what do you do and how do you feel when you hurt someone?

Philippines
September 27, 2011 3:03am CST
i hurt someone today and i am so sad. my conscience is bothering me. it is about the girl who stay with me because her parents wanted to bring her far away from her friends who influence her and almost destroyed her life. without my knowledge, she bought a celphone last saturday. celphone is a big NO to her because she might contact her gang mates in the province. last night, i wonder why she would giggle inside the room when she was alone, and that was the time when i learned about her celphone. she told me not to tell her mom about it. but of course i have to, the mother should know about everything. and so i told the mother about it, but i kept it secret from the child, her mom told me to destroy the celphone, and so i did. while the child was asleep, i get her celphone and pour water at the back of it. this morning when i am already here at the office, my mother called and asked me if i was the one who destroy the celphone, she further told me that the child cried hard for it. and she did not even take her lunch because she was so sad. i felt bad, but it's all that i have to do to save her. do you think what i did was right? if you were at my situation, what will you do adn how would you feel about it?
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8 responses
27 Sep 11
I hurt many times my sister and my mom. If i got angry and tensed in my work i will do that kind of thing. After that i feel worry and many times asked sorry to them. But i will do rarely basically i am a soft and kind personality. I think i have done such a thing only for four or five times in my life. But i know it is not fair, when we transfer the work tension on them surely i should avoid such a thing in my future.
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
thank you for your response. yeah, sometimes, out of stress and after a hard work day, we tend to feel sensitive and easily get annoyed. reason why we tend to hurt people who are close to us. i think, we should be more sensitive on how they will feel towards us too. and it is right to control our feelings when we don't feel good. happy mylotting!
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
i would feel guilty too if i were in your place. but i would think also that i did that act to save her from whatever that might happen to her in the future. maybe i would console her after doing that and i would explain to her why i did that. in that way maybe she would understand.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
When I know I hurt someone, I will say sorry and try to mend things with that someone. I can't afford losing someone I love. We never want to hurt our loved ones. Same thing with friends...I never want to hurt any of my friends and tried my best to keep a good relationship with everyone.
@bintje (26)
• China
28 Sep 11
hurting someone you care sometimes means you care too much.You shouldn't feel too guilty as it doesn't make any sense.If you think you're wrong and had done some bad things you just need to go to her and apologize with sincerity.This is way to solve problem.Remember not to avoid things to be done.Face it. Good luck.
@Gamerfvt (20)
• Brazil
27 Sep 11
i fell bad very bad :(
• Ukraine
27 Sep 11
Infact that was too hurting. You should have first placed yourself in her situation.Fiends are friends no matter good or bad. Please try to compensate her
• India
27 Sep 11
definitely, it will hurt us, sometimes I will feel very much after I hurt someone, but it depends, it we have to hurt for good reasons, then no issues, I don't think we need to even worry about it, because we are taking care of them only and we hurt for their own good only..
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
I would rather hide the cellphone and gave it to his mom later than destroying it. Destroying things is not good specially if you done it intentionally. Karma awaits you if you do that as what my granny said. Anyway, how are you related to the girl? I think best thing to do is don't give her too much allowance to refrain her for buying something that is not good. Many teenager ruining their lives because of that gang thing. I heard news too. The boy was raped 'cause he went to his gangmates. He was upset about his mom then he left their house. After what happened the boy seek help still from his mother. He just realized how important his mother. So sad. Well, if I were you better apologize and explain why you did that. Also, tell her that people around her love her so much and doesn't want that something bad might happened to her. I'm sure she will understand.