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Hmmm.. Perhaps your boyfriend is a traditional male-type who thinks that it's the job of the woman to cook and clean. Perhaps you could strike a deal with him about sharing these responsibilities, afterall, both of you are working (or bringing home the bacon) therefore, both should have a share on the responsibilities as well. I guess this is a common scenario for two people who 'go the next level', we all have expectations that sadly will never be filled and we only like the 'thought' of living together, but if we're already in the situation and we don't get what we want, we immediately think that we couldn't be for each other. Given the number of years as lover and about a year living together, perhaps you should decide right now if you want this type of life or not (before you get pregnant and both of you go the next level). Have a great Mylot experience ahead!

why stay together if you're just not happy? I think it is important to work out issues and want to try to make things work, but if you're just not happy and think you would be better off alone at this point in you're life than maybe you should think about breaking up. obviously I'm not in your relationship and don't know enough about it but if thing's don't get better and you can't work out you're issues then I would say something really needs to change. I think communication is a huge thing, do you guy's talk out these issues? Tell him how you feel and that you don't like that he expects you to always cook and clean. Just be honest and compromise.

You were in such a hurry to tag the BR which has discouraged me from giving my response here!

I agree with Laydee. Your boyfriend might be one of those traditional/old-fashioned type of guy. I know all about those type of guys, because my husband is one of those guy. I agree with Laydee. Your boyfriend might be one of those traditional/old fashioned type of guy. Who believes that a woman's place is in the kitchen, but then most guys are programmed to think that way. Woman do work in and around the house, while the man brings home the bacon. If your boyfriend is expecting you to cook, and clean now that you two live together then he'll always expect that from you. It doesnt matter how many jobs you have or even if you're going to school. None of that matters because he probably sees you as wifey and he is gonna expect you to carry out wifey duties. But it doesnt hurt to try and talk to him. If talking doesnt work, try typing him an email explaining how you feel and the problem you have toward him. If it's tough now what do you think will happen when you become his wife and have his kids.

Just suggestions, do not cook, order out or go out. Look for those things that do not cost that much more if you have to make them yourself. Buy fruits and veggies to eat raw and go with any special which is healthy but that does not require preparation. Ask him if he would like to dine out sometimes. Do not make messes. Get the place in a clean and neat order and then keep it that way. It is easier to maintain than big messes and you can focus on your studies instead. Spend more time out like the library for your studies or going to places to chill between things instead of home. Ask him to clean the shower when he is done and do not ever, never, expect him to buy you things but go shopping with him instead and perhaps for basic things you need look sad because of the price tag. Try that?

Keep on allowing him to pay the bills. Everybody's relationships are different either the female is going to put too much or the male is going to put in too much. When your in a relationship balance is the key word, your going to agree or disagree but always find a solution to whats bothering the both. Communication is the best you can have. Make yourself happy start buying yourself things that make you feel good, start eating out more, pamper yourself. Remember he's paying the bills & he expects you to cook & clean most men are like that. If thats what he chooses to do w/ his $ than thats ok but you should pamper yourself, go out w/ your friends

All I can say, since I don't have any experience with this aside from observing others, is that in a relationship, you should be able to communicate this problem with him. What I know in a couple's relationship is that they both should share the burden of the other. If you start to complain without talking it out with your partner, that's where it start to get...how should I say this...nasty. My best advise I can give you, take time to communicate with each other, understand what the other feels then from there know what you have to do.