To make a difference you need to teach and people need to change!

Don't think it is necessary to always ask a question to start a discussion. Liked the way you did it and was just saying I need to ask a question here. Thanks for the boat analogy, I do understand it now. To repent, I need to know in my heart that I am doing something wrong. I was actually thinking of how my beliefs have been questioned in my life and I have been told that I should give them up, they are dumb ones. Only I do not think they are dumb even if they cause me pain. My religious beliefs, belief and trust in God, I was told was wrong but this is something I need to hold on to and can not give up on. In another context, I can say that the financial status of my life concerns me. I am sure this is a common concern for many people today. Am I doing something wrong is a question I could ask or I could chalk it up to the economy? Am I lazy, stupid or just not trying hard enough or do I just need to have more patience in this leaky boat? In other words, I am not convinced that my attitudes or beliefs are causing the problem and pain but other factors like lack of opportunity but at the same time do not want to use everything hard as an excuse. As this deliberation applies to our open discussion, I am thinking I do not want to ever sacrifice my values or beliefs but if I have developed a 'bad' attitude because of pain or hurt then this is something I do want to be adjusted. The adjustment might have to come from outside myself. Be honest. - sometimes Miss Bitter

Generally, I was thinking about more irreligious beliefs that people hand onto so aggressively. Like many women who find themselves being used by jerks all of the time... In situations like this it seems that there is no single, huge billboard saying 'come here for the shortest-term relationship of your life', but I believe that there are multiple, small billboards that everyone displays (knowingly or unknowingly) that lead people to an overall theme of who a person is. That is just one example where I believe someone needs to step back and have a change of belief and attitude in order to change results. Each of us have times in our lives that we feel stuck despite what we do, but I think the importance of changing one's point of view entirely has more to do with people who have multiple problems, multiple times, that many people never have to deal with more than once in their lives. Along the lines of "you can take a person out of the ghetto, but you can't take the ghetto out of the person." And I think there is some ghetto in all of us - regardless of our backgrounds. I do agree with you that this concept doesn't appear to apply to your situation. It's just one of those situations where a person gets stuck. I believe that trust in God is important - and he helps us become better people. Such beliefs carry us to our final destination - not just to the end of our lives (which is the perspective that most people give advice from). So keep up the good work.