My friend is the other woman

we share the same story my dear. my bestfriend is also playing as another woman in real life. the worst thing about their relationship is that my bestfriend is married too, although she's separated with her husband. but the guy she's with right now is very much married and still with his family. like you, i also tried to stop her, giving her advice about the consequences of their relationship. but things comes to worst, my friend got pregnant and resorted to abortion to save face. she gave up the life of her child inside her that adds to her mistake. and that was the time i told her that i am giving up on her. as for your friend, just don't stop reminding her of the what if's of her situation right now. because if the man really loves her and have a future plan of them to be together to share their future, he could always file an annulment to end his marriage with her first wife so he and your friend could already start a life together. we could never know what the future holds, but it is just right to give something for herself. the decision though is always hers alone. just do your part as a friend to her. i am wishing her well, and i hope she won't undergo what my friend have done with her life. happy mylotting!

I have a friend that saw a married man for about 9 years. She is now 50 and alone. He never left his wife. Yes, she had some good times being the other woman for those years. Trips, fancy restaurants, etc - but she did not see him on holidays or when his real family needed him. I will not say I told you so because I think she knows that now.

I don't see why you think she destroys a family. Her partner had separated from his wife before meeting your friend. The problem is her attitude towards the relationship with this man. She's still looking for someone she can be proud of, so I suppose he doesn't make her happy. It's an odd situation.

It is your friend her life and that guy his life. It's not up to you to judge or to say what she will destroy. Also I don't believe she can destroy a family that is already destroyed. The only thing parents should want is that their daughter is happy. No matter in what way or with whom or where in the world. If they inherite her for he choice it only shows they don't respect her and accept her as the kind of person she is. I would advice you not to interfere in this relationship. If it won't work she will find it out herself. She doesn't need other people to tell her she is doing a bad thing. Also... you can't look into her heart or head. Personally I would never accept behaviour like yours from any of my friends. You don't respect or accept her as the person she is. What good is for you doesn't have to be good for her. You are not the same and she has the right to live her life and to go for her dreams and hopes just like you have. If my parents would inherite me for that I would not care for 1 single moment I would even not like to be with them anymore. Nothing is as worse as to have forget about yourself and always have to live by the rules of someone else.

Oh-my! This is a really tough situation, i don't think i will able to keep up with that if she was part of my family. My family it's very traditional and they teached us and expect us to go with their beliefs and if we disagree they don't want us to disrespect what they believe. In my opinion i believe their is "NO LOVE" at all in this relationship according to what she said "she just keep on telling us that she don't have the plan to make their relationship last forever." I think the same as you if she wants a relationship that will last forever then she should let the man go. Maybe he is giving her something that has her attach to him, because it's hard for me to believe someone will be in a situation like this without getting nothing from it.

I have a guy who is my husband friend with whom I have a relationship..he says he will stop the moment he will get married and till then he wants to continue the relationship..I said it would be fine until my husband says to stop it.. but it seems like he is making no move to get married and neither is he seeing any other women to get married and he rejects every single proposal which his family brings in which means I have to be with him at bed for a quite long time..I am ok with that but some times I think he is fooling me around with this marriage thing..

If she was seeing the guy before him and the wife split then yes she could be considered the reason they split. But if she began seeing him during the separation then she can't technically be the reason they split. As a married woman who TOTALLY disagrees with any type of infidelity I agree that she may need to step back until the marriage has ended.

She said she wants to find a guy she can be proud of ? But she is still with the married guy? I don't understand. when I read the first part of your post I thought , it works for her . But if she wants a guy to bring home to her parents , this guy isn't the guy right now. If he were free then maybe but Still married? Yikes!She will not leave until she is ready. She Has to make the decision. Until then, she will be with the guy.

I would hate to be in this situation because, when I am with someone, I have to be their number one priority otherwise I just feel as though I am worthless and this means that I wouldn't enjoy the relationship. In addition to this, I wouldn't want to be the person who was responsible for tearing somebody else's lives apart. If the man had a wife and children then an affair could affect them in ways that they didn't even know was possible, and I would just never want to be the person who was responsible for doing this to somebody else.

well, nothing you can do about it if your friend decides to stay in the relationship. the decision lies to her and there is nothing to be done, and the situation will not change, if she decides opposite what everybody around her wants.

Your friend maybe already in her right age, mature and educated. If she have all those quality she must know already the right and wrong. But she give her reason to you. t is up to her if she follow your advices. the things that matter her is you need to remind her constantly about her wrong doings and she may realize later her mistakes. even if she does not follow you the important hings you give your concern and good advices and pray she change her decision later.

Sadly, if your friend is the other woman, then it is either she fell for someone who cheated on his wife with her, or she never knew that the guy is already married. Whatever the situation may be, it is best that your friend goes up the relationship. No matter what, she will end up as the loser. Of course she would want a nice wedding with respectable factors surrounding the marriage. She would want to get her parents involved. How can she if she is in this kind of a mess. She will just end up in tears. Better do what is right while it is still very early.

Whoa! This is like dejavu! 2 months ago, my friend asked me for an advice on what to do. My friend told me that her current boyfriend is married. She said her boyfriend told her that he doesn't love his wife but he can't leave her. The good thing about my friend is still sensible, she just needs encouragement. I told her to really think about the consequences of their relationship. And after a month she told me she already broke up with him. So I praised her for her decision. I hope your friend would find courage in doing the right thing, for her own sake.

I think she will only realize that she must not have a relationship in that kind of man if the man will choose his family than her..

I think it is a hard situation for everyone. I have a guy friend who is the other man. He has been having a relationship with a girl who is married. The bad thing is she isn't separated. Her husband found out about them once but he stayed with her and now he's just in denial that it is going on. Everyone has tried to talk to my guy friend and tell him he deserves better, but he is in love with her. He is such a nice guy and it really is sad that she is keeping him on the hook when he could be finding someone better.

Yes you are right she will not have a descent guy if she is within a relationship with him still. Now if you could keep telling her that she need to stop in relation with his current boyfriend which you told has a wife she will find a new one which give her a legal name. BUt i think she is inlove with this guy that is why she is until now involved with him. And if the situation is like that she will never be with his new lover to settle for good. You know love is blind and dont know what is right and wrong.IT is a feeling that we can feel to anyone we like or if we love it is always tells us the we love that person with no reason to ask why. And if we love all things for us is right as long as we are in his side. Sometimes we can tell that the love is unfair. It is blind really... hmmm keep on telling her the good future is in using her mind,,

Geezzz.. She must stop seeing the guy before it's too late. But that's still her decision if she wants to have that kind of relationship or not. My friend is like that too, the worst thing is that she knows that the guy is not in love with her, and he's just using her for his personal gain, like physical contact or so. The guy has 3 kids (one kid for each of his previous girlfriends). He got married once, and now he's living in with his girlfriend, and he's flirting with my friend. I've been warning her not to trust the guy, she keeps on telling me she's not attracted to him, but it seems like her actions are opposite to her words. She always go out with him and everyday she talks about the guy. Her friends have been telling her not to engage that kind of relationship, to no avail. I think she's in love with him.

that not love, for me. maybe your friend know how is her feel when someone that she love go away from her. that what the wife of her boyfriend feel.

I don't think she was the one who destroyed that married guy's family because as you said the guy has been separated for a long time. But still what she's doing violated the law and morals. Supposed to be, it is not acceptable to society but it is already tolerated. YOur friend will be at a loss.

They always have that reason, that they are only going to be involved in that kind of relationship at the time being. Sometimes, they say that they are bored that's why they allow themselves to be the other woman. But really, being bored is not reason enough to do something morally wrong. I also have a friend like that, and even when I listen to her side of story and try to understand where she's coming from I never stop telling her if she can stop it soon, she should do it while she still can. Because really, the deeper she'll allow herself to be, the more difficult it is for her to get herself out of the hole she dug herself.