Find it difficult to start discussions!
By Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41239)
Delhi, India
September 26, 2011 7:06am CST
Hello MYLOTTERS,
I have seen many people who find it difficult to start a discussion here on MYLOT as they don't find relevant topics to start with.But i say its not difficult to start a discussion as there are lot of incidents which happen daily in your life and you can always share it on MYLOT as a discussion.I always do that.
But one thing which i always feel is that its easy to start discussion but keep it going is a difficult task.I have seen lot of people do that nicely but i lack it as don't find much of the time to comment back further after starting discussions but i always try not to keep any response without my comment though it takes time.
I believe one should always comment back to the response he/she gets on the discussion not only to earn but also to oblige responders.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Yes it can be a task to continue to further ones discussion but if one has the time it becomes easier to do. I don't start many and only do so when I know I have the time before me to dedicate to my own discussion.
Although there is no time limit to comment back, one can do so anytime. It is best to next time when they log in to head directly to their previous started discussion and complete it before they start a new one. That is of course a preference but my thinking is that it will allow the members who responded to see that their response was appreciated.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
26 Sep 11
I hope you were able to finally gets some rest and that all is a bit better these days for you. One day you will be able to get to a full routine again, in the interim, know that all of us here will always be eager upon your return. ![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 11
Hello HWG,
I also used to respond to others discussions previously but one day i did not find an interesting discussion to respond i started my own discussion and that day i felt its better to start my own discussion as that way i have something to write down as compared to writing on to others discussions.
I try to comment back to the responses but sometime when i become busy in offline work and could not log in to MYLOT i always try to comment back to the responses i got before going to the other discussions.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
27 Sep 11
Hope so i will be able to come back again. Recently as i am not able to do MYLOTTING from my office
therefore i don't remain much active here but hope soon i will buy a new mobile and will do MYLOTTING with double energy.
I also miss my all MYLOT friends.![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
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@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
26 Sep 11
Hi sjvg1976
I have this difficult all the time that's why i have created only few discussion till now
but i think i can't be very active on my discussion due to lack of time
so i don't create them
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@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
27 Sep 11
Hi sjvg1976 and LilyLoretta you both are very right
Yeah i know that that we can comment any time even years after we start a discussion
but when we start a discussion it always better to grow the discussion right at that moment because after a while many hesitate to respond to older discussion
i think it always better to reply as early as possible though
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
I have idea for discussions and one day, when life gets back to normal, I will start them.
I am like you in that if I don't have time to comment to those who respond I prefer not to start them. I would feel very rude if I had to ignore them all ![](/Content/images/emotes/blush.gif)
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
I am in UK since April. I made a 4 day trip back in August to see my grandosn and I will be going back again for 1 days next month too but I must return here. You are right that property matters are part of what is keeping me here.
My job ended last March as they no longer needed any staff and we all got the sack. Sad but it did give me the chance to come here and be with mother ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
life Italy's econmy is not good at all tight now and is almost as bad as Greece
Yes we were compensated but nothing makes up for not having a job.
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
26 Sep 11
Hi sj
How Are You??
Yes surely it is easy to start discussions here. And yes the most good inspiration for it is our own life. We can have lots of ideas about starting discussions from our daily life incident and surely we can share it here on mylot.
About maintaining discussion, well yes its always good to be active on our personal discussions as it is the best way to earn here. Yes sometimes its difficult to be active online but its always next day. We can come later or next day and give comments to all those responses. Nice sharing sj.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
26 Sep 11
it depends on the person who writes.
There are many people who have experienced problems and many things and so I create discussions.
There are so many things that can turn into a discussion.
sometimes it is important to have a little more fancy, or simply describe what we experienced.
everyone benefits from what you wrote.
nice day!
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
26 Sep 11
I usually get something out of everything I read in discussions. Why is it the more we read the more we can write. I suspect that left to our own thoughts we would slow down the communication to very simple process. Like being on a lost island with only a ball called Wilson.
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@conquer2012 (324)
• China
27 Sep 11
actually, some newcomers may find it hard to start a new discussion for various reasons. just take me for example, I have been a member of the Mylot though, I am not skilled to do the job through it partly because I am not familiar with the new place and without the help from others. So I think myLot is more than a work with cooperation. Therefore, we here should share our minds as well as sorrow and happiness, and the best way to encourage others or help others is to response to the person who comments on our posts and if someone commented on your post means that someone take care of you and naturally, you should response back, which maintains a polite behavior and support or acknowledgement for others.
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
27 Sep 11
Hello Conquer,
Thats what i meant.
But you will certainly know about this place.MYLOT is a good place having good people from different contries.You cannot be rude to other users here as the admin keeps on watching every respons being made by the users even users themselves can report it to admin if they find any response violating the guidelines of MYLOT.
Thats true we need to comment back to the responses as we should also care for the people who cared for us.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
26 Sep 11
I think some of the best discussions are people talking or telling a story that happened. Or possibly something they want people's opinions about. I agree that people on mylot should comment back to the responses. It is always nice to always give a best response to the person that most deserves it.
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
27 Sep 11
Hello O2,
Even i also have noticed it that the discussions which are started on knowing people's opinion gets more attention from the MYLOTTERS.
Thats true commenting back to the responses is like respecting people who respond to our discussion therefore we should always comment back to the .![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Actually my friend , it depends on the respondent. If he/she is interested into further detailing some aspects of the discussion or other related topics then he/she can do so.
But it also depends on us in some ways. We could leave them some questions in relation to their answer. And make the discussion more animated , as if you are just talking with the person face to face. ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
28 Sep 11
Thats right its all depends on the respondents and us if we want to continue the discussion or not.Sometimes people write such responses/comments that you have no choice to write further and i think its the best way to tell someone that he/she does not require further discussion on particular topic.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I will be one of the first to admit, that I love responding to discussion, but find it extremely difficult to start my own. I don't know why when I first started it was a bit easier and even then I didn't feel comfortable starting any, but now it's like I can't find nothing to discuss. My other down fall is that I don't have as much time available to dedicate to mylot, so normally I respond to my friends discussion or when I receive via e-mail the daily log I normally try to respond to those, so that I could at least put in something for the day.
But you did bring up a good point, try making discussion about something that occurred on that particular day, I will definitely consider it for the future.
Thanks for the advice!!!
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@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
28 Sep 11
I am just like you, when I create a discussion I want it to mean something and I want to be able to put my effort in responding and/or commenting back on everyone, that is just common courtesy to acknowledge others. To me that's the whole point of creating a topic.
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 11
Thats right when we start a discussion it means lot of interactions/opinions to get to some conclusion.
It won't be called a discussion just having different opinions we need to extract something out of those response by commenting more and more and discussing the topic all the time.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
28 Sep 11
Hello fab,
Thats right we need to devote lot of time when we start discussions its not that we just start discussions we need to follow up all the responses and comment back to those responses
which take lot of time.
I also prefer to respond to other's discussions if i don't find time to devote on MYLOT as this way i find it easy to connect to MYLOT.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
26 Sep 11
HAhah...my friend sjvj I not find any difficulty to start the discussion but now a days find difficulty ton find the time in our house furniture work is started so full day busy in tea, cooking, eating but no sleeping haha...I have lots of idea in my mind if I think about mylot but now no time to think about myself so no chance to think about mylot. haha....have a good night..
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
27 Sep 11
yes my friend my some discussions are appeared in mylot digest. But now days I am busy but today I got a new funny discussion after reading fanta topic so I will start after some time now going for making tea..Mostly I started here funny topic and all funny incident which is happened with my after marriage my wood work will completed till Diwali festival.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
27 Sep 11
Friend enjoy my new funny topic fun club in mylot and book the seat because seat is limited ahha...![](/Content/images/emotes/rofl.gif)
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
27 Sep 11
Hello Surekha,
I know you find it easy to start discussions.I always see your discussions more often on MYLOT and most of the time they come in to MYLOT digest.I always like to respond to your discussions as they are mostly related to our daily life things.Hope your wood work in house will get completed soon and we will be able to see your discussions then.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
27 Sep 11
hi sj, i am not so eager to start discussion but I like reading almost all topics and love to respond. May be because whatever I have started (immediately joining the site) did not generate more responses. So I am giving some time for myself to know the trend of my lot !
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
27 Sep 11
Hello Viju,
Oh friend don't think that way it happens with everyone in the starting when we are new we have lesser friends and we become old we have lot of friends to respond to our discussion.
Secondly it doesnot matter if you don't get much responses the thing is you must enjoy interacting with people.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@fantabulus (4000)
• India
26 Sep 11
hiii sjvj
This is not difficult for fanta lots of funny discussion in funny fanta's mind but time is less. So start only one discussion daily no chance for more.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
I have seen your funny topics and even though I have not been participating in them due to lack of time, I can see that you are having a whale of a time here! ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
huh?
I have a job even without an interview? ![](/Content/images/emotes/shocked.gif)
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
I can't really start a new job and then get time off for a party surely? ![](/Content/images/emotes/w00t.gif)
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
26 Sep 11
Looking back think I have seen discussions started without feedback. Some topics are posts but they are not really discussions in fact the comments that string down in a row vary without much connection to each other, except for the original starter topic.
As well I have noticed the opposite some with short little blurbs. The real discussions however I have observe often as well where several different views are presented.
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@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
hi there sjv!
i do really have a hard time starting a discussion.
but after reading your discussion i have come to think that you're right. that it's not really hard to start a discussion the problem is how to keep the discussion going.
well, i think i was just pressing myself too much of thinking of a good discussion that a lot could respond.
that's why i only had one discussion from the whole 2 weeks of stay here in mylot.
now, i am thinking of starting a discussion so that a lot could benefit from it.
thanks!
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Sep 11
That is so true. But the problem many times can be finding the time to respond back to all the discussions that you have started to keep them going. Because when you take the time to respond back that not only keeps the discussion going but helps alert others to where you are paying attention to what others are discussing on here.
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 11
Hello Tina,
yes it is difficult to continue the discussion by commenting back to the responses even i too find it difficult most of the time as you never know when you are going to get the response.But i always try to comment back to the responses as soon as i see a new response on my discussion.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
27 Sep 11
Funnily enough, its easy enough to think of potential discussion toppings. However, there are going to be a lot of times where it is going to take a bit to get the wording right. In a way where its short but introduces the topic well. The mix that is going to attract the attention of people, to get them pouring in and responding to the topic at hand.
I think that I also try and set aside a day where I can rather monitor the discussions, to respond to the various responses that are put on the discussions. To keep the discussion all nice and active, instead of it living inside a vacuum or something among those lines. It does add some interest to the discussion. Of course this plan tends to really not go as planned all of the time but its the thought that counts.
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
26 Sep 11
And one of them is me
I find it really difficult to make new discussions. It's like nothing special is happening in my life anymore LOL
That or there are times when I'm doing my things minding my own business and then this really interesting topic pops in my head and I think of starting it as discussion once I am online. But when I am online, I can't for the life of me recall what the topic was
It is annoying haha!
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@rajputash (384)
• India
26 Sep 11
Yeah i totally agree with you mate....discussions for me are difficult to start and to continue a discussion i help it by responding to the discussion but there is no response again on that topic to continue even if the discussion is concluded or not it just stops in the middle....
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@rajputash (384)
• India
27 Sep 11
Yeah i can see how this discussion is prolonging now...happy mylotting mate..
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
28 Sep 11
When I was new, I tried to start two discussions a day, and since I had few friends, it was easy to keep up with them. But later on, when I started getting 20-30 responses on some discussions, I saw that I should not start so many, because I would be so busy commenting back to responses I'd have few chances to read the discussions of others. Right now I have 148 notifications I have not opened yet today,and as I respond, the number keeps getting higher -- not lower. I haven't started a new discussion in two days now, and although I have two ideas, I'm not sure I should use them today.
My strategy is to check the emails every day for responses to comment on before doing anything else. When that's done, I start from the bottom with newly posted discussions that don't have too many responses yet. When I get high enough up that they run past a page, I go back to the top of the emails and work down. If the topic doesn't engage me, I skip that discussion and work down. If the topic already has three or more pages of responses, I might skip it because the chances are there's not much new I'll be able to add.
The hardest discussions for me to reply to are things shared from daily life that don't ask any questions. I think asking a question or two somewhere in your discussion helps people to think of responses.
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@sjvg1976 (41239)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 11
Hello Bagarad,
That happens with everyone as when we are new here we have less friends and obviously get lesser response and when we get older and get more responses it becomes difficult for us to comment back. I also noticed it.It was easy for me to handle my discussion when i was new compared to the recent time when i get lots of responses on my discussions.
Yes everytime i too when open my inbox there is flood of mylot notifications which sometimes become difficult to handle.
When i start my discussion i also find it difficult to see others discussions beacause i remain busy in commenting to response i get on my discussion.![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
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@passion3924 (121)
• United States
27 Sep 11
i started two discussions and answering the discussion does help you get your thoughts out.
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