I want to be positive but I keep going back to being depressed

Hi All that I can tell is this is what life is all about. Just understand that as your 'nice life' did not last long, similarly bad phase of life will also not last long. All we need during this tough period of time is to do little bit of meditation. Concentration of mind inward do help in case of depression. As far as interviews are concerned again please understand the struggle of those who have lost their jobs after economic melt down started. You are luckier that at least you have a job. Whatever, i have written so far is from my experience of life. And I have found that feeling oneself happy is the only mantra of happiness.

Sorry for your sadness Grace, I am hoping maybe that you feel better by now. But with so much experience in this, If it never stops you may need to see someone and they can help you pinpoint whats going on with you. Things that might help are getting outside and walking in nature. Enjoying your surroundings. Taking time each day to discover what you love about yourself. Reading a good uplifting story, watching a movie, writing in a journal. You could color pictures or take some pictures. Work on discovering a hobby that you enjoy. Sometimes if you create something beautiful with your hands you will see that you can make something beautiful.

Your self-worth has nothing to do with external factors. As long as you depend on external things to make you happy, you won't be. Namaste.

I must that -have faith in yourself and your abilities. This is a temporary phase. times change and so does everything. Disappointments are part of life. While one has to learn lessons from them, one need not take them to the hearts. Most important is that unless you believe in yourself no one else will. There is one great book- The road less travelled by Dr. M.Scot Peck. May I suggest that you read this book.

Hi dear, How about you talk about your problems to someone? Don't judge if they are worthy of being problems or not, sometimes we think our problems are stupid or we be ashamed of telling them to someone, they are never stupid if they are putting you down, give your self a chance and seek for help, try someone that you have reasons to trust, that you know this person will not fail, and after a while, I don't know next year, if you don't heal or if you are not better try professional help, there's nothing wrong with that but they know thinking patterns and they might say where you are failing in thinking straight, like there are things in life we see it differently and a professional help may tell you where it's only in your mind and where you should think differently to change. We have way too many beliefs since we are children, at teenager and adult time we must throw away somethings that are useless.

Hi! Awww--HUG!!! I can understand where you're coming from; I also had an ex-fiance who bailed out on me more than once. Turned out, I found someone better...you can too! Take control! First of all, NOTHING is wrong with you. I too, interviewed a number of times and never heard back from various companies so I too, was depressed wondering what I did or said that was wrong. The competition is just fierce out there so perhaps see if there are some other skills in your company that would help you so you can gain the skills needed. Is there someone who can help you do this? We all go through bad patches...you just need to take control of the situation and not the other way around. If it helps, my first husband and I split on truly bad terms and I did let him have it (felt good actually). I was also pregnant, no job, and $20,000 in debt. After I pulled myself together (thanks to my family), I just dealt with one issue at a time and after two years of sticking to what I had to, I paid off the debt, my daughter is healthy and happy, and I'm seeking employment online. Things will work out. We're here for you. :-)

I am a Zen practitioner and recognize that through life suffering is going to occur from time to time. The Buddha discovered that desire was at the root of all suffering and the more we can accept life as it is, the more bliss we will experience. Each day I practice zazen (Zen meditation) and often go through a lot of dark phases in my life. I don't fight these as they are only visions of the past and sometime fears of the future. Neither past nor future exist right now. Past and futue is illusion. Therefore we are getting ourselves down and depressed for something that doesn't exist. This is not our natural state, and in Zen, it is my quest to realize this fully. There is nothing wrong with you. You are being challenged and if you can get to see it this way, you can feel lighter. Practice being aware that there is only now, no future yet, no longer a past. If you can see and feel this, then life will look so different. If you wish to know more about meditation, there is a link on my profile here at myLot. _Derek

if you want your life to get better, then you have to stand strong and fight for it..your life won't get better if all this life's misfortune of yours occupies all your mind and thoughts, you'll get stress and end up disoriented..you will always think negatively just like the way your post is..try sweeping up all these mess and throw them out of your life, don't live in the past and try to see life in a positive way..and by the way try Jesus and pray...matthew 11:28/7:7

a pleasant day gracemanotoc, it is quite hard to keep going especially when you are depressed. as i do also encounters some difficulties to move on when i am depressed. but one thing is so sure, just keep on holding to the word that god is telling you. as you are trying your best to walk along with him, surely he will carry you thru along your journey. just like me, perhaps, god is leading you to a more mature situation, the reason why you are undergoing those situations. just keep on praying and never loose hope. i know it is indeed difficult but prayer is best way to do. because from this, we can have the wisdom and the knowledge that we can use to overcome all. fight the good fight of faith.

Hi Grace, could it be possible that you try too hard to be a good person, a good worker and a good lover, and hence do not really allow yourself to be unhappy about something for a little while and tell yourself you have to be stronger, be above it? If that is the case, sometimes that makes it worse. So in that case, maybe you should treat yourself to a weekend of mourning for the relationship that ended a year ago, maybe even perform some kind of ritual, like bury something you still have of the guy, do anything that symbolizes that the relationship is really over, and allow yourself to be sad or angry about it. But also set yourself a time limit, like 48 hours. After those 48 hours, you have to move on because otherwise, before you know it, the rest of your life is running away from you, and rapidly becoming the past too. Does that help?

The society is in decline and most of the people simulate to be happy for not to be discriminated. Wherefore i think that happiness has never existed on this earth, is a fairy tale and like every fairy tale is false. Once you've accepted that you'll never be sad but also not happy, will be realistic and far-sighted and i assure you that reaching a balance between pain and pleasure is a great achievement !

All I can say is that being positive with one's outlook in life would take you a long way. If your ex left you, then maybe he's not the one for you. At some point in life, you have to move on. Use your past experiences as a lesson learned. We should not keep going backwards, but instead, we have to move forward. We may encounter a lot of problems, trials, and bumps along our way to success but we have to stay strong and focused. Problems are just there so that if in the future, we encounter them again, we would already know what to do. So, always stay positive! :)

All I can say is that being positive with one's outlook in life would take you a long way. If your ex left you, then maybe he's not the one for you. At some point in life, you have to move on. Use your past experiences as a lesson learned. Do not keep going backwards, but instead move forward. We may encounter a lot of trials, problems and bumps along the way to success, but then these are just made so that if we encounter them again later in life, we would already know what to do.

LIFE is a mystery I know how how you feel feels like I'm unlucky. It's good to know that she leave you before the wedding. Because if that boy marry you then leave you after the wedding. That would hurt you more. That ex of yours is no good for you. You're not unlucky and there is nothing wrong with you. Its just life, life is full of adventure you become happy, sad lonely and you feel love. Maybe you should go out there rest enjoy the nature

Life can be a challenge sometimes and it is best to have a positive feeling to keep some happiness. This can be achieved by having some enjoyable hobbies. It is best if you try to move on from your ex-fiance and find a new relationship that is happy. At the moment there is a recession and so not many jobs are available. Many people are unemployed. You are well liked because you are getting interviews. You should keep trying because sooner or later an excellent company will choose you. I think you should write down everything that makes you the slightest bit happy and focus on those things. I find exercise can make a person happy. Good luck.

Life is full of ups and downs. It is a challenge that we should know how to face and continue to be strong no matter how hard life is today. Is there something wrong? well you need to ask that again to yourself and review your life and what seems to be the missing link, I do hope that you call on to God for help and pray that He is going to help you in your daily struggles. All of us are facing struggles each day, in different levels only, that is. But we need to face life and be brave to the challenges that was given to us. We must not surrender and fight for what we know is right. Just don't deal your life which is past. Past is past, so don't look back on it, because it has nothing to do with your present and future. Live one step at a time and be content of what you have and don't forget to be thankful for small details that you get for a blessing.

As more you await an answer as more you become desperate. Just turn your mind on a purpose and just work on it until you reach it. Don't waste time thinking about the negative points of your life. Keep your mind busy with positiv ideas, things you want to do..., time will give you the right answer. If you don't find another job yet, maybe it's because it's still not your time to change to another one or you haven't found the right one yet. If your ex-fiance suddenly ran away, so he was the wrong one for you. Be happy that you stay allone for a time. You will find another one if you wisg.

Life is unfair.We know that.We cannot control what's going to happen because we are affected by chances.I mean when we suffer,it doesn't mean we are bad or we are being punished.Life is like a dice.We don't know the result.So let's just accept them and try to cope up.Your fiance left you for a reason.Try to know it.If it was because of your defect look for the defect and correct it.If he left you for no reason,just look for someone else.I think that's the best thing to do.