would you let your partner work overseas?

Philippines
September 29, 2011 4:37pm CST
working in other countries looks like a much greener pasture to earn money for your family, sometimes if it takes a great deal of sacrifice the wife or the husband ventures to work far from their families..these setup doesn't come so easy as it seems for this things does have its own setback..and there are actual life that will prove of the misery that hangs about this issue..not to mention in particular all the details but as a whole some family would end up in a broken relationship with each other because of those things not really taken care of or unaddress issue before going abroad for several years
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Sep 11
Although it seems to be a good chance to work overseas. However, I will be very upset if my spouse has to work abroad. We are a family and therefore I hope we can stay with each other together. Although the salary will be better, but the family time is much more important. My spouse will miss the time to see our child grows up. Besides, it will be a pain for us to separate. In the past my husband had a good chance to work in province but it already upset me and finally he gave up it for me. I am sorry but I am selfish in this aspect. I still believe that it is better for a family to live together. I love China
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
that means your husband really loves you much and he doesn't want you get upset..and i believe he really understand your point and leaving for work in far places must be the last option anybody should consider
• China
30 Sep 11
for me, it is very hard to let my partner to work overseas. I could hardly bear my partner working in a different city or town or even village but in the same state. Because I firstly care much for her. And secondly, distance is the very killer of caring or loving to each other. what's worse, is someone was sick, it is a great trouble to take a long journey to get beside her. and sometimes it is impossible to take care of each other immediately. It is also frustrated.
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
nobody could deny what you have said and that's the truth..and it's that feeling of frustration sometimes over the things you have no control of..but this is really happening out there..
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Sep 11
If it was something that my husband really wanted to do, then I would support his decision. It would be difficult, but I'd be absolutely alright with it. We'd find a way to make it work out.
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
you two should have a really good talk about this if time comes
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
it's really really hard to work abroad and being away from your family...i had gone through all those sacrifices and hardships of being away from my love ones just because i need to earn money for them if there's only a chance to earn those money here in our country i wouldn't go anywhere just to have it i will just simply put my own business here to have an income rather than going away from my family and serving other people abroad...
30 Sep 11
It's really hard to be away with your partner but you gonna need to understand that "that's his her work" and TRUST is very important during this period because some people cannot take the loneliness that they look for someone else which a lot of people did. And it's very sad to hear that their partner work hard to give them a better standing in life yet they look for someone else. Remember that they don't want to work outside the country also and leave YOU because they will surely miss you, but they are doing this to give their family a better future. My husband worked abroad also and i know how it feels to be left alone at home.
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
The answer is definitely no, not unless I have to go with him too. I tend to go crazy and get jealous over nothing, and my husband is here with me. How much more if he is overseas? Plus my husband doesn't want to part with me too. I have a relative, his dad is a manager of an international company. and he gets assigned to different countries, but the mom is very wise. She made sure that wherever the dad goes, they all go. If that is the case, then I would love to have my husband work anywhere! =)
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
We all know that we can find work here and elsewhere.. i think though that that will be the last option... i mean, if he can still find work here, i think that he will have to stay here and be with the family. i know that we need money but not as much as to lose him and have him work in a foreign place, by himself... =(
@GemmaR (8517)
30 Sep 11
My partner has been looking for a job for a number of years now without much luck in getting one. We only live a 15 minute drive apart, but we never get to see each other because he's so busy looking for work and I'm so busy in my job working from home. For this reason, I think that I would agree to let him work abroad. We don't see each other much anyway, so it would make a lot more sense if we were even further apart if he was able to earn the money that we need in order to make a living. It would be a hard decision but I do think that I would let him do it.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
30 Sep 11
I can relate to this because my boyfriend is about to leave pretty soon for the middle east. It's going to be our first time apart as in very far apart. While I will have to pursue my own plans overseas which is much much further from where he's going to be. Right now, we are alright with those decisions but it's filled with apprehensions, fears and sadness for being away. I will try my hardest that when we get married, we'll be together and we will raise our kids together, and I will be a hands-on mother to my children. I may not be a full-time mother but what matters is that I don't work away from them.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
depends. but for both of the couple to work overseas leaving their children behind in the care of other people, or relatives, i think it is not advisable. one of the parents has to be with the kids while the other one work overseas.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
For me yes why not if then you can earn money and about the distance only 8months only you can be apart.
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
you know this topic gives me a lot thinking... i don't know if im going to let her to abroad or not.