Futility of an Online Relationship

I assume you're talking about romantic relationships. I think they can start as online relationships, but I think most people would agree that a "normal" romantic relationship would eventually involve the people meeting face to face.

I am no expert in relationships, but I think an online one could survive provided that the moments spent with each other (face-to-face, physical togetherness) is on a regular basis. Further, I'm not convinced of an online courtship. I don't think it's fair for both because expectations would be high when they meet. Any person who has experienced such would surely feel awkward being sweet with someone you just met. Yeah, you may have said 'i love yous' online, but it's different when you're together. I think one should meet first prior to deciding to move on with the relationship or not (it will help both to be a bit comfortable because there are no expectations, you would just meet as friends). I know that love has no perfect formula but I think relationships need more physical togetherness. Your are right about people having so many doubts because after they turn-off the computer or go offline, each has a real world and could do anything they want with it without the other knowing about it. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

There are a lot of people out there who have met their soulmate or best friend onlie and they took the virtual relationship from the virtual to the real or they commute but they find a way to make it work. Just because your online relationship didn't work out like that is no reason to down them all.

I am actually happy with my online friends and happen that almost most of my time spent to them. Always online the whole day if i dont have work and at night. I got hooked but i am happy coz i feel they appreciate me more. About relationship online maybe its less to be at true or real to be real couple unless they really hold onto their words with each other and promise they never separate until they meet. And i believe if the love is real no matter online or not it will be last forever with the two of them. Well wish there will have this kind of scenario.

Hello Rambansal... Even i had been thinking about online relationships. I have online friends and my observation is that... there is always another side of me as much as others have. There would always be a part of me who enjoys online relationships because i feel that they appreciate and understand me the same way that my real-life friends do. The funny difference here is that since i am almost always online, i get to mingle and be really close with my online friends than my real life ones. Furthermore, this side of me which longs for companionship is the same side that has shadows that i could only reveal to my online friends as i feel awkward relating it to my real life friends. I think melancholic people are more prone to this.

I think that having a romantic relationship that is just online, I don't mean meeting someone through the internet to date them like Match.com, but just dating through a social networking site or something, is just pointless. I think for the most part, maybe some very rare cases, it does not go far at all and it's just an excuse to not see someone in real life. I think as far as friendships are concerned, I think it can be an amazing and wonderful thing. My best friend is someone I just know online, I've been friends with them for over 2 years now.

Hello rambansal, It depends really on situation of the party, there are scenarios where such online relationship can fail; and for one is that the other might be lying or pretender his or her claim that they love the other, but the truth is that most people do this because they don't have confidence to court offline, some even result to text relationships or love text mate. but the thing is that conversations on personally.

yes absolutely correct,the relationship of online does go off only because its virtual ,however there is not non virtual relationship which can be said that it will alst forever.

If you are talking about relationship started from online I will agree with you in some instances. But if your relationship would be strong enough online will be a big factor to strengthen it in some cases like they are far apart for valid reason. There are many advantages and dis-advantages on online relationship which for me it depense to the concern how they handle the situation like what you are talking about.

In the past, when I was very young (maybe 13-15) I "dated" people online. At the time I took those relationships seriously, but considering my age, it's not like I really knew what I was getting myself into. I suppose at the time I was just happy to label myself as someone's "girlfriend". Those relationships never truly lasted and never really got anywhere. My current boyfriend I did meet online, but we didn't start dating online. We met in person and it went on from there. I have no problem getting to know people online and possibly meeting in the future, but I would never have a virtual relationship unless I truly intended on having it be in "real life" eventually. I don't have to worry about that now though, of course. I have several online friends that I feel I can easily talk to and trust, though. Just because you meet someone online doesn't mean they cannot be trusted or whatever. I've "met" people through the internet years ago and still remain friends with a number of them today.

Hi rambansal, where have you been?. A good relationship grow because of those things you have mentioned, to add add on, one should work together and familiarize wit the person well, just to know that person much better. Online relationships can work but has so many limitations for a healthy relationship. Considering the fact that we are humans, one is easily attracted by what he/she can see and touch just to make sure it is real, by online things are always virtual- as one mylotter said pretense. I don't value such relationships especially when we are from different countries and not in one continent either. Good to see you friend

I think online relationships can work for the people who want to keep their distance and just want a virtual relationship. For instance, I get to know people through their words. We can never really know someone online, but we can get clues sometimes as to the type of person they are by watching and 'listening' to them as they communicate. Now, for me, if they couldn't put a few sentences together to communicate with me, then I would not even give them the time of day. I want to get to 'know' them through their words before I even think about seeing them. If the relationship should ever advance to an offline status, I will have to be sure about the person, because I will not open myself up to get hurt again. I agree though, for a real romantic relationship, there must be mutual contact of some kind in the same physical location.. in other words.. they must be able to see, talk with, and touch one another.. just holding hands could be so romantic.. and say so much about the person.

I actually never tried having an online relationship. I'm a realist (if that's the word for it), I'd like to see, touch, and feel the person that I have a relationship with. Plus I also wanted to know if he is real. You see, I've heard a lot of stories about online relationships that when you see them in person they are so different, I don't only mean physically, but their personality is different than what they are online. So, I for one would rather stay only as friends with people I meet online.

i think online relationship wont work out well. it's because you never really knew that person personally. you will only knew the person base on the story they will tell you, and most of them might be lies. meeting friends online are nice but being in a relationship with them, well you have to think a hundred time about it.