have you ever asked yourself if your guy/girl y is already the one?

Many people have wondered this at a younger age, since this idea affects many parts of our lives. First, don't use financial ideas when thinking about relationships. When you invest something of yourself into a relationship and it doesn't work out, it's not like investing money into a business that fails. That part of you is not gone and your efforts are not wasted. You may have spent time with them, but you still have memories and experience and yourself, and if you split with the boyfriend on good terms, then you still have a friend. Second, there is no "ONE". The idea of "the one" is just to give both people in a relationship the idea that they have some ownership over the other person, so that they feel secure. There are many people in this world that you will meet who you have strong feelings for if you give it a chance, instead of trying to limit yourself, make a lot of friends, and love a lot of people, whether it becomes a more intimate relationship or not. Don't be afraid of "investing" time in others, and don't worry about making serious commitments. Always remember that if you do commit to someone, it is possible that it will be temporary, so enjoy your time with them, learn from your experiences, feel your sadness if it ends in the future, and then move on with the satisfaction that you gave and received everything that you could from that commitment.

You cannot really tell if he/she is the one. But of course every relationship that you're into you hope that it will last. Even if you're so much drawn in love with your partner it is better to leave something for yourself. Trust me loving so much is never easy and it hurts.

? It's very tiring and effort-wasting if you invest in the wrong one? You don't invest in the wrong one, you invest in yourself! You can stop living and wait forever till mister right shows up (which is a waste of your life) or start living and try and find out who you, are, what you want and who will fit you through all these years. Perhaps it's the boyfriend you have now, perhaps he is it for 10 years and perhaps it will be someone else later on. Life should be lived the way you think I would be happy not to be your boyfriend. With this attitude (finding a relationship very tiring and effort-wasting if you find out you invested in the wrong one) you better stay alone. Also don't make friends. You might get tired or find out they are a waste of your time and energy as well.