My mother, I Miss Her So Much Already
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
Philippines
October 5, 2011 12:37am CST
No, I am not the apple of my mother's eyes - that goes to the surviving eldest child in the family. However, I used to stay by her side since childhood, helping her out with the housechores in the best way I can.
She is now in her 80's and has gone weak considerably. Since I am living in a quite far away place with a son who needs a good amount of my attention, traveling to the hometown is no easy task for me. So I talk to my siblings to keep myself updated on her whereabouts. Although I know that she is well taken care of, I still worry about her. Not a day passes away that I do not ponder as to how she is doing.
I would like to know, as to how would the rest of us around here, will resolve a longing for a most beloved mother other than how I do it as of this time.
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7 responses
@00fear (3216)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Yea I know where this is going to. I can imagine my mom going to that age where she is going to need all that attention when she hits in her 80's. I would like to stay near where she and my dad end up living so I can help them as much as I can. That way I won't have to worry about them a lot because I know I have an eye on them. They looked out for me when I was a kid, now is my turn.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
I strongly agree with your insights on this, 00fear. Our parents will need us once they reach their ripe old age. For our part, we needed them most while we were growing up.
It is indeed a good thing to be living with or near our parents once they are reaching their golden ages up. These are the times when they will need and love to have their children around.
For my part, i happened to have left her side years ago because, of some pressing family issues that i have to face. God is good to me and my children though, we are doing fine for the years that we have been living quite far from my mom and my brothers and sisters.
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@vasumathi (436)
• India
5 Oct 11
You are very sweet !!!! Even i too stay away from my mother. But always connected to her with mobile. I have her smiling photo in my purse. when ever i face any tough situation, i just open my purse and mom with her smile tells that " i am with you !!"
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
You are right. A mother is a good inspiration for us always and forever. My mother, she lives in my heart.
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@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Oct 11
hi trinidadvelasco oh do make a special effort to see her even if it's not easy with your son. I am almost 85 and having my son come to see me each week is wonderful and makes me so happy. she probably misses you as much as you do her too.no make it a m
ust to see her as what if she gets ill or has a heart attack and is gone oh please go see her a few times and get siblings to help you to make the trip as us old women love to see
our loved ones.go see her please, make the effort as your son should see his grandmom too. good luck God Bless.


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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
Many thanks for the sweet advice, Hatley. Neither am I young anymore as i am nearing my 60's. This is the reason why i easily understand and feel that my mom wants to see me, too. In fact, to make sure that her children can pay her frequent visits, she would immediately take some money from her purse when we are about to leave. We find it funny and cute. It seems like she remembers us as college students yet. She makes sure to make us comfortable for the duration of our stay, too.
We love our mom so much. All of us surviving 5 children of hers, always talk about how to make her comfortable so she will live more years in this world in a healthy body and frame of mind. My dad has long been gone. I will always desire to have my mom comfortable days...may she have more and more to come.
@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
21 Oct 11
if you have other source to communicate with her aside from your siblings, like if she has her own phone that you can call so you can talk to her everytime you feel the need. good to hear that you still have your mom and you can still show your love for her.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
Why not try talking to her to ask her how she is through the cellphone or a web cam?
You can ask her what she wants and promise her you will be sending it direct from Manila, my father in law who is a bit younger always asks my wife for shoes and things from Manila although those are readily available in where he is, elderly folks like to do this for assurance so we send what he asks for plus a lot more, it makes them very happy when they receive packages and cash from Manila (although he does not need it that much, he'll only share it with his other grand children
)
, my mom lives with us so she gets all she asks for as long as I can afford it.



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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
Oh, hi there, louievill. Yes, that would be great. My mom though never picks up the phone anymore. Also, I have an elder sister who provides all the things that she finds mom to be in need of.
There are cute sides to our parents and I have discovered that in my mom long ago. She loves to have some of the things that her children owns. Like the bag that i am using when i will be paying her a visit. Once i find that she likes it, i will surely leave it with her. There was a time when she liked the shoes that i was wearing, she got it, too.
As for the money, funny that she is still the one who offers us some cash when we pay her visits. She will always say that she has some extra cash at hand. Oh, no...just enough amount to make one buy her some things for my brothers to secure for her.
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@kearkear (963)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Oct 11
You are very sweet daughter. I could feel same way with my present situation. I missed so much my mother. As I remember how she always taking care of us. We are far from each other due to my working place. Every night as I go to sleep I always thinking my mother how's her day and all.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
How lucky of us to have been gifted by the good Lord of excellent mothers, kearkear. Since they have showered us with love during our younger days, we love and cherish our moms so much and they become dearer still as we advance in our ages.
Yes, the more I understand the mother's role in the family, all the more that i value my mom. It may be true that as we advance in our ages, our parents need not look after us the way it was when we were kids but, their guidance and wisdom lives within us and light our paths as we tread our ways of life. No one can rob the parental love that has successfully grown healthily within each one of us. A treasure beyond any measure.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
10 Oct 11
I am so sorry to hear that. I think you are doing the best you can under the circumstances. I am sure your mother knows you love her very much. I hope you can see her soon.
