What I want in a Man...
By Amfyre
@Amfyre (512)
Canada
September 26, 2011 11:49am CST
I think I want to much or my standard are to high... I don't know . But what I do Want is a Man that is honest, hard working, loving, kind and gentle.
By hard working I mean willing to support a family, I'm not talking millions of dollars but giving the basics, roof over head, fridge full, mowing the lawn before it's 2 feet high. Family first.
Honest...no lies. Does my rear look big in this? The Brave man...ah yeah but it's the design of the pants Honey...(lol)
I guess it's the comfort of being with someone, two people in the same house doing something different, he reading , me sewing and the voice saying Hey Honey do you want a coffee? I'm making some toast wanna share?
Baby you can't call the Transformers a chick flick! But it is the guy gets the girl in the end!!!
The simple banter between partners.
I want someone that is smart, charming, quick minded, who actually can read a book!
I also want a guy who likes to be a home, not always with the guys partying... boozing it up. Preferably a guy with a brain who can carry on a conversation.
I've been single now for almost six years... mostly by choice.((can't find anyone one that makes me go WOW)
I've never been single since I started dating at 15 years old so it's different.
I know can cook a mean stake on a BBQ (((GRILL MASTER he he he)), do many different maitenances around the house.
I think I live in a fantasy world... Where are the Good Guys?
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10 responses
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Some days I feel this exact same way. I feel there is no good guys out there and I have heard that my standards are too high. I choose to think that the character of the guys I was meeting was just to low. It doesn't seem like you are asking for too much or that what you seek is unreasonable. It's the basics. If a man can't live up to the basic stuff, work, provide, not lie, I mean really???? You don't need a man that can not do this simple stuff. Good luck in your search.
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@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Good luck. I'm sure there are good guys somewhere around so I hope you have good luck!!
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
27 Sep 11
Sorry to say but the god guys are taken, it's always the good ones that are taken or aren't interested. Life is unfair and it it may takes you ages just to find your one and only. What you just described there is one man hard to find. Everyone has their flaws and no one is perfect and in a relationship, a couple tries to overcome those flaws by being with each other. Don't worry give it some time, you'll find someone soon, just hope it won't be too long though because no one is getting any younger. 
Somewhere out there, there is a man just perfect for you! 
Somewhere out there, there is a man just perfect for you! @Amfyre (512)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
LOL right now somewhere out there is a guy digging out belly button lint and wondering where the good girls are!
Yup it's hard to find a good guy but I am patient. I am enjoying life in the mean time! And having fun. I actually bought a bike this year, haven't been on a bike in 11 years and I survived. No skinned knees. I go out and have fun. So if a man doesn't come around, that's okay too. I am not ready to take the iron out and iron the wrinkles out yet but I do hear you!
@sunli123 (538)
• China
27 Sep 11
I am not saying your standards are high. But it is not easy to find the right one as per your exact requirements. Everyone has his own personality and couldn't show all characters in short time. So you need to be patient. Give him more time and more chances, as the process you get along with him is also a process you know about yourself. We often imagine "love", love won't come exactly same as our imgaination, but it is true and beautiful. Good luck.
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@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
I don't imagen what love is, I just have a few things I expect from a mate, I want a life mate, someone to grow old with. I don't believe in "Romance type Novels" relationships need constant maitenance... kinda like a house; if you don't take the garbage out, mow the lawn and put a new coat of paint on it now and then, well the property value decreases. As like a relationship it's taken for granted and falls apart!
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@FarahJane1011 (180)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Wow! What a standard! But at least you have the standard to live by so you won't be misguided in choosing the perfect man for you. I also think that way before when I was still single, i kept on dreaming for the right man. I think i got it from the pocket books that I read, how I really love the leading man in the pocket books! ;-D
Unfortunately my dear friend, there is no perfect man in this world. Right man it is, but not perfect. You have to do your part in order for him to become your perfect man.
I could say that am so blessed with my husband, in fact I could no longer ask for more. He is not perfect in the right sense of the word, but I could say with pride that he has the qualities that a girl has been looking for. He really has some of the qualities that you mentioned. Am so lucky indeed. ;-)
Where are the good guys? they are just there, waiting for you to be recognized. ;-) Good luck my friend, hope you can find your dream man someday. Just believe and PRAY. HE will surely answer you.
@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
I am happy you found a good man. I don't expect perfection from a man, I am not perfect by any means. But I still have standards, and I honestly believe I am a good catch, I have skills and good qualities.
As for my dream man...now that doesn't exsist :O ~laughs
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@passion3924 (121)
• United States
27 Sep 11
thats not alot to ask. there are alot of men of there like that and at the end of the day thats person you want all that from maybe the person you know or mayb a friend you have had for yrs
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@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
Maybe, but I still flipping rocks over. Or I could just end up the Crazy cat lady... that would work out I got one of those Dyson vacuums so I could zap the cat hair up no prob! I would prefer a man's socks on the floor compared to the litter box. :O
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@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
26 Sep 11
It's not too much to ask, but these types of men are usually the ones that you're going to meet at work, church, and mild social functions or perhaps through a friend.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years now. He is 12 years younger than myself and it's been a long-distance relationship. We have the bantering bit down, as well as the BRUTAL honesty..and now I'm waiting for him to get through the party stage. Yaawwwwn. Feels as if it'll take forever, but really, I think he's worth it. He works full time and still makes time for me, but time for his other hobbies as well.
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@umesh9889 (201)
• India
27 Sep 11
Well everyone wants a good partner. every gal wants a great gut who is loyal to her.. n u r not a exception .. In today's world everyone has money but what man wants is happiness . love and care is what the people need in these difficult days..
@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
Umesh
to me money isn't the big ticket but you are right about money. The majority of people has much material wealth, but money doesn't buy happiness or love. I would rather have less money and have a good quality relationship. I would rather have a man work less and spend more family time with me (and kids?) To me that is important, I don't need to keep up with the "Jones and Smiths". Holding hands and going for a walk, sitting in the park or playing a game is good. Friends and a good movie, pop corn bowl over flowing. Laughing on rainy days or doing something quiet. The good stuff of life!
@baanadetto_yuki01 (71)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Well, i think everyone would like to have the same guy, the guy who can do the basics. But, with the standards you stated it's a kind of choosy but its really on the woman's list don't worry about it. I just hope that you can meet 1 of the few guys that would meet your standards, I know there is they are also looking for the same thing.^_^
@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
I think you are right, everyone would like a good partner, that is loving, kind, honest, and can do the basics whether it is a man or a woman searching for a mate. But standards sets the bar nobody wants someone that sleeps around, lies and cheats and is abusive. So to me it's okay to set the standard high but not so high no one can reach it!
