not what i imagined..

No way..I didn't expect to be super rich, but I did expect to live in a simple home with children who have a safe place to live and invite their friends over for sleepover and get togethers. Nothing fancy, just a simple life. Instead like you, we find ourselves struggling financially just to stay above water. I also didn't expect for my husband to be in pain so often that we rarely do anything, even free stuff like go on hikes...I can only hope that I get a good job with benefits so he can retired without worry..

When I was 12 I dreamed that when I reach the age of 15 I would have very long hair until my hips, that would buy a big house for my parents, and that I would be married with a very popular singer that I liked a lot of my country. But it never happen I think that sometimes we dream, but we never know what the future have for us. In my case those were dreams of a child without base or plan so I don't care about those dreams. About your expectations what I can tell you is keep working on that, you are very young and whatever you want you can get it, just keep on working day by day for your goals.What we can do is keep working to get our goals, and never give up. "May the dreams of our past be the reality of your future"

Im 56 now and had many different plans throughout those years. Plans had changed many times but still nothing is the way i had planned. Not even to the changed plans. I even imagine a Mr. Right, only to met afew Mr Wrongs. I not living ina house i thought i would be by now. I do own a RV that im living in so i guess i can say i own my own home. But i wish i owned some land to sit it on. I guess living ina RV is ok since im single. Being single wasnt part of my plan till i turned 50. Anyway my 3 cats are better company then any of the Mr Wrongs ever were. Besides the camper the only house i think of owning anymore are the mini houses i saw on youtube. Or even the shipping container houses. I have a cleaning company i started about 10 yrs ago. I never dreamed that this many years later i would still be the only employee. I thought by now i would be driving around to check up on my employees.

Not at all chicks. Life never turns out the way we plan, the external factors playing a major role over which we have no control. But that should not stop us from making plans and having goals at the same time keeping our minds open for any events that would force us to change our path.

You are not alone. Many of us have such problems and at your age, there has to be a lot more to come. I think living in Britain has something to do with it, (Sorry if Belfast isn't exactly mainland Britain, but I don't know your politics!). There just aren't the opportunities in Britain that our teachers used to tell us about. In school we were brainwashed to believe that everything will fall into place - well it doesn't! I left Britain in 1984 and although I didn't quite find my fortune, I am much better of than I was. The thought of returning to Britain is actually quite frightening. It is sad that we have to leave our homeland to prosper, but I have met many who have done so without any regrets.

I think only several of us who live their lives as what they imagined it would be when they were young. Maybe they took a correct path or maybe they had good karma in their previous lives that it is now easy for them to achieve what they want in the life. I do not imagined I would be a secretary when I got a diploma for teaching in a senior high school... Maybe you need to take another course that you really like even though it does not have any correlation to whatever you are doing now, or however it seems so futile when what you need is to get more money... I still don't think that a secretary is what I want for my future, I am now taking courses in languages. I am still not sure what I would do with them when I mastered all the languages I am now taking... still it gives me a motivation to keep going and find something new.

Same as mine. I have always thought of what my life would be. not even close to this one i have right now. I imagined better things, better life, better relationships. I imagined i would have a perfect career; I imagined i would have a perfect relationship, happy and true. I imagined i would have a house of my own, i live on my own, and i imagined travelling... around the world, etc. I never imagined to be with someone who'd hurt me so bad; i never imagined that i would feel pain as much as i have felt it to be. I never imagined that pain and hurting is TRUE!

You and your other half experience difficult time and, despite that, all is ok or even better between you? I'm going to be short this time: what the heck do you need more? PS: I envy you. Not for she is a nice sexy lady. But because what you and her share together. Hope you got my point.

Definitely not the life i imagined. I imagined getting married at the age of 25, i got married at 26. It's a year late and it doesn't matter that much. I never thought i'd fall for a guy three years younger than me and marry him but i did. He wasn't my dream guy. In fact i wanted to marry someone who's very smart, executive looking, would be working as a CEO at a big company and would wear a suit. I imagined myself having kids and staying at home as a good mother to my kids but my life didn't turn out that way. I'm happy but not that satisfied nor contented with what i have become and what i have.

No one is in control enough to actually have their lives lived out the way they imagine it would. While we imagine the way it would be we do not also image all the thing needed to do to make it happen. Maybe things aren't played out like we imaged would be because we never imagine doing any work. Of course if you are limited in thinking, your imagination is limited also. I have completely surprised myself because I did not think that I would ever be where I am in life today. Even if I could have imagined it I most certainly would not have wanted to. Maybe if I had imagined it I would have imagined the ways to prevent it from becoming real. Although things are not how imagined, what does it say about commiting to always have the same hopes and desires?

To be honest, no, I never thought life would be this hard. It was always easy before but this year it's turning monstrous. And I don't know what has happened to my dreams. I used to always have high hopes and goals but right now everything is seeming to disappear one by one. It feels like I don't have a goal right now at all. And had thought I would meet the love of my soon but the waiting's killing me and I think I have less faith in love now. Arghhh it makes me so mad. I hope life will get better now, just hoping

Sometimes I imagined that I will be someday rich as Bill Gates or more richer than Bill Gates. :) I hope I can invent or discover something that can make me rich lol.

Well I could not imagine many things. I could not imagine that I will be disable with walking stick, asking my partner to help me with my socks. I had dreams and ambition to be active and keep going. Also I did not expect that at 31 I still will be not married and not having kids and struggling with paying my bills. But this is life and we have to adjust. I still have dreams and still try to be active as much as possible. I did not stop wanting some things and slowly I make progress to achieve my dreams. You still have time. You are only 24. Life is before you. Small steps and forward.

Same here. I did not expect my life to be like this. When I was younger, I thought I will have a very good job like a fashion designer, or I will have my own business. I did not expect to be stuck here in the office, doing some paper works. I expected to have a true love, having a very loving boyfriend/husband, being married at the age of twenty six. But no, and now my family is thinking of arrange marriage for me. No way! But I am still young, and I feel like I can still change the direction where my life is going. I will take a risk while I am still young, I hope for the better. :)

Well, there have been a lot of things happen in my life. Most of the time I never imagined myself to be where I am at right now. Even with all the BAD that has happened in my life, there are many Good things happening as well. Maybe I am not working the glamorous job that I hoped, but God has been good to be and blessed me with a wonderful husband and home. In time everything else I am a little frustrated will seem to come together more as well.

My life sure isn't what I wanted when I was in high school. I had planned to get a nursing degree and work in that field for many years. But as life happened, I didn't have the grades to go nursing and I had other problems. I wound up quitting school and had trouble finding decent jobs. I never got a real career but worked various odd jobs over the years. Now I am over 50 and still don't have a decent job but am on disability because of cancer. I never thought that would happen either. Oh well...

I can say i do love the industry I work in which is travel but, when I left school, at that time I didn't have a clue what I wanted to do and now I do know that two things I wish I had realised I would have liked to do would have been to train as a pilot which I cannot do now unless I can get my own money as because I have had debts the bank that do the training would not fund me. My other love is photography but, again I would need money to do a course and I haven't got any! Lol I love my husband though and so I guess for me it is more the moeny side that stops me from being able to do more stuff I would like. I am still young enough to change things though and so are you so I would guess things will change over time as I met my husband young and am glad I did as I have had loads of good years already together and see many more to come! : )

Hi Friend, Life has bigger things than we think. I wanted to become a Doctor but had to work to earn money to continue my studies, I had to leave science because it requires a lot of time, which I had to spend to work. And now I am working for an NGO and teaching other students. Now I am doing company secretary and wish be in a board of a Big Company. So, what is better for me, Just treating few people in a day or making plans for thousands of people? I think 2nd one is better for me. So, let life take its course.

I don't think none of us imagined the economy to take this fall the way it did, at least not in our life time. Unfortunately it has affected all of us. Most of us are out of jobs, have lower paying wages etc. I know things are difficult but you have to keep your head up and think positive in that you will overcome this part of your life and continue to be a successful person. We have to believe that this will pass. Right now we are all struggling, I never imagined that I would sign up online on pay sites, but you know what I am and every little bit helps. Look at it this way, at least you still have work, there are a lot of people who wish they were in your position, so try and be greatful for that much. For me, I am one of the lucky ones I still have my job, even though we are expected to get pay cuts again by the end of this year, I am still greatful that I have a job to come to on a daily basis. I am in the process of trying to further my education, I have a beautiful family and loving and supporting husband, so I could definitely say yes I am exactly were I imagined myself to be. Unfortunately struggling and money problems weren't in the picture, but I have what's important to me and that's all that counts.

It's not yet late. You're only 24. If you really want something, motivate yourself everyday to get that something you want. I am 19 and I felt like really old for my age and too late to reach my dreams. But there's a little part of my mind that says there's still hope to get my dream job!