should i communicate with my ex to get my money back?

Philippines
October 8, 2011 11:47am CST
when i was yet with my ex boyfriend, he asked to borrow money from me so that we can start a business. the business was like giving out loans for people but then my money was the only capital. we broke up and it has been a year when since i was not able to contact him. rght now i really need the money and so i am thinking should i communicate with him to get my money back? should i tell my current boyfriend about my plan? please help guys.
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• Philippines
8 Oct 11
They say that 'honesty is the best policy'. I think you should tell your current boyfriend about it first. If he agrees, then I guess you could contact your ex. As for your ex, I think it's been quite a while since you broke up, is that right? So why would telling him that you need your money back be a problem? One thing that makes me curious though is why it was only your money used as capital? Wouldn't that be your business, then? Or at least, you have a share in the profit as well. Then your ex shouldn't be so hesitant to answer when you call.
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• United States
8 Oct 11
I agree, she should tell her current boyfriend what is going on. I also feel that if she did things legally with a paper trail, she should be able to get her investment back.. but she may have to take him to court.
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
i am not able to reach my ex boyfriend anymore since i think he changed his number. if i do things legally then that would be more expense on my part. i have hesitations in telling my current boyfriend about this situation because he also plans to borrow my money and i dont want to repeat the same mistake again.
• United States
8 Oct 11
I hope you had a legal contract between you. If there was no paperwork where he signed a promissory note, then I am afraid you are up the creek without a paddle. I hope you did everything in a business like manner, and not just because he was your boyfriend. I would approach your ex boyfriend by email and see if he answers. If he acknowledges in any way that he owed the money or that he isn't going to return the money, you may be able to use that against him in a court of law. I wouldn't keep any secrets from your current boyfriend, because he should know what is going on. Good luck with that.. hope you can get your money back.
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
that is why i am depressed because we have no paperworks that document the money borrowed. i am trying to reach my ex boyfriend through facebook so that i can talk to him about getting my money back. thank you for your advice pointless..
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Oct 11
I do think that you should let your boyfriend know of the situation first. And see what he thinks about it. But I do think that it may not be a bad idea to get in touch with your ex about the money he borrowed. So long as your current boyfriend has no problem with it. After all it is money that he borrowed, and I do think that it should be returned.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
9 Oct 11
It's a decision that's got two things...current boyfriend and an ex-boyfriend. Money is hard to come by. If you think your ex can pay you back without any problems, I would contact him if you aren't afraid of something. You have to communicate to get what you need in order to survive. Hope this helps..If the current boyfriend knows about your past relationship, their shouldn't be any problems
@prokat (229)
8 Oct 11
If it is my I'll be honest I think the better he knows it directly from you than he knows of others, why I say so because in my opinion it is better rather he get the story from someone else who is not necessarily a good story, Well of course you should look for situations good when you will say that. if your partner loves and believes in you I think he would say 'you better be careful still remember me here' ...^___^ honestly remember much better friend good luck