Why do you think some people remain single?
By reco13
@reco13 (605)
Philippines
September 28, 2011 5:02am CST
Do you think single people really wants to be single? Well, I have friends who are single and I really do not understand why they want to be single. They haven't even tried to be in a relationship. I never wished to be single. I think this is a lonely situation. I want to grow up with someone I love and eventually have my own family who will care for me when I am already old. What do you think?
6 responses
@blink182m (182)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
Good question, there are so many reasons that a person/people remain single maybe they are the bread winner of the family, not into commitments and responsibilities, they haven't meet the right/wrong person or yet they just want it to find a perfect person but then again their are no perfect persons coz perfect persons are perfectionist..hehehe. It really depends on the person why he/she remains single they are entitled to their reasons.
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
28 Sep 11
Marriage is a room where married people want to come out and unmarried want to go in, may be this is the reason
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Hello Reco! I am turning 35 and still is single. I never wanted to be single but if God thinks that it is better this way, then i wont push myself otherwise. I too want to grow old with someone but no one has been coming my way... awwwwwww..
@siliguri (4241)
• India
28 Sep 11
I think they are the most smarter and intelligent persons on the earth who take such decisions and remain unmarried whole life, no tension and they are enjoying their life fully and i'm also thinking the same and want to remain in safer zone(unmarried) always.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Sep 11
Nowadays you are not forced anymore to get married to belong to the group. You don't need a partner (mostly women) anymore to stay alive so what is the use of getting married.
I spoke to many elderly women over here (my country) and they all said that if they could do it over again they would never get married. Why? Because they are sick and tired of taking care of everything incl. the husband.
In Africa are many single people too. Many men told me they don't get married because they are not able to take care of them selves so surely not about a wife and kids (and they also say that women prefer a man who can so if you are poor(er) you are not the first choice or dumped).
Some people like to be free, not always have to take care of others, think about what they want, need.
Without a partner your life is not pathetic at all (at least not where I live). You are free to do what you want, you don't need to make a compromise time after time, you don't need to take care of an other adult who behaves like a kid, you can have as many friends as you want. Go to bed when you want, go out when you want, you don't need to clean up the mess of someone else day in and day out. No fights, less stress and more money for you alone.
If you really think love will make you forget this all you are wrong. The way most women love a men is completely different from the way most men love a women.
They live in different worlds. If you are lucky you find someone with whom you can share a big part together, if not you will feel lonesome and miserable the biggest time of your life.
I think you should take care of yourself. Even if you find someone, if you get married there is no guarantee your partner will stay alive till you die or won't walk out of you. Also ... if you can't take care of yourself, if you are afraid of being alone, nobody else can take that feeling away from you.
Start living your own life. The fact you did not find the right one (yet) should not mean you give up on life, you can't be happy. To be happy is a decision you have to make. I have been married, I have an ex bf and I never felt so lonesome as during those miserable relationships. I am much happier now I live alone (and still happy I ended that misery it was the best thing I could do for me).
So don't think or say there are people who never even tried to find someone. That is not true. Most people have a past and there is nearly always a reason why they (choose) to stay single.
Ask yourself why you still are.