Most important people in your decisions
By lctravenisk
@lctravenisk (483)
Brazil
September 27, 2011 8:46pm CST
I was thinking about the decision that we need to take everyday. Someones are simple and affects just us, but someones affects a lot of people and have effects for a long time. Normally for these ones we asked the opinion for a lot of people.
For you, who have most influence in your decision?
Your natural family (parents, brothers, sisters...), other important people (partner, friends...) or you usually choose your own way? Thanks for response. Happy mylotting.
I change a lot of ideas with my family, friends and my fiance, but for sure, the most important opinion comes from my fiance. She thinks different from me and makes me realize somethings that I forget all the time.
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11 responses
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
Though I am glad of any advice given to e by people around me but it is seldom that I took a decision based on what they told me. I usually would battling with myself and reviewing all the facts around me before deciding something important. That way, if I made a bad decision, I would not regret it too much, because given another opportunity I may do the same.
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
Yeah. The right thing to one is not always the best choice to other. That is one of the nicest thing in mylot: we can find a lot of different opinions and the best to our life, don't you agree? Happy mylotting.
@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
I see it. I believe it is the best way to use advices. Don't take it from all, but changes it to your reality. To ignore advices is not a smart thing too, as I see it.
I don't regret my decisions too. They made me who I am now. Every good and bad choice made me learn and grow up.
And who, do you think, gives you the best advices?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
28 Sep 11
When deciding for itself I'm calm and act instantly.
but when I know that my decision may hurt someone thinking about this decision and compliance.
defer mostly with my family and my children my husband.
they are the most important thing for me and therefore comply with them before making a decision affecting all of us I think long and then say what I want.
nice day!
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
I usually don't like to act instantly. When we don't stop to think, the chance to do a bad choice is increased, as I see it.
When your decision will affect your family do you ask them about it? Or do you just think alone? Sometimes is a good thing to know what they think about, don't you think?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Sep 11
I think that the most important people in my decision making tasks are my family and friends. I don't really care too much for the opinions of people who don't matter, and this includes people who don't like me and also those people who tend to look down on the decisions that I make. I always think that those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. If you think about life in this way, then it is much easier for you to be able to see the things that are the most important to you in your life and who the people are who mean the most to you.
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
For sure. We should only care with the important people to us, but it is too difficult. A lot of time we do a bad choice just because what we think the people will think about us.
Do you always share your doubts with them or do you just think on them when you need to do a choice?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Whenever I make significant decisions in my life, I usually consider first the people who would be affected and I always go back to my principles in life. I ask around from my family, friends and associates for their opinions, but in the end, it is still me who would have to make the decision. But there is one person who affects my opinion greatly. He is my minister in faith, Bro. Eli Soriano. I value his opinion and recommendation because I believe that he understands what is right more than I can understand it.
This is a very nice discussion. All thumbs up!
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
It is a good way to deal with important decisions. Sometimes we make things without been concerned about the other who are affected too.
It is so nice you have a great person who helps you. I think a lot of people do bad choices because they don't have anybody to advise them, don't you?
Thanks. I thought about it because I had to made a lot of decisions sometime ago. Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
28 Sep 11
I will ask opinions from friends family, even the Internet lol and evaluate all the suggestions. In the end I decide because I have learned it is best to follow your own decisions and make your own mistakes.
If I choose something someone else says and they turn out to be wrong, I kick myself for going against my instincts..If I am wrong, at least I 'pay' for my mistakes..not others.
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
Nowadays we have a great source of information in the internet. We can find everything here!! hehe And when you have a lot of information, it reduces your chances to do a bad choice.
At least you just blame yourself, even when you choose an option that other person told you. Don't you feel angry when a person blame you for his mistakes? You were just trying to help, but the choices was of him.
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@naseemkum (1803)
• India
28 Sep 11
I sacrifices some of my decisions because of my sister wishes. As she is not my own sister but i love her lot. I meant to say i need her advice in all aspects in life. As i love her more so i always want to ask her about my plans if she also satisfied it would be ok. Normally my decisions are changed or interfered by my sister or my father. I dont like other peoples interfering in my business.
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
It is nice. I don't have a good relationship with my siblings, so I never changed my decisions because of them. I hope she helps you a lot more in your life and you can keep this nice relationship.
About other people interfering in our decision is a delicate situation, because normally we just trust on our restricted circle of intimates. I think it is normal for everyone, don't you?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
It is good. A partner to share our decisions is too much important, because they help us to see things in another way, that sometimes we don't see.
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@marguicha (223874)
• Chile
28 Sep 11
At this time of my life I make most of my decisions. But on some things, I ask the opinions of different people, depending on the problem. When my husband was alive, many decisions came out after we talked it over between ourselves.
@marguicha (223874)
• Chile
30 Sep 11
We each have to try. No use to think that other people are perfect and that we cannot do it. You can help, I can too. If you care, you will be making a difference.
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
I see. Sometimes we need to ask the opinion from a person who knows better an issue than us. It is always a smart thing to do.
Don't you miss your husband when you need to make a decision? About his opinions, fights and all?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
That is nice. The world needs more people like him. Nowadays almost all people don't care about the others, and that is one reason, as I see it, why we are having this amount of troubles, don't you think?
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
The most important people in my decisions are my parents and my partner. I believe that they are the best guides in my life because they always give me a good pieces of advice. I am really grateful that God gave me those people to guide me in every problems and path that I should take now and in the future to come.
@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
Nice! It is very good to know that are some people who will support and help us everytime we need. I hope you can count on them for a long time.
Can you imagine your life without them? Do you think you would be as you are now?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
28 Sep 11
I often make decisions on my own. Sometimes I tell my decision to my parents but most times not, as I know they will not agree. It is not easy to persuade them to accept my decision, like my last overseas trip. I know they were worried about me but I want to know more about this world.
@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
I see it. I think parent are programed to be worried with us all the time. It doesn't matter if you have 10 or 100 years, your parents will always be worried with you. But didn't you talk to anybody else? A friend, boyfriend... I don't know. Sometimes they can help you to get a better idea, don't you think?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
28 Sep 11
hi lctravenisk the most people in my decision is my friends, love ones , family because they are part of my decision because in my daily life they are involve :) in my decisions .
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
30 Sep 11
Ok. But in that order? Like, your friends are more important than the loved ones and in the last your family?
And if your decision will affects just you, don't you care about their opinions?
Sorry for the delay. Happy mylotting.
