older than my mother. I was the youngest. When I was growing up, he's already growing old. My friends used to tease my that my father was old and that rubs in me. I thought, why was my father and old man? I know for a fact that my father love me but If those teases has gotten to me in spite that what matters is that he loves me what more to kids who are from a broken family who never got to feel how it feels like to be hugged by a father or mother? Sure, a kid will eventually grow up but that empty feeling that's been there since childhood will always be there unless someone fills it up or that kid grows up to be a mature person who will understands that what happened to him or her is part of life. But more often these kids only grow up full of hatred and worse even grow up hating life itself. Sure you can't turn back time, but you can always make up for all the time you've lost.

I know how you are feeling, but pls also understand the feeling of your son, I am a product of a broken home and evethough I already have a family I always wish they could still live with each other again and I can have a family again. Children will always want to have a real family they can call their own not a family where in you are the real dad but he's with someone, still not her real mom and should adjust to the situation always. Sometimes, we parents should be very considerate to the feelings and emotions of our kids because sometimes they are not saying it but they are definitely hurt and will always look for something to feel that empty space within them.

Honestly not every kid in the world is like that. For instance, I have a friend. His father has two wives. My friend's mum was the second wife and his father only comes down to see him once a year. Yet he never hates his father nor the other mother. This friend of mine, surprises me every time. He takes it easily and barely have any hatred towards it. I guess he truly accepted it and decided to move on with his life.