Do your friends support you? Do you support them?

I have been blessed in life by very supportive friends. Some others drop out during life and become aquaintances or even shadows. In times of need, like now that I ´m on chemo, those friends have been invaluable and have supported me beyong my wildest dreams. Many friends here say I´m positive and think that I have taken my cancer in a very good way. It would not have been so if it weren´t for the constant help of these human angels. They come to visit, they cheer me up, they accompany me to the long chemo sessions. I wonder if I have been a good friend too, and I think that in general I´m a warm person so I might have been reasonable nice at other times. I do hope so, but one tends to forget the small things one does for friends as we do it happilly

This, in a way, would depend on how you define "friends". While I have many acquaintances in various places, I know a lot of people and am friendly with them, I don't have many people who I would truly consider to be friends. Saying that, of the friends I do have, some are not supportive at all. I have one friend whom I have known for over 25 years. She still calls herself my best friend. I wouldn't say she is unsupportive but, as a best friend, she's not particularly supportive but then, I guess I'm the same with her. I have a couple of people at work who are very supportive (although it is their job to be so!). I think they would be anyway. Well, one of them would. She's one of the loveliest people I've ever known. I don't think I am a supportive friend! If my friends need support and I know that, they will get it from me but, having thought about this recently, I think I might be what you could call a "selfish friend". I mean, I talk to my friends and they support me but I realise I rarely even ask how they are. Although, now I have come to realise that, I have been making more of an effort to be a more thoughtful friend!

I have all types of friends. Some of them are mainly just acquaintances I choose to call friends who I work with, and then there are some from Church and my life who I can truly consider a Friend, and know that they are there for me no matter what I am going thru, and will support me all the way. There are even many in here I would consider a True friend and concerned with what I am going thru. It is always Good to have a friends who care.

Hi Pose: Let me tell you my own process. I don't have many friends but I think that the one I have chosen are the right ones. I can really say that I share values with my friends and that I care for them as much as they do the same for me. Friends are there to have fun but also to help you growing up. As I have grown up, the things I have looked on my friends have also changed and now I don't want to make then 'perfect' because that's actually stupid, or make them think like me. And they offer me help, they are good souls that make life better. ALVARO

I doubt if friends support each other as I just had a recent experience when something bad was being said about me and that was repeated to me by my friend and when I asked whether she had said anything in my defense she kept mum. A new definition needs to be worked out for today's friends.

i do support my friends on things i know they are happy and i know they will not get hurt. In our circle of friends we talk about this things and if we see that our friend is really happy about it then we support her. but if things fail, we are also there to comfort her and boost one's esteem that has been affected. but there is this one friend that i had that affected my trust with my other relationships. i have always been supporting her but there was one time(actually the second time she did this to me) that i feel like i have not been supported it was a difficult one that i know if she only speak up for me things would not have happen. i have already forgiven her but i am not willing to give her the same friendship i had with her before. it's just so sad that it was all wasted.

most of my friends are very supportive to me could be better, with lots of friends will expand our horizons and perspective in dealing with a matter of life and others

That is true sometimes....there are those negative people who at stuck in the circle of being the critic...or just plain unhappy. I am ususally the one who is there...no matter what time..what day they need me. Unfortunately I attract needy people..I do have one very special friend who is supportive...in fact so much alike that we are as close as sisters...that is the one friendship I am sure will last a lifetime.

Hi Pose! I think the older we get and the more we learn about life and the people in it the less tolerance we have for those that don't seem to contribute to it. I thought me and one of my "so called girlfriends" were "supposed" to "close friends". When she would call me all she did was talk about herself and her problems. When it came time for me to talk she had to "go". I finally got fed up! Turns out I was right about her. I wrote her a letter telling how I felt about how selfish she was and how I didn't think she ever really considered me a friend. I told her goodbye and wished her luck in her life. She had the opportunity to call me if she cared anything about our "so called friendship"~She never called. Point taken!

For me yes I would support but if I noticed that he is not good in me I would change I never support I never use again in the false attitude.

Yup i got few close friends,basically i don have good friends which are non existent for me, but these close friends i help as much as possible by giving gentle advices and not judgemental , and going for drinks for sharing , and such and also occasional free transportation and such.Sometime help them to move stuffs to their new rental places and such.

You're right. There are friends that are not really good for us. I have friends (but still recognize them as such) who are not really supportive with me. They sometimes would just want to make me feel bad for no reason. But I do admit that they are good and are there for me when I need them some times. I think a friendship will not always go as to the way you like it. I believe in the saying that true friends are those who are true to you no matter if you get hurt or not.

True friends support. But some friends which is fake are pulling you down. That's a harsh reality. When it comes to my friends I always supported them which I think is right. But when I think it's not appropriate, I always told them. But still I respect their decisions.

I could say that a relationship such as "Friendship" is a contract. It does not have a written resolution or condition but it is understandable that some will last forever and many will just take too short. Once, that there is already a change in his or her point of view which is far far away from what you believed. Then,you may decide to go on a separate way. "I felt some disappointments whenever I will reminisce those memories I spent with some friends of mine.It was once that I almost give everything that I could in order to support a friend when a tragic event happened to their family and sad to say now, I couldn't find him anywhere right now." Its kind a sad but then lesson learned, too much attachment is bad. I could still share good memories with some friends of mine. There were times that I consider myself as a "Change agent" I don't know why but they just said it to me, I am so grateful with that fact. In friendship= it is always 1 plus 1. Just like math..

you are on point about friends, i choose to have a few cause many can't be trusted or there just negative. When you surround yourself around positive people you get better results than you being around somebody negative it doesn't take long to determine all you have to do is listen be aware of their actions.