FEEL BAD About Office and Home :(

Get out of there. That is stressful my friend. Well, can't you take a break for a week? for a few days? You needed that i guess. Sometimes no matter how tough we try to be, we have limitations and if you feel that you are already choked then remove yourself from that situation. Or take your wife out and be alone with her...she should not be adding stress to you, you and her should be partners right? you both must give each other comfort.. i made mistakes that way before where i would also act stressed and angry at home because i am stressed not knowing i am neglecting my husbands needs like comforting him too..but i later on realized i need to be his comfort and strength not the opposite. ( Thats why we hired a nanny so we could go out and have fun too )

Hello neildc, That is humanity, nature and the way we live. we have so much differences that it takes really great deal of time to sort it out no matter how much we are stressful seeing such. these are different heads banging on each other. and you witness family problems and usual discipling day for zayzay, but think about it, he's no longer terribly sick and happy doing what he wants. i hope none of your family members are sick. Just remember the bright side that you're problem was a lot WORSE last year compare in the recent days. i hope that you get used to these problems as you encounter them every time. and probably test the level of your maturity on how to handle these things. I know am not that mature as you are, but i know for sure, you will surpass it and laughed at it some day when you're life is getting better. don't let these events demotivate you.

You have control over your environment. If your home life is such that you don't feel good about it-CHANGE IT!! If your work place is less than perfect-CHANGE IT!! You have the control. You are the only one that can change your situation. If you don't know how find out. It is up to you!

hello neil, At least you can burst and vent out your feelings here. Mylot is the place for you my dear brother. Here you can write your feelings and emotions and no one will debate with you (hahaha) no wife no boss no officemates to hear you...opppsss? no officemates? hahaha.

Those are usual scenarios of daily lives. When I am still living with my parents and siblings, I always heard the yelling of my mother to my youngest brother and quarreling of my older brother and my younger sister. When Im at the office, I also heard those non sense issues between my co-workers. Sometimes I just wanted to walk away and leave a peaceful life but I know that I will miss this kind of scenes.

That's so sad to hear, unfortunately, it's a fact of life and we do have to deal with it everyday. For your kids, they will grow out of it one day, for your boss, well, someone will resign or die one day, which ever comes first . You have to learn how to ignore these. Maybe put on your earphones and play some relaxing music?

We cannot always choose the place where we will be, but we can always choose the relationship and work on it. I mean, i could tell you to leave the work and find something better with workmates who does not stress each other out.. but we cannot always tell what to expect wherever we go. there is nothing we can do to make people live harmoniously it is their choice too.. but we can always choose how to react, and there is no need for you to let yourself be stressed as much. ;)

I feel bad about you Neil, i am really wishing you find a harmonious relationship ahead. I only stay at home and at home, there are lots of noise coming from everywhere, from the pets, from my father, from the neighbor. I guess that is your life Neil, you can control the noise from home, you can talk to your wife, but you can never do anything about the two bosses at work, or if they are open for your opinion they will do so, so that you can solve little by little your problem about noise. Just my opinion. AT home, I can never do anything for my father's scream to us whenever he is angry, because he have illness and that is his outlet just to let it out what he feels inside.

To me it sounds like you need a vacation, a nice little day trip if nothing else. Something that can relax you and your family. The coworkers who are constantly quarreling need the same thing. I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it's the most stressful thing, not having relief at home either. I hope things get better for you.

I can relate to the feeling that it all seems too much at times! Whether this is an ongoing problem that needs serious attention or whether all you need is a well-deserved break is up to you. You have been through a lot with Zay and on top of everyday life stress it may be that you need a holiday of some kind. I don’t know if that would be possible for you but you do need a break even if it is only for a couple of days at least.

Maybe earplugs would help dear Try bringing Zay out of the house sometime. Maybe bring him to a park where he can use up all his pent up energy then he will no longer be mischievous at home. I'm sure your wife doesn't enjoy reprimanding him all the time too. I don't have any suggestions about your dilemma in the office though.

Poor Neil, come here and i'll give you one! Just kidding. It only shows how exciting your life is no matter how annoying it might sound, if it would be gone, you're still gonna miss that kind of life anyway. Believe me! My mom and dad used to fight a lot and they really shout at each other so loudly the whole neighborhood would wake up in the middle of then night. It droves us crazy sometimes to see our parents fight like that, but we miss it now that we couldn't hear them fighting. So neil, just bear with it. Soon there will be silence and probably you'll say: silence is defeaning!

I think you need to unwind and have some peace by yourself alone. Go somewhere, for us girls we love to go the mall or salon to unwind. MAYBE, you can have a good massage. Why don't you and your wife have a date and relax? I think both of you are burdened by the fast pacing situation in our life. Sometimes, we really feel so annoyed and wanted to stop the clock and just sit and relax. Life is short, take time to enjoy and smile.

Aww my heart goes for you... It must've been difficult! You're stressed enough at work and when you go home, of course you would want some quiet time, but then you are still unable to get it :( My office is quite nice. My team's great though some bosses are really difficult to get along with. But then, my house's always noisy. My mom would bicker and argue with my aunt and it's an endless cycle to the point that neighbors would even peek in and check what's the noise about. I tried talking to them, I tried telling them it's embarrassing, I tried telling them that I want some peace and quiet at home but they never listen. That's why I tend to go home late and go out on weekends. Just to avoid the noise inside my house :P Good luck on your office and home life. I hope you can get your peace and quiet soon :)

Harmonious relationship maybe exist when one of the couple will just walk away and keep his or her mouth shut! lol! just kidding! That is an environment full of life, it will be boring when you will not hear your wife's voice! lol!

Hi Neildc what you are in is in the same with my hubby position. i understand that he is tired with his office stuffs but sometimes i just can't hep my self to not out my voice when i see our kids fighting

Seems that's somewhat a tiring place to stay but all I can suggest in terms of your wife's situation is to bring her out in a very romantic date or have a family trip so you can get along well with them and to create an understanding relationship with your wife. Well, when your kids grow up they will get mature enough and your house will surely be a peaceful place to stay with. In terms of office all I can say is just ignore them you can't do any and don't attempt to get involved lol..^_^ just take it easy so you won't get very stress...^_^