The good wife

I think that a lot of married people tend to have disagreements, however sometimes it seems harder for people to calm down or back down to make things better.My husband works really hard as well, also has to look after the house as well as the children and me, sometimes men are tired or stressed, but will never admit to it, so they have to release their stress on us women.How about trying to have a time when there are just you and him and cook a meal, get a dvd to watch and a few drinks and have an early night.Leave silly notes, as you will find that is another way of brightening their day up as well.

I am definitely not the one to give you advice about this. I have been dating my boyfriend for more than 2 years now and we are currently on a break. I could not keep a guy if my life depended on it. I am just glad that we are giving it another go. I am sure it is not only me but I would love to have a husband to be a wife to.

Hi Jodylee.. you seem such a blessing to your husband to care for him. In today's world husband and wife don't have time for each other many of them are busy either in office work or busy in some household routine. To make things special and make your husband realize your perfectness as the first response of the friend said make things special when you guys were boyfriend and girlfriend. Things that made your Husband happy before your marriage little things like going on a date or a movie, making his favorite food such things will boost your husband's mind and bring inflow of love thoughts towards you. Iam sure you will succeed. Cause love shows a lot to your husband.

This is some of the ideas I read from an article : Making your husband feel "apreciated as a husband" includs some more things than what is said so far. It's an attitude of being the second priority. Like in a bussiness , there is only one person who makes the decisions. If you have a good idea , don't bring it up directly , make it happen like it came from your husband's mind. When you are the one who actually thought about the idea. Don't try to earn money for yourself to be independant someday , it is like you want to be independant from the husband. Don't make your husband opinion sound stupid or delegitimate his rules. Saying "I told you so" is not good. Don't try to make the kids love you more than him , making you sort of a leader when the husband is the leader. Ohh , and keep him feel like he is the man , he wears the pants. I hope I don't sound shovinist but it does sound like that. I am a gentle person and a feminist .I give the woman respect and try to be her friend first of all and understand her. But , so far I didn't have a girlfriend for long enaugh to see if it works. There must be a disscussion about what is the best husband that is still attractive as a male for it's woman...

i often feel that way in my relationship with my boyfriend the way we usually rectify things is to go out on a date just like we did when we first met we get a baby sitter for the kids and go out and just have fun it feels like we are young again and helps to remind us how lucky we are to have each other but sometimes no matter what i do it is like he is always depressed sometimes it is just better to back off and let him sort his thoughts out himself

well make her a sandwich !! nah just kidding just be yourself, dont pretend to be someone you're not. in that way he will love you more than you expected. Act naturally and and be caring so that he always know that you are always there for him

Hiya jodylee, Most of the things that I would suggest have been written already. Things like sending him a text Message telling how much you still love him with a nice background on the message. Another one is doing his favourite Meals as a surprise again these are things that have been written here before me. But there are other things that you can do as well it all depends on each Couple I think. You can get to feel like you are stuck in the rat race I have felt like that here as well not being in my own Country does not help sometimes but I have to work through it and not let it interfere in our relationship if I can help it. There really is not a perfect Wife just a Wife that does all she can at least trying proves that even if you do not like me get everything right all the time.xxx

I read the responses above and are similar to what I thought to suggest as well. Apparently you and he do not have any issues and you just want to make some additional you and he alone time. Which is great all couples need this from time to time. Aside from any of the above already mentioned, buy him a nice card, then on paper and pen stick in nice letter letting him know how much you appreciate your marriage and point out how wonderful your life has been since you and he married. I would say stick the card in bed while he climbs in first and perhaps you are still bathing and or cleaning up the kitchen. This will give him an idea of how wonderful you feel he is. Most people don't write anymore and with life being so busy sometimes they do not hear the wonderful words when spoken to and a nice letter would allow him to re-read it more then once and see how great a life you and he actually have.

hi jodylee We are in different country so we have different Coulter. Being a man I can explain what I want to my wife . I want when I came to office she meet me with smiling face. She take care of my home and my children. We feel bored to do daily work So we should try to do some thing diffrent like and also want to co operation form my partner.

dont change. well...unless u have bad habits that need changeing like drinking too much cheating on different men that kind of thing. but be the person he married. u know, the little things matters most to most ppl...do something little like take the trash out or write him a little love note and stick it in his pocket before he leaves the house...or just ask him if there is one thing he's want u to do what would it be. my hubby told me that he wants more....room time lol! he wants to do it more everywhere. im always tire bcuz he doesnt help with the chores, i havent told him..i want him to figure that out for himself!

Well I am not married but I still face this kind of situation. Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. He stays busy a lot and we don't talk much the whole day but he does message me once or twice throughout the day (or someday we talk a bit more when he has free time). At times, he doesn't show up for a day whole. I get freaked out over here and get all horrific thoughts. And the next day I fight with him. But he stays very calm throughout and always manages to calm me down too. Last time he told me "You don't have to feel insecure ever. I am with you". This gave me sooooo much relief. Yes, I still fight with him (just to hear him say cute things) but at the back of my mind I know that THIS is the person for me and he will never leave. My boyfriend is not the romantic type of guy(at least online). And everytime I fight with him he says sorry. That makes me really sad. So I have decided that even if we fight I'm not letting him say sorry. My advice to you will be, if you guys end up fighting (since you both live together this will work) the next day while he leaves for work just slip into his wallet a romantic message and say a cute sorry. Or you can pack him his lunch and within the lunch bag you can slip in a note. If you guys are not much into texting, then I would say while he would be out just send him a cute apology and love message. Time to time make him feel wanted. That really helps.