Do you think there are disadvantages in a married life?
By reco13
@reco13 (605)
Philippines
September 28, 2011 5:08am CST
Being wed is one of the highlights of one's life. For now, I cannot give any disadvantage of being married. I mean, everything can still be the same if both parties cooperate and love each other. Life can still be enjoyed together like the gimmicks, parties, etc. I am not yet wed but I know that married life is happy. However, I have friends who, after some years of marriage, regret being married. I guess, the problem is already among them... How about you. Share your views...
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13 responses
@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I love being married.
My hubby and I have been married for 11 years and have been together for a total of 15 years. He is my best friend, companion, lover and many more. Having someone to come home every night, talking with him have them listen to your thoughts and vice versa, and making a family is the best thing that has happened in my life. Having him tell you every day how much he loves you, is the best feeling for me on earth.
I personally can't find any disadvantages in being married, I love married life.
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@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
29 Sep 11
It's good to see another person who can't find disadvantages with married life. It seem marriage is the source of a ton of jokes and disrespect in today's society, and I just don't see why.
Coming home to find your love still there and waiting for you is something that gets my husband every time. He works third shift, so when he comes home, I'm usually still sleeping. He's said before that sometimes he can't believe his "gorgeous wife" is still putting up with him and waiting for him. In response to him, I never really see what all the bad things are that I have to put up with!
Reading your post made me feel like I wasn't the only crazy person who adores marriage out there. Good luck to you and your husband! ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@HellsButcher27 (473)
• United States
28 Sep 11
I am not yet married either but I don't think there are any disadvantages of marrying. Marriage is a special bond that two people that are in love can share together forever. However, It doesn't always work out that way. I know couples that are married but are having some troubles and they have split up after nearly 20 years of marriage. That just goes to show that if both people are not committed than it will never work. I am looking forward to marriage and I am very excited. Once I get married I hope to remain married to the same person for the rest of my life.
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@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
29 Sep 11
well i am the complete opposite of you. i can't see any advantage of being married. i mean, are there anything about marriage that two people in love does not already enjoy?
to me, if two person is in love, it's good enough. why must they be married to each other?
if i love my partner, i love him being married to him or not. if i stop loving him, i can't be expected to stay in the marriage because we had our vows right?
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
30 Sep 11
Yes there can be disavantages if the couple does not learn to live together. It does not matter how much you love your partner it can all change after marriage. My nephew dated his wife for 10 years before they were married. He thought he knew her well and yet they were divorced after 2 years of marriage.
The difference is that people change when they live together. When you date you are always on your best behaviour, but when you live together you see the other things that are never on display during dating.
The way to deal with this is to talk about everything and learn to compromise. There will always be things that you disagree about, the key to staying together through these are learning to compromise but that can only happen if you talk about everything. No secrets on either side.
Another problem can be cheating. Both men and women can stray and you need to work out how you would react if he did, just as he should do the same about you. I know many men who think straying for them is nothing much but would beat their wives if they caught them cheating. Some women can handle a husband straying and can realise that he can stray and still love them. Some women cannot even stand their husbands or boyfriends looking at another woman, and believe me they ALL look at other women. It is simply natural.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
Actually, there are. but it really depends upon how one is going to look at it. I look at marriage as the situation where I can say that I am finally home. Eventually. kids come, and they become the rewards. The thing is, one cannot go out and just lie down in bed with different people anymore. Then, there are so many considerations that should be taken because now, there is no individuality anymore. Now, one is connected to his family unit. I look at it as the freedom from bondage. Maybe others will look at it as a disadvantage. So, it really depends as to how one will look at it.
@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Sep 11
Of course there are some disadvantages. Such as you have to be much more responsible, namely you have to work hard and you may have to give up your dreams. You don't want to have a business trip often after you are married, especially after having children. And there can be some disagreements with your spouse about many issues.
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@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Married life has its advantages and disadvantages. A lot of people wish to be single and still live a contented and fascinating life. When you are single, you set your own limitations. You only work to make you pleased and fulfill you. You have so much independence and no limits. You don't have to fear about the ups and downs that come in. And most of all, you never have to fear about the different feelings that come about while being tangled in a relationship.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
28 Sep 11
hi reco13 i think that the disadvantages of having a married life is if you and your husband doesn't have any work to raise your children , the party will stop because you have already kids , some also are not contended because of what they have.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
i'm not married but i think people who regret being married is because they're not ready with the responsibility of married people. So i think "disadvantages of being married" is when you're not ready for the responsibility but you already married.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
29 Sep 11
well for me being married came suddenly. U see he married me bcuz he knocked me up and i was afraid hed leave me . it was something my mother told me my whole life that if i got pg the baby daddy would leave me alone. that didnt happen and we got married. we were living together before that and we were very happy of course i didnt feel like i do now sometimes, sometimes i want to lite him of fire and throw plates at him. LOL! and im sure he feels the same but bxcuz we love each other we dont do that. instead we give each other the 'silent treatment' and not talk for hours but before we go to bed we talk about whats bothering us and usually we find a solution to our problem but we dont do that alll the time. I dont regret being married at all. hes a good very good man and a great father just not a good helper around the house. i believe our age plays a huge bad role in our marrage, he 47 and im 30. he doesn't see things my and visa versa. but things could be worse. the disadvantage to being single is that one doesnt know where his 'junk' has been and it goes the other way too. there are a lot of STD's that ppl dont notice until after its too late. most can get cured but im just saying if ur married uu dont have to worry about that kind of thing, unless he/she cheats on the other....
like i know this woman who left her husband for no reason. everything was great between them and all of a sudden she served him with divorce papers. now she's gettin married again and the divorece isnt final yet. ugh! i mean what cant she do with him that she's doing with this guy? cant she have just as much fun with her husband than with her soon to be hubby??? sure there are many sacrifices one has to make but i think its well worth it in the end. as long as one compliments the other...boy/boy...girl/girl however u find love
@kristajee (12)
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28 Sep 11
Yes, i think there are advantages and disadvantages as well in a married life, especially if you are a newly wed. You gonna need to adjust everything, like waking up with someone beside you in bed(your husband or wife),sharing you toilet, preparing breakfast and leaving note or asking permission to go with friend etc. so at the beginning it will be like a disadvantage when you want to do something but maybe your partner will not agree with it or go out with your friends alone. you cannot just decide on your on now and do the things you want, you need to tell and share everything yo your partner so there will be no fight or conflict. But then if you both cooperate and agree on something then i think later you dont have any problem with your marriage. because you both know how to handle each other.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
28 Sep 11
Everything in life has advantages and disavantages, i think that everything depends on the person, if u are happy inside u can make happy the other person , i ve been married for almost 11 years and i tell u its hard in the beggining when u are addapting to the other person and knowing well that person who u decided to share your life with, ohhh yes!! , sometimes i regret to be married, but , its the same thing when i was young i thought was impossible for me to share my life with only one man , jajajaj , but , the time pass and when the kids come u feel so proud of having a family , raising your own kids making them good person for life , that feels u a lot as person, marriages are good if u know how to solve the problems that come on the way , it has to have a lot of communication, passion, love, and have to be very creative and open for the other person and viseversa.
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