The one you love actually abuses you..
By FickleSky
@FickleSky (140)
Philippines
October 1, 2011 11:34pm CST
Danielle Steel's journey.
I actually read this book months ago and remembered to share it here just now. It talked about two different kinds of abuse. The one that is the usual abuse we know, physical abuse and the mental abuse.
I wouldn't want to be a spoiler (but somehow it is already :P) So, I wouldn't share the whole story, but yes the story had that mental and physical abuse for the main character. And the main character there just let it all happen because of the thought of love.
Well, we should not let the people we love do that to us. Sometimes, we become blinded with the love we have for them, and they somehow control us and become submissive even if it is wrong already. Learn to distinguish if the person you love is already becoming abusive of you. Maybe, for example, he/she has been making you inferior already with the things that you do.
Know your rights and what is right in every situation.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
14 Oct 11
I can only speak by experience, never read Danielle Steel
there are many types of abuse
the ones hard to identify are emotional and mental
the word love is overrated, people mix it with lust, like, romance etc
while love on its own is the highest vibration, essence of creation
therefore when someone is in love, there is no way he/she abuses his loved one
it's plain and simple
abuse is destruction and destruction is everything that creation is not
lies and cheats too, are what love is not
when someone doesn't love him/herself, then it becomes disastrous
people don't stay in abusive relationship due to love, kids etc
it's their own lack of self love, to accept that they have needs too and that they are in no way, a slave of anybody
especially an abuser
@LoliRuri23 (251)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
I have seen and read stories similar to this one. And I have to agree with you, we should not allow anyone to abuse us in anyway.
I studied in an all girls school, and the goal of our school is to empower women. So they make us attend to talks about empowerment and all sorts of activities that would boost our self confidence. They said that one reason why women gets abused is because they allow themselves to feel inferior towards their husbands. So everyone, specially women, should work on their confidence, because if you are confident about yourself, you won't allow anyone stepping on you. And others will also feel that, and they will also respect you for that.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
I agree with you. No matter how much we love a person, to a point that we will give them everything and we will bear whatever happens to us.. It doesn't include the abuse, either physically or mentally. I haven't read the book but I have ideas about different abuse.
I heard a lot of women who never left their abusing husbands because, as they say, they love him and they don't want their children to sacrifice growing up with a broken family. I think that is so lame and irrational and so masochistic. And I really admire those women who stood up on their own and start all over again.
Not all the people realize their are being abused already and I hope we are those who know when we are abused or not. We shouldn't let people let us feel inferior cause after all "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent".
:)
@rmendoza123 (637)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
i completely agree with your beliefs, but sometimes we really tend to forget ourselves when we are in love.
there are some times that when we love a person even though for others it's not right, still we are doing and we happy about it. Insane isn't it? Yes! that's life, that's love can do.
