Rude people
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
October 5, 2011 9:09am CST
What do you consider to be rude when it comes to talking to people in mylot?
I know from my experience with online sites where your able to have discussions, or chating with people everyone finds rude being differently. Some times I think that someone is being rude but they aren't its how I perceive what they are saying to me when it comes through as a text, IM, or even a post.
I want to get and idea of what everyone things of how they determine someone for being rude. If someone is being rude to you to or you feel they are being rude to you do you tell them and want a sorry, do you want them to explain better about what ever your talking about, or do you just let it go.
If I feel someone is being rude to me I try to let it go unless they keep at it and if I tell them please don't do that, I find that to be hurtful or mean and they still keep being rude to me, then I might say something them to them but I would try to say it in a nice way with out making a big fight about it. Because there are other things I could be doing then fighting through a computer at people.
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9 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
5 Oct 11
What I have learned being a myLot member is that sometimes we have re-read the responses/comments a second time and see if we can see it differently. There are times when perhaps I might thing something is rude when it probably is not. Being that there are so many members from all over the world I try to remember that perhaps something that seems rude maybe is not.
If something was actually rude I try not to stoop to the same level. I come here and find it to be a home away from home and do not want to get stressed and worked up about my online activities. It really would not make sense to me to get stressed out about something someone said online. I have enough of that offline and try to avoid it here.
Fighting leads to flaming and something that myLot admins will not tolerate. So if it becomes a fight it can be reported, using the (!) report button and Admin will review and take care of it.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Oct 11
Yeah some times when I re-read certain things some times it does come out as a misunderstanding and other times its just them being rude depending on a person. I have a way of finding mean people some times. Some times I know some people just don't know they are being mean or hurtful in some way or another by the way they might word somethings. I have seen sometimes if you ask someone to re-saying it or reword it it can better show you what they are talking about.
I hope I never have to us (!)mark on someone.
I normally just try to ignore it unless they are keeping at it and then I might ask them why do you say this. I normally re-read anything before I say something to someone online no matter where I'm at. Some times when I read something it sounds different in my head then what that person is meaning. Before I try to over reacted about what someone says I try to ask them what do them mean, explain why or something. But if I've know them all my life and I know how they talk and write and they are rude I'm going to say something to them about it.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Yes I find it is best to ignore and move on to something else. There really is no point in me getting to fired up and or worked up over someone I can't reasonably discuss with.
There are far more enjoyable members here then there are rude ones. Which is why it makes for skip and or ignore much easier for me.
Thank you for the BR and I do hope all your myLot experiences are positive one. 
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Oct 11
So far its been good. I've only had one person say they didn't like one of my discussion about facebook and how he doesn't like it when people come here and complain about it. I just told him nicely that I'm sure lots of other people come on here and talk about all kind of sites out there and there isn't anything wrong with seeing what others feel about that site. Of course I also told him if you do like it then don't talk about it when that topic comes up. I think I said it in a very nice way.
I'm here just like everyone else to talk about certain things and make a little money on the side. I guess as I figure out which people to ignore I'll get good at not talking to them unless they are being nice or not friends with them.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
Hello shybear, In my experience I would avoid conversations that can lead to rude responses and comments. most special if they go under the religion and politcal interest. Now, when ever i experience some rude response, and comments, the only thing i do is report that post and that's it. we have an active admin and i don't have to waste time starting a word war knowing that am earning that much in this site
shybear, In my experience I would avoid conversations that can lead to rude responses and comments. most special if they go under the religion and politcal interest. Now, when ever i experience some rude response, and comments, the only thing i do is report that post and that's it. we have an active admin and i don't have to waste time starting a word war knowing that am earning that much in this site@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Oct 11
I would report them unless its them being rude to you and saying mean things to you first if they are just said something that sound it kind of rude then say something in a nice way other wise leave it if you can't or ignore like them like you said. If they are calling you names or saying mean things about you then report them is what I would do. I know over time I'll find the people that are rude and I'm going to ignore then and not be friends with them. Yeah religion and political discussions I can see those getting out of hand. I don't really like talking about those topics because some times they can be boring or it can be cool and interesting, or just way out of hand.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 11
if there are people rude to me, I will never respond. My life is full of problems, I will not add new problems again. If we respond to people who do rude, the problem will never be finished, and will probably be a fight. Let the people rude to me, the important thing I have never done rough.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Oct 11
You should let what someone says weather its rude or not stop you from commenting on something. If its about a topic your into then don't stop. Ignore what they say or say something to them, because not say something some times makes things worse and not better. Its not adding a problem in your life by saying something to them. Online things don't affect your every day life and your life problems, its only a problem if you let but a problem and done in a nice kind way by remind them what your saying is hurtful won't cause a fight unless you let it get out of hand by saying something mean to them as well. Some times some people don't know they are being mean by what they say and some times its a misunderstanding from what you are reading to what they are saying.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
7 Oct 11
Helllo my new comer friend I am agree with you in online as well as in offline life rude people are there but I am not rude I am soft in nature and everyone knows I am funny and I like only doing the fun. No fighting no rudeness no chance to tell anything to others.. hahha...keep smiling..
your profile photo is good...
your profile photo is good...@surekharathi (14146)
• India
8 Oct 11
Wow! sweet baby and I also love child. Friend I am not rude so dont ignore me...I trust on fun and innocent friendship...
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Oct 11
Oh thanks but that isn't my photo its one I got offline. I didn't want to put one up of my own baby. I love babies especially my own. If someone is being rude to me the first time I'll say nicely to them that it hurt my feelings. If they keep doing the same thing over and over again and stuff. I'll ignore them and not be friends with them.
@CharleneCrush (66)
• Netherlands
5 Oct 11
Well, I think that it is hard to see when someone is being rude, because we can't see other people their emotions trough the computer screen. Something can be understood completely wrong due to the lack of emotions.
But honestly, I think you're rude when you don't respect other people their opinion or tell yours harsh and in an offensive way. Nowadays people think it's okay to say everything they want 'cause it is their opinion and they've got the right to tell it. And I agree with them, I really do, but there is a difference between having an opinion or being rude. You can say something in a lot of different ways and even though I think that you shouldn't pay attention to everybody their feelings, I do think that you should try to not hurt them.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Oct 11
I agree with you CharleneCrush since we can't see a person physically when we are online. I know a lot of people love to use those little face to show how they feel but I think its hard sometimes to truly understand how they feel about something. I can see some times how some feels throw the way they talk online but not all of the time.
I do agree that people should say how they feel or see things but in a nice way that isn't hurt full. I know personally I would want some to tell me that I hurt there feelings online and offline. Because I'm going to say sorry I won't do that again and if I do please tell me again that it hurts. I normally let things go unless really uncalled for or very hurtful I'm going to say something like hey would you mind toning it down a bit or that was hurtful please don't say something like that to me it hurts my feelings really bad.
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@tpisces (66)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Yes people do look @ being rude in so many different ways depending on what it is. I know sometimes its hard to control sometimes you have to leave the site even if you don't want to just to take a breather or 2. People are more sensitive to other people also but some aren't. It has alot to do w/ how you were raised & the type of people you associate with.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Oct 11
I think its more of our personality and age. Some older people can be quite rude and mean just like younger people can people. But I think also people just misunderstand things or just don't know what to say and if they say something some times they say it in a way that makes things worst and not better. I know some people from being online since I was a young teen that most of the time a rude person will get others to gain up on them or they will fallow that person around in some way by saying. That can get annoying to see, and be in.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
6 Oct 11
It depends on the nature of the rudeness. If the person is normally friendly and thoughtful then I just assume that it is a bad day or maybe I'm misunderstanding them. If it is an on-going rudeness then I might try to talk to them. Maybe they don't realize how rude they are being. After that, if they choose to continue to be rude then I'll just ignore them. Some people are just blind to their own rudeness and don't care.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Oct 11
I think if I'm going to say something to them. I'll think really hard to how I'm going to say it so I don't make them upset and I'll say it in a way they will understand depending on where they are from in the world. Some times things are better left alone so its like one of those things should you or should you not. If it happens once I might say something depending on what it was that was said. Other times I'll just ignore it and not talk to them at all and not even be friends with them and if we are friends and I see them doing something like that all of the time to other people and myself then I won't talk to them till are being nice or just ignore them.
@sanofer (525)
• India
6 Oct 11
many people in mylot are really good and cool.there are some exceptions.they respond to my questions very rudely as if i dont know anything.as a new comer i will have many doubts in my mind.many have cleared my doubts and some are very rude in answering.but i dont bother people and ignore them because my mom taught me to consider good people and to ignore bad people.arguing with rude person is waste of our time and we can spend this time in responding to others discussion.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Oct 11
Yeah a lot of people with new people are just trying to look out for it and it can come off as being rude. If someone is rude to me I just say something about it if it really hurt my feelings or I just move on for it. If they keep doing it and being rude over and over again then I just ignore them. Not all rude people are bad people. Even people that are nice and responded in a nice way aren't always good people. What we see isn't always what we get.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Oct 11
So I'm guessing no matter how mean or rude a person is to you online you just ignore them and move on. Right?
