What's the feeling?
By Jenith
@Jenith (1381)
Philippines
September 28, 2011 11:12am CST
Do you guys have this hurt feelings deep inside every time you responded to someone's topic and the one who started it responded all the comments except yours?
I don't know but sometimes I felt this way. I always check it from time to time hoping that he/she will respond to my comment.
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10 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Sep 11
If the same person continually ignored my response then I would think that there was an issue. I can't say I would feel hurt if someone did not comment back, but if it were a constant situation, where I was the only one not commented back to continuously then I would have to refrain from posting to the members topics in the future. I don't generally post for the sake of posting, so if my humble advice/response is not wanted or appreciated then I suppose there would be no reason to torture myself.
I would hope that anyone who had an issue with me, would at least say something, however we are speaking about people in general, so no way really to know what is going on unless they say so.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Sep 11
hi ro3249 I think she is saying that she was skipped over on purpose and I am su re her response was just as good as any one
elses. some people here have ev en said they do not comment on all responses and to me this will leave the left out ones wondering
why they were skipped over, you seem to be missing the point. I know when I comment back I do not intentionally ever skip anyone so I may have to finish commenting back on the next day but I do not ever purposely leave anyone out.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Thank you guys for your response I've been so busy nowadays. Anyway, I really don't know if it was skipped on purpose 'cause I don't know anyone here. Maybe then my idea doesn't caught his/her attention. Well, I just share my feelings. It's not that easy. Maybe I'm just too sensitive.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Sep 11
hi Jenith I think a lot of us feel that way. its as if all the other responses seemed better to the discussion maker then mine and I feel hurt and left out.I try not ot do that when I comment back as nobody should be made to think his or her response was no good. I feel a niggling little feeling that poster did not like my response or feel it was good enough to even comment on.Kindness and compassion should be utmost on the mind of the poster, and not let some responses go at all. we all deserve
to be commented on here in mylot. whether we agree or not with the responder he or she need a comment from us
and a civil one too.
to be commented on here in mylot. whether we agree or not with the responder he or she need a comment from us
and a civil one too.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Sep 11
Yes if it is a constant skipping that would give me an idea that something was not right. I can understand maybe not having anything to comment back with once in a while, but if I was the only one not commented to then I would certainly feel like something was not right between us, unknowingly to me. 
It is courtesy to comment back, is my thought as well. I can't imagine being in a group of people offline and my saying something and everyone go about their own back and forth discussing that would make me feel out of sorts, so it applies here too, is my thoughts.
It is courtesy to comment back, is my thought as well. I can't imagine being in a group of people offline and my saying something and everyone go about their own back and forth discussing that would make me feel out of sorts, so it applies here too, is my thoughts.2 people like this
@lampar (7584)
• United States
29 Sep 11
Yes, it hurt my feeling especially if he/she is my friend. In that case, i always think that may be there is something wrong in my comment, that make him/her ignore me, probably i am not welcome in the discussion, so i will try my best to avoid posting my comment next time in whatever discussion under this member, there are some mylot members who can get really angry and unhappy when i disagree with his opinion, some will just lash out, other just ignore me sometime and put me aside in his discussion like the situation you mentioned above. I can understand why you felt that way, it is quite odd everyone got respond back except your comment, it doesn't make sense at all. 
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Well, I do the opposite like you know I love someone who disagree my opinion/topic it broaden my mind and think all over again and have a great discussion at the end. In fact, I don't like friends who are afraid to say the reality in you. Sometimes I need to think twice if they really my friends. How can they may be my friends if they can't help me or just letting me roam around the bush!
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
29 Sep 11
Honestly it does not bother me. If I really gave it some thought I guess I could feel bad but I have a hard enough time keeping up with all the topics that I am able to answer so I don't dwell on anything that goes unanswered. I do not believe people do it on purpose. I choose to see it as an unintentional oversight and if someone actually does do it on purpose, I would never know. I just keep moving right on to the next topic.
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@allknowing (137781)
• India
29 Sep 11
This happens to some of us but with time one gets used to it. If everyone stopped commenting on your responses then it is surely a matter for concern but I don't think that is the case with you. If you find a particular user doing this to you repeatedly then you can stop responding to the topics posted by this user. There is plenty of fish in the ocean - have a pick! 
@allknowing (137781)
• India
4 Oct 11
You also seem to follow in their footsteps. It is 5 days and you have still not commented on my response!
@allknowing (137781)
• India
4 Oct 11
I am happy to see you in my box Jenith and that your son is better now.
@dfollin (25381)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I too check ones,especially the ones that I know I have written a good response to or is of a very interesting topic.I think what I said was not good enough for even a response.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
I observe that sometimes when I comment mine was skipped 'cause I do have have more similar comments with the other mylotter in the later part. Well, it's just fine if the case is like that it didn't bothers me at all but if I got a very long reply 'cause I can relate to the topic and it's so interesting and only to find out that it has no response at all. Maybe he has having a hard time reading my comment. What do you think?
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
Hello jenith, YOu have to be more careful on what you say. because your words may not be offensive but he or he might misinterpreted it. but in your case, i have this experience as a lotter, some people tend to be more choosy with the responses in their discussion. my advice here is to try not to be too sensitive about it, ok?
it's their choice and there's nothing we can do about it.
YOu have to be more careful on what you say. because your words may not be offensive but he or he might misinterpreted it. but in your case, i have this experience as a lotter, some people tend to be more choosy with the responses in their discussion. my advice here is to try not to be too sensitive about it, ok? it's their choice and there's nothing we can do about it.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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29 Sep 11
i do dislike it.. and i feel like ugh whats the point in commenting if no1 reads it.. but remember, some times people don't always get their notifications! the other day i went onto a discussion and i had replied to every notification that i got emailed.. and there were 2 extra comments on it that i hadn't got emailed! .. so don't take it too personally :)
