It's really starting to annoy me when she says this..
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
September 28, 2011 10:56am CST
So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and we're both really happy. He started off going to college but it just wasn't for him so now he's probably going to go into the military. In the meantime, he works his butt off at 2 jobs so he can pay his bills.
My parents seem to like him. He's nice to them and me, he's good to me, and he's not a jerk like most of the guys my age. But what really bugs me is that when my mom and I are together she'll throw in little comments like "Oh, you should hang out at your school's library and maybe you can meet someone who's going to be a doctor or a lawyer". She seems to do this a lot and it really bothers me. My boyfriend and I are happy together and I'm not looking to cheat on him or end our relationship for someone else. I love him just the way he is and I'm proud of him no matter what he does so I usually just ignore her when she says stupid things like that.
I don't tell my boyfriend this because I don't want him to feel bad or have bad feelings towards my mom. I just wish my mom would stop saying these things to me because it's a little hurtful to me and I'm sure it would definitely hurt my boyfriend's feelings.
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5 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Sep 11
Next time your mother starts this discussion again you look her in the eyes, you say: I agree with you. I would love to get married with a doctor or lawyer but the thing is I don't love them and they don't love me. I consider myself very lucky that I found a great guy who loves me like a love him and who is willing to work hard to pay of his bills. I am very proud of him and I know you are too.
Then give her a big hug and leave the room :-D
Believe me this is not worth to fight about. Cherish what you have as long as you can and don't let family, friends ruin your great relationship. It's great to be rich but it's worthless if you don't love eachother. You two do love eachother and are happy with the life you have together. Keep it that way!
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@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
28 Sep 11
Thank you for your answer :) I think that the next time she says something like this, I'll say something and talk to her about it. I can't help who I fall in love with and I've never actually thought about what career the love of my life would have...because honestly, it doesn't matter. Being in the military is an honorable thing to do and I think I'll always admire him for that. Afterwards, he wants to become a police officer, another admirable career. Trust me, I'm not going to let anyone come between me and him because he means the absolute world to me and I'm not losing him over anything. Thank you for your encouragement :)
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
I have seen that too with my aunt. She has always been bugging my cousin about finding someone 'better'. Heck, there was even a time in her birthday (my cousin) when in front of everyone she wished her great happiness, finding someone who's successful to take care of her, etc. It was really a relief that the boyfriend came late, else it would certainly be awkward.
Anyhow, I don't blame your mom for doing so. She just wants you to be with a stable person who is able to support your and perhaps support a family one day.
Eventually, the aunt stopped when she saw that the guy had direction. He was not working double jobs and still is able to spend time with her and the family. He loves cooking and cooks a lot of nice meals for them and has opened a business on food.
I think my aunt just wanted to see if the guy will be good for my cousin and not just for display. Moms have their reasons. You shouldn't undermine their wisdom.
Have a great MyLot experience!
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@00fear (3216)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I would tell her if there was a time that he made her feel like this. Maybe, he hurts her or anyone behind people's back, who knows. Or maybe there's something in his personality she hates about him. I would ask her why. I mean wow, working 2...2 jobs and going (or thinking) to the military? She probably found out something about him that no one never knew (or knows). Things happen for a reason, so she must have a good reason why she hates him.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
29 Sep 11
Yes, I think she just wants me to be with someone who's good for me. But she's not the one that spends all the time with him. I do and I can see how amazing he is and how much he wants to be together in the future.
I'm sure your parents could see how happy you were with your husband. It's very sad that he had a heart attack :( But I'm sure you two had 33 wonderful years together
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@00fear (3216)
• United States
30 Sep 11
Oh, its okay. No wonder I didn't get it... I was like "whaaa-? Haha. But good thing I read the first post. If that's the case then, I wouldn't go with someone who I really don't want to be with...no matter how much richer or if he is Bill Gate's daughter (im a guys) haha jk, but really, just someone who can make you laugh and treats you right, its all the what really matters.
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@mhelsdelacruz (160)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
hello there are mothers who are like that all they want is the best for their children . .just tell your mother, mom thank you for that suggestion but i love my boyfriend so much and i don't want to cheat or leave my boyfriend . .
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