Would you sacrifice you personal values to please another?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
October 8, 2011 6:47pm CST
Winning friends can be as easy as being ourselves and letting our natural integrity shine forth. Too often, people try to conform to others standards of behavior and belief, in an effort to win their approval. The truth is the people whose attention we most appreciate, are attracted to us because we have chosen to live in accordance with our own personal values. Do you agree?
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@allknowing (136560)
• India
9 Oct 11
I would look at the whole picture and weigh the pros and cons of any situation when sometimes it would be that I would relent and sometimes not. Life is not about having ones way no matter what.
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@allknowing (136560)
• India
9 Oct 11
I don't quite agree with you. Our principles could be meaningless when compared to the change that is expected of us. I am saying it because I have experienced it and have known the consequences of sticking to my own thinking.
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@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
Yes, i agree as i will not compromise my sets of values just to please others. People are attracted to me because of my values in life so why should I will compromise them with someone who's not going to live with my standards?
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@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
9 Oct 11
Surely our personal values are who we are, in which case why on earth would we sacrifice them, even for love. In fact, if we have been open and honest, the other person should surely know what our personal values are, and if he/she still asks us to sacrifice those valuable things, they are likely not the right person for us to be with.
Lash
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
9 Oct 11
Hello Pose,
No i won't sacrifice my personal values to please others because i beleive to be what i am and feel that people should accept me the way i am.
There is no use of moulding myself for someone as i don't think i would be able to mould myself for 1000s of friends i have.It would be difficult to please everyone its better to please people who have accepted me what i am.
@pumpkinjam (8767)
• United Kingdom
10 Oct 11
I agree with you. If someone expected me to sacrifice my values, I don't think I would want them to be my friend. If they could not accept me just the way I am, I don't think I would get on with them.
There are times when our values may change or our minds are changed about things either through experience or through seeing other people's situations but other people should not expect us to sacrifice values just to please them and it is not something I would do.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Oct 11
No I would never do something just to be accepted. I guess being teased at a very young age Do have a benefit. I don't rely other's viewpoints . I'm not a leader nor am I the sheep.I have always done what I thought was right fir me. If it was immoral , so be it. It works for me.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
10 Oct 11
I also believe that and I would not compromise my values or way of life just for a friendship. I have friends that I do question their integrity....but as long as they don't caputure me into their situations I don't really make it my business. My friends are my friends.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
13 Oct 11
Each situation requires it's own answer to this problem. My values are mine and not necessarily always correct for each and every problem that comes along, for every rule there are exceptions. However there are values that I can never think of a situation that would cause me to override them. Most of us at some time in our lives will find that we must make a choice between one or another of our values.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
17 Oct 11
Hi Pose: I agree with you. It's very important to be ourselves, if someone is a friend of us for doing the things he/she want us to do but that don't correspond to our values, this relationship won't be honest because we'd be faking our feelins, so why to do this? I don't think it's right and I won't feel happy pretending to be someone else. First I have to respect myself and then I can approach to the others.
ALVARO
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