when one's love is not enought

I am very sorry to hear about your situation...I was also in a relationship very close to that. It was very hard to feel like I was of any type worth and thats why I stayed as long as I did too. He was a good friend in the beginning but it slowly changed and he was actually not very attractive but his personality was what got me so I even dated him when alot of people thought I looked too good for him. I remember we used to go places and notice him looking at everyone but me, then when people would look at me (he was very possessive) so he wanted to fight them for it. It was alot of ups and downs but I have no regrets, simply because I would probably not be this strong today without that experience. It was hard to face so much emotional damage done to my heart and my self worth but I am grateful I overcame it and learned how much I should have meant way more to myself and how I will never allow someone elses actions and words ever make me feel less of a person.

Hello, sorry to hear that. You are really tough to still hold on. For me, One's love is not enough when i'm not happy with the relationship, when i feel that the guy is not happy with me anymore and doesn't love me anymore, when the only thing that made us stay in the relationship is RESPECT. We sometimes have to respect our selves and love ourselves more than we love others. I know it's easy to say but it's hard to do. believe me, I've been through that. I'm not beautiful but i'm not ugly as well.

I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. There are very few things that make me angry right off the bat and that is one of them, when someone treats another person like that. It's hard to say though, what i would do had i been in your situation because i have never been in that situation. I would like to think that i wouldn't put up with it and i would leave the person, after giving them a piece of my mind. Having said that, there is the psychological element to the situation which makes a difference, and the reasons for staying, fear is a hard emotion to overcome and many people that have been in similar situations as you were did the same thing, so don't beat yourself up over it, what matters is that you did get out of the relationship.

You really were in a hard situation. It is difficult when a person is in a situation like you were in. There were and are currently people who do the same thing that you did. So don't overly beat yourself up about. At least you were able to recognize it before things got really bad.

What happend to you happend to me and to many other women. Perhaps you wasted some years but during those years you tried hard and you learned some lessons. You learned that you are able to give everything and go on where most people would give up. You discovered all these things you don't like and you will never let happen again. You learned what is not a way to show love and you found yourself (back). You are a survivor and you can be proud of that. These were rough years but you are back, stronger as before. You know you are a great person and he is not. Nobody can take that away of you anymore.

my thing is never let some one tell you that no one will ever want you because thats not trust .. just cause he's scared to loose you he will tell you anything to make you feel bad and bring you down cause he stupid .. you should be strong enough to know what craziness and neediness is.. that's when people say anything to bring you down

When people love and in love they are blinded with that love and care for that person that they never realized they are treated so badly and abused emotionally. Emotional blackmail is one of the greatest defense a man/woman can have as weapon for their loved ones. I know you are in love and you just follow what your heart beats. But,you need to open your eyes and slowly look at the other side. you need some love too and now a one way around. Try to control your feelings and try to control showing how much you loved him,maybe he will realized your worth. have a good day