Should I stay with daughter and son-in-law when baby arrives?

If they are up for it, than I would say do it. I was lucky, my parents came down to see my baby at the hospital, even showing up with a huge chocolate shake, and then went back home until the weekend. I had a few days to get settled into something of a routine. They were extremely helpful when they came down those first few weekends, they did laundry and the vacuuming, even picked up groceries. They would arrive right before dinner on Saturday and leave mid afternoon on sunday. Then I was bombarded by my husbands family. 7 days with 4 extra people in the house at all times overwhelmed me completely. I finally ordered everyone out of my house. I told them I did not care what they did as long as they left my house.

Yes, I think it's good idea. You are more experienced in taking care a newborn baby than your daughter, and by staying in their house for few days, you can share your knowledge and experiences with your daughter and her husband. Then you can go home and let them have fun with all the dirty diapers ;)

This is a great idea! I don't know what I would've done if it wasn't for my mom the first few days. She stayed with me for 2 weeks and when she left I begged her to stay. Not because I was lazy to do things for the baby but because I was scared and felt like I still needed so much to learn! Give her tips and advice and she will be a great mom.

I think it is always a good idea for someone to stay with a mother to a new baby. Even if it is her second or third. If the husband has a job he is not going to be readily available to help her out so it would be nice for her to have someone there to help her. Since she is a first time mom I think it is definitely a great idea that you stay and help her out with the baby. Help her make some dinners and get some cleaning done help her with motherhood as well. Mine are still young but I know I will help mine when they get older and start to have kids.

Congrats! Nice to hear that you can help your daughter out. I am in the same situation like your daughter but the difference is that, my mom will not be able to take care of me because I'm living abroad and the one we asked to look after me was my mother in law. It will be my first time too but I do watch and browse a lot of info online so I have an idea at least of how to's (giving bath, diaper changing,etc.)but having an extra help is good for me, so I will appreciate when my MIL comes here with us for a few weeks.

Hello, dear. That would be heaven for your daughter and son-in-law. I am a mother now of four adorable kids and everytime I gave birth, then, I always ask for my Mom to stay with me for awhile. It gives me the feeling of security and assurance that I'll be OK and the baby with my mother being by our side to help us. Your daughter needs you now more than she have ever needed you before. So, be with her. Your son in law will definitely appreciate the gesture.Don't hesitate, enjoy being a grandma to your grand son.

Definitely. My mom never really stayed long enough to suit me, and I had some experience but not enough to feel super confident of my skills. My son in law specifically took time off until I could come and spend a few nights when my first granddaughter was born. You daughter should be checking into some childbirth classes and maybe some classes for new parents just to help her confidence. Did she never do any babysitting?

I think that may be a good idea. I think you could help them out alot and they would really appreciate it.

I think as long as both she and her husband are in agreement over you staying then go for it. Having a baby for the first time is a scary thing if you don't have experience with children. I worked in daycare for almost 5 years when my daughter was born and I still had worries and questions. When I had my first my mom and my husband were both in there with me. I think he was glad to have her there too because he was scared and not used to seeing me in pain. With our second one it was just me and him and then with the third it was me him and my sister. I was glad to have my mom there too because I was scared and wanted her there.

I cannot see anything wrong with it, staying for few days and not few years are good enough to teach your daughter how to take care of the newborn and for her self. When I gave birth to my child, I wanted my mother to be on my side until the time my baby grew up because I needed her guidance as a first time mother. I don't even have idea how to carry a baby and change it diapers and my mother was very patient in guiding and teaching me. Go ahead there's nothing wrong with it.

You have a kind heart. You know that you daughter needs you and so does you new grandchild. What you suggested is a good arrangement. I don't know about your son in law but if I am him I would appreciate your sweet gesture.

Why not my friend? It's the first time that your daughter has given birth. The fact that she has never ever changed a diaper, means she needs someone who can teach her how to things with the baby. Besides, they will surely be glad to have you at their house for some few days, to help them with the baby. Your daughter having just given birth would still not be too strong to do all the chores at home, specially if the husband will be working. They need you to help them with the baby and in the house.

Here (in the Netherlands) most babies are born at home. It's normal to have some help during the first 10 days since this is the time the mom has to rest and needs to find time for her and is getting used to the baby. For most mothers it's the same nowadays: they never changed a diaper before. So what? If all those mothers can't do it your daughter will learn it too and it doesn't matter if it will be great or bad. I don't know what is the habit in your country? I think it all depends on how your daughter will feel after the birth and what kind of baby your grandson will be but also what the father will say about this. It might be nice for her is you can help her out for some hours a day so she can catch some sleep/have some time for her and you make a walk with him or so. There is nothing wrong with that. I would tell her you will decide what to do if your grandson is born and they are back home. Unless you already know by now you don't like to be there. Then tell her you won't because to your opinion they should start the new family without interfering of other family members. You and your daughter never ask yourself how all these other moms are starting those first days after the birth? There are enough mothers who don't have family or friends to help them out and even don't have a husband and they all do a great job. This is what we call: nature is calling (and telling you what to do)

Yes I think it is a good idea. Daughters mostly asked their mother's help when it comes to taking care of the baby. I myself always ask my mother regarding my babies. It will definitely help your daughter and son in law.

I think it is a great idea. It is comforting.

hi Kizzycatfish oh by all m eans I never had mymom stay with me for either baby as my dad did not like my getting married. I was 32 but he never thought anyman was good enough for me. so he wou ld not let my mom come and stay with me. So do that for her as she will really need and welcome the fact of y oui caring enough to be there for here for just a few first days. you will love it I am sure. Grandmothers are always welcove for their grandbabies.

Yes why not? I don't think you can complicate things but rather you will be of big help to your daughter. My Mom stayed with me for sometime when I delivered my first son because I did not know how to take care of newborn. She helped me with changing diaper, and bathing of my infant and she also taught me a lot of things about feeding, burping, and many more things I really did not know. When I was already ready to go on my own, my Mom went back to her home. You will surely be just as useful to your daughter so go and stay with them.

Surely why not? She will need all the help she can get. I have done this for both of my daughters. My first granddaughter was born back in 2006 when both my daughter and her husband were living with me. They lived with me for two months and I helped in anyway I could and they appreciated it. Then this past January I traveled from Puerto Rico to New Mexico to help my other daughter with my grandson. In fact I was in the delivery room along with the father of my grandson. It was the most gratifying thing to experience. I stayed and helped out for two months. Now come December I will be traveling back to New Mexico because my first daughter who had my granddaughter back in 2006 is having her second girl in December. I love doing it because I get to bond with my grandkids and I just love babies so much. I think being a mom its only the right thing to do to help your daughter. Especially if she is asking you for help. I don't understand what could be the downside of doing such a great thing for your daughter. Unless you don't get along with your son-in-law.

I think it would be an excellent idea! You will be able to help your daughter through the first few difficult days, as well as enjoy being with your grandson. If you can take the few days away from your own family, I think you really should. Congrats in advance on the new grandson's arrival.

You have a kind heart. You know that you daughter needs you and so does you new grandchild. What you suggested is a good arrangement. I don't know about your son in law but if I am him I would appreciate your sweet gesture.