The news is really bad
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
September 27, 2011 11:09am CST
This discussion is not about the world news or even the local news, but personal news. Let's say one of your love ones is sick, cancer or some other deadly thing.
My first reaction is fight, I find out all I can, thank God for the Internet, and I find out what can be done. Then I start writing notes, why do I do that? This is so I will have a clear picture, if I skip this part, I just worry and play the same
thing over and over in my head. Once I have found out what I can, I am ready to face the person involved. What I do then is listen, I've been very sick and I know if people just start telling you what they think, if sounds just like mumble and doesn't help at all. If you can sit and listen maybe you can help the sick one to clear their own mind. Very often this is all you can do the first visit. If and only if asked I will tell what I think and why. The way I look at life is that none of us get out alive, we all have to die and because humans are comforted by control
the more control they have over this process the easier it will be for them. I don't know how many of you are facing this right now, but considering all the members on mylot I would guess a few. If you have had this experience or are going through this please add to this discussion. Thanks
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8 responses
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I am not sure if are you speaking in general or about yourself personally...but your words are very true. My problem with the internet is at times it scares me more than the illness..There is so much info and sometimes it isn't all accurate and so I'd rather speak to the doctor. That doesn't always work out well because time is limited.
I guess I would need a lot of resaech to cover everything thoroughly because it's easy to fall into .."a little knowledge is a dangerous thing '...
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.That's a good suggestion going straight to well known reputable sites
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
29 Sep 11
just realized we are not friends yet, I was going to try to leave you a message...
are you dealing with someone with cancer right now? I'm so sorry.
the only thing I could wish you and specially the person going through this is strenght, hope...it is not easy and I lost my aunt to this, she was the best mother I could wish for.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Sep 11
I agree that listening and simply being there whenever needed is the best gift for someone who is ill and in pain. I have not had to be the one around someone who is so sick because the closest person to me who was diagnosed with cancer was my dear mother in law and I was living too far away for her to depend on me by her side although she knew I was always a phone call away day or night.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
2 Oct 11
I have to say that you make perfect sense here. I like this post very much. It seems like to did your research and thought this out very well. I think when there is someone who is terminal, the first natural reaction is fear. And like you said, the lack of control they have. I think it is important for someone going through this to get as much information on whatever sickness it is. Knowledge is power and power is control. It is also to comfort one or to be comforted. The worst thing anyone can do is give up. Although there are people like that. One more thing, do not dwell on what sickness it is, always stay as positive as possible.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 11
Having people around to talk to during your most trying times is a comfort I think. At least it keeps the mind occupied while nursing what ever pain you experience. When I was hospitalized for a minor illness, I was so happy to see visitors visiting me in my sick bed and the happiness has helped me to recover faster than the popping of pills. We need moral support when we are down and out. Get well soon savypat. My prayers are with you.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
yes Pat, I think the ability and the patience to listen to an afflicted person or love one is an art and I think you did just right in doing your research before going there in case after he's done with letting out everything asks you what you think or suggestion you can offer, right takes a lot of self control on our part.
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