online friends...true or fake???
By carolin1e
@carolin1e (97)
September 29, 2011 9:59am CST
Hi everybody !!
I was thinking all the time about the importance of friends in our lives,about how helpful they are and about how unfaithful they could be ..i was saying:are my friends really good enough to trust them? or they are just another kind of hurt and pain ?.
so ,let's be honnest, let's have a look around us and let's open our eyes ...to see the truth ...the inacceptable truth!! FRIENDS are a big scam in this life!!
they get closer and closer until they get what they want !
and as a pure example , i'll show my own experience with friends :i passed by 20 BBF in my life ,and none was the one the love,respect,hold or even care about ,so i decided to search a friend from another kind !friend who can see me i as am and encourage me and give that strong push to struggle life's obstacles, so i've tried online friendship , so i found a girl called sayaa,from japan , the weird thing ,is that she was completly different :another culture ,languge,atittudes,toughs..BUT she listened to me, she gived me the power and the hope to face life!!
she was like a sister not only a friend !!
so what about you ? what do you prefer real friends or online ones?
don't hesitate to share your opinionand exeperience with us friends!!
and have a nice
8 responses
@cowgirl03051979 (918)
• United States
29 Sep 11
this is a hard question and i dont think anyone could give an exact answer because it would be different for everyone personally i do not believe in making friends online i would rather stick to the old fashioned traditional way of making friends face to face meeting friends online you cannot tell what kind of vibe they are giving off and it is hard to follow your gut instinct you just have to be cautious meeting people online
@carolin1e (97)
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1 Oct 11
hi cowgirl!!
yes it's hard to answer ,but it' hard to find good friends too ,online or offline ,and i repect your desire to have friends meeting them face to face , yes it's nice to be carreful!!
thank you
have a nice day!
@kawaiineko (117)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
well, i cant say all the real friends just give us pain..or all the friend we get from cyber are fake...it depend with the person/individu....
i do have bad friend in real too...but i also have got a really really best friend
and i get really really annoying friend from cyber...that just only looking for having fun...and treat us like fake person...but i have got alot wonderfull friends from here to...and being best friend till know..helping each others..listening each other...and care each others...we even met each other in real world...and become more close...
so thats way i keep looking friend from cyber...hope i get a real best friend more and more....
@carolin1e (97)
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1 Oct 11
hi kawaiineko!!
it's pretty amazing that you take things that easy :! and that you aprove that you have bad and annoying friends,and i like the fact of you reasearch for good friends too, so keep it up ,!
thank you for your respond !
have a nice day!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
I am a friendly one and i like friends online and most especially real friends in live i mean. I can say that not all online friends are really care to us some are gather some information only and something that they could get from you once you are closed with them and they really grabbed all things from you. Then right after she ot he will leave you. Some of my friends are really thoughtful and really true friends. Mostly friends here in mylot are friendly in the sense that they will help you if you have problems like giving you an advice. We cannot tell if our friends are fake or real unless we are not in danger or in deepest situation of need help. We can see them in the real situation of our needs in life. If we have no one to hold onto, and we are in danger. Of course online friends are different they are only can see if they on their computers and also if we online too, some are true and some are not. IT depends on how you communicate and level of friendship. But others are real.
@carolin1e (97)
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1 Oct 11
hi mods!!
the most thing i like about your participation is when you said :"we cannot tell if our friend are fake or real ....we can see them in the real situation of our needs in life" . then ,yes , you are right , true friends appear when we eally need them to be by our side !
thank you for being here !
have a nice day
@icats64 (43)
• United States
29 Sep 11
First we have to define friends and aquaintances. Friends are people whom you talk to, hang out with a lot. Friends are people you can trust with your life and people in your life. They can keep your secrets and be there through good times and bad times. Aquaintances are people you talk to and see them once in awhile. Though you may trust them, you are not always connected to them. Basically, I consider everyone acquaintances. Though on social networks, they will have the label as friends but seriously, they are people we will connect with off and on. I'm on a Facebook to mainly keep connected with my family and I do have acquaintances (friends) on there. I don't care if they are true or fake because I don't talk to them all the time or hang out with them. We need to understand the difference between the two and come to an understanding who is a true friend and whom isn't. Even true friends can be fake.
@carolin1e (97)
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29 Sep 11
hi icats!!
in first place i want to thank you for your respond!
I can say that you are right in all what you talked about but i wrote the word friend in the title of this discussion , i did mean it with all the sens of the word!!!
i mean that those friends that you love , hang out with, trust, respect,see al the time , meet everywhere ...could be fake and unfaithful ,
so ,yes it's good to make the difference between true friend and fake ones (aquaintances as you said) ,but this can not hide the fact that true friends (or friends that we think that they are true )can hurt , cheat and make you feel alone even if they are right there with you ! wish you get my point !
have a nice day friend!
@naseemkum (1803)
• India
29 Sep 11
Yes same like u that i didnt gain anything from my real friends. As they are in high position that they are ready to face me in their busy schedule. But i meet some online friends face to face and they behave that they are friend to me for long long years. As i feel its easy and new friends attracted towards in online wil be best friends forever. I too make recharges for my some online friends but still i didnt had mind to make it for my real friends.
@carolin1e (97)
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29 Sep 11
hi nassem ,!
first of all: thankx for the fast respond !
i just wanted to say that is really good to feel that they are some other people who got the same feeling as me , and see that they share my same issues ;
and i wanted to tell you , don't ever feel bad about bad friends ...they don't even worth thinking about them !
have a nice day sir
@fragranceofrose (27)
• Pakistan
29 Sep 11
Hy Buddy! friendship is a really true relationship, but now-a-days it is being used to get everyone's personal purpose, but but but true friends are not finished yet, i have true friends who take care of me, and they know about me more then myself, they always think about me, they help me in any trouble without asking them. My friends are lovely and candid to me. They always give me easy way and they teach me how to be successful in life. these are real friends, and yes of course online friends are also loving and true, i have a friend he is like my brother, i have never seen one another but we love each other like sisters and brothers, he gave me a path to follow when i was completely alone and had no way to go through.
so the moral of the story is... that important thing for the friendship is true and sincere feelings about friend, but not a fraud. online or offline friendship has no difference if it is purely true.
@carolin1e (97)
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1 Oct 11
hi fragranceofrose!
how lucky you are :)! i wish i had that much friends as you have !! so love love love them and take care of them , they are a real treasure !!
and i can't agree more about what you said, it's completly true , and yes as you said :no matter if the friends are online or offline , the important thing is sincire feeling and love , thnx you for your resopond !
have a nice day friend!
@GemmaR (8517)
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30 Sep 11
I think that there are a mixture of true and fake people online, but the sad thing is that there is no way that you are able to tell whether they're fake until it's far too late and you've arranged to meet up with them in person or something like that. You have to be so careful, because there isn't really a way to tell if people are lying about who they are, because obviously you can't see them behind a computer screen. You should always be careful when meeting up with people, and make sure that you take a friend with you just incase.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
I'm sorry for you having such loser friends.
I have a lot of best friends and I will trust them my life. Lucky for me, I know I found true friends in them. They listen to me, stays by my side and we don't keep secrets from each other but we don't use these secrets to threaten each other. Well, I guess, not yet.
And I don't agree that they are scams. Maybe there's nothing wrong with them. Maybe the problem is within you. Try assessing yourself then.
Online friends are just fine. Friends are friends, anyway. Wherever they came from. A dog can be your friend. Or your blog. Or your diary. And I think your new friend Sayaa is such a good person. Don't compare your experiences with people before to her. As you already said it, she is different, right? Maybe she is the BFF you've been wishing all your life. Be thankful you have her. :)
