well t's official. i am now fat and disgusting :(

I would tell him that you were hurt by his remarks. If you want to keep your husband, you have to learn to live together without hurting each other. I think you can diet, but it´s a lot more difficult if your loved one is not supporting you.

I know how that feels. My husband also told me that I'm fat, and also not in the encouraging way. It was hurtful and depressing, as if they didn't think that your pregnancy was one of the factors why you gained weight. Then again, being overweight does have its consequences healthwise, so I'm trying to curb the appetite and lose weight. But I'm doing it for myself and not specifically to please my husband. It will not do us well to dwell on our depression, we need to fight it for our well being.

Perhaps if its something that you want overall, then you should be going for it. It would hurt you, but it's a reminder of what you should be doing to keep yourself more in shape. How would you feel if you never did anything to keep in shape, as your weight and size kept going up over years and years? Everyone is different in their views of whats good and whats bad, and there's a good chance that, even though he called you "fat", directly, he was probably just trying to inform you of what he was seeing, rather then making any kind of insult to you.

Well, your husband was a bit harsh on you. But yeah, I guess now you can start taking care of yourself a bit more. If your husband works out and stays fit, why don't you join him on his daily routine? Call up a girlfriend who goes to gym and join up with her. And don't EVER think that just cause you're married and that "part" is "done" where you try to look good for your partner. Always try to look good for your husband and be good to him. Do things for him, if you really love him that much to marry him at such a young age, you should try a lot harder to look the age too. I don't agree to what another mylotter said above, how you should point out something about him, though. He said what he said, it doesn't mean you should be like him too. Feed yourself with the good intention of what he said, and work the hell out. Make a garden or try re arranging your furniture every week or two. Get a dog and walk the dog along with your husband. When you eat meat, put more vegetables in your plate too. If you're hungry all the time, keep fresh carrot strips and salsa in the fridge to dip and munch. When you keep doing all these things that you enjoy, YOU KNOW YOU WILL LOOK AND FEEL BETTER ABOUT IT! Then you can flaunt your hot bod in your bedroom in front of your husband and make him say "OMG! You're looking better than ever!" Good Luck!

Getting depressed and crying,will make you feel even worst!.I know,I did that. The only thing to do is to figure out what did you change in your habits,and try to correct it,so you can regain your previous shape and confidence! If he cares for you he will help,may be he was just stupid and did not know how to bring the subject up.In any case it is for yourself that you want to do this not for anybody else.And at your age it is easier to loose the excess weight,the older you get the harder it is.So try to eat healthy in moderation(do not starve yourself-it does not work) and be active! walk, run,dance,go to the gym,whatever you prefer but get moving! Good luck! And show him !!!!

Hi. :-) Here's a hug for you and get some water. I do understand how you feel as it does hurt to hear something like that from the one you love and trust; been there. Sometimes I am receptive to his 'Shoot from the hip' style and sometimes I need things said in a different way. Can you tell him how this made you feel and to perhaps rephrase it in a better way? Is he usually supportive in your activities? Ok--first, look at your diet and see if there is anything that you can change that won't send anyone to the hospital. Can you cut down on the sugar or change it to something better? Do you walk or jog a lot? Do you lift weights? What has worked before? Try working out at home; library or perhaps on TV. Diet and moving around do help--you just need to learn to say no to some things and stick with it. I know that isn't easy but it's worth it and believe me, it'll show. Be prepared for some trial and error though. Hang in there!

men do usually observe women get weight after marriage specially during and after pregnancy,,there are some factors to consider why married women get weight extra as we call it..these are over indulgence to food and sweets, stress which makes women to indulge in uncontrolled eating as a way out. sometimes being left at home and found nothing to do will make you sleep more thanwhat the body requires and therefore become sedentary which also contribute to the problem of gaining weight...well may i suggest that its just a matter of 15 to 30 minutes of exercise and you'll burn those fats out..dont just cry do something ,men do love their wife being sexy or a big fat lady

Next time, be prepared. Take a leaf out of Winston Churchill's book: "I may be getting fat but you're ugly. And at least I can go on a diet." Alternatively, tell him where to stick it. It's none of his business what you do with your body: he doesn't own you. Ask him where his 6-pack abs are. Why is his butt so flabby? What's with the hair growing out of his nose? People (men or women) who judge by appearances deserve a good mental slapping.

That was not very nice of him to do. He must realize how hurt you were afterwards. Did he try to apologize?

Aww that really sucks :-( Sorry to hear that. Have you ever done pilates? I got an excellent video from youtube it's a full-bodied workout in 20 minutes, great for resistance training and muscle toning. Don't worry it's for beginners :-) hehe My hubby's the same way, he doesn't like fat women either. I'm overweight but not obese, and he sees that I'm trying to lose weight

It's ok...if I were you I'd tell my husband how much he hurt me and ask him why he even said something like that knowing he would hurt me. You're not ugly and you're not disgusting...the only woman who are ugly are the ones who think they are...if you are fat then you can always diet and get back in shape again..G'luck I know you can!!! :)