Deleting 'friends' from the friends list

@allknowing (136100)
India
October 8, 2011 11:09pm CST
What would prompt you to delete a friend from your friends'list? I have so far not done so although I may not interact with that 'friend'. From my experience here I have noticed that it does not matter whether a user is in your friends' list or not for interaction. Then why do users delete a friend. Is it not an insult to a user who could be by all standards not someone who would damage anyone by being in the friends list?
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@vinay049 (1878)
• India
9 Oct 11
I have never deleted any of my friends from my friend list since the time i joined mylot though some of them have become inactive.there is no harm in keeping them in our list.by making friends here,we can get various good discussions in which i have interest and also can interact with them about certain issues.and deleting a friend or not accepting a friend request would be an insult to anyone.just make friends and enjoy here that is why i come here everyday or whenever i get time.
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@vinay049 (1878)
• India
9 Oct 11
If some one is misusing Pm system then you can delete them but anyone who was active in past and just because of some reason has become inactive no need to delete them.he/she can come back and become active again.
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@allknowing (136100)
• India
9 Oct 11
Deleting a friend for no apparent reason does leave a bad taste in the mouth and there are a few here who do that. I have not done that so far unless if I see them misusing the PM system.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
9 Oct 11
There are instances when other senior members also have not accepted my friendship request -- there may be many reasons --I did not take it as an insult. I waited for a few months and thereafter deleted my friendship request.have a good day.
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• United States
9 Oct 11
People play silly games on here sometimes. I had someone request to be my friend just so they could pm me what they wanted and then they deleted me as a friend. Just as well. All the person ever did was try to belittle me everytime I wrote a discussion that wasn't quite what they wanted to hear. Immaturity is all I can chalk it up to and low self esteem on their parts. I just get completely as far away from people like that as I can. I don't have time to be in a bad mood because of those types of people. Life is too short, and too many other difficult things go on in life to have to worry about people who want to behave that way.
@allknowing (136100)
• India
9 Oct 11
That certainly is not called for but how about someone deleting merely because you have a different opinion. Is it not childish. And also even if one is not on one's friends list responding and commenting can go on. Unless one does what your user did or if they use the 'friend' to PM spam stuff etc there is no reason why one should delete anyone here. It is only those with with narrow minds I fee would do it.
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• United States
10 Oct 11
I am very sorry that this has happened to you. I can tell how much it is bothering you. Some people live to bother others. I know, it has gotten to the point that I have to leave a discussion if I don't agree with this one person because I know if I leave something disagreeable to that person that that person and friends will rate me negatively until it hurts my earnings on mylot. It has happened to me twice by the same group. It is ashamed they are allowed to do that. One of those persons got what they deserved once when they messed up very badly. It will happen again.
@allknowing (136100)
• India
10 Oct 11
It does not bother me but I just wonder what is it that they gain by doing so. It is not just me but I have read so many comments here about friends being deleted because they do not respond, or do not comment or have different opinions.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
9 Oct 11
There's a beautiful Harvest Moon, right now..so I can't let myself get riled by my own stupidity! To respond, I did NOT know that some-one could be "deleted" from my Friend's List...my limited knowledge. I knew I could turn the "notifier" OFF, which I have done..on a couple of persons. I did so, for my own sanity..some days my "inbox" absolutely flooded with, to me, "nonsensical" drivel, that would take forever to wade thru...respond where I could and NEVER receive a reply or recognition of my input, and to me, a bit of a slap in the face. I have limited time here, (I work, several jobs) and I prefer quality..over quantity! This is the ONLY paying site, that I have any association with...I have made it abundantly clear, I am NOT interested in ANY other participation in scams, spams,etc., so will turn notifier OFF if I am PM'd with anything like this! I really need to take some down time, and learn to navigate this site better, each day I learn something new. DUH! Piqued my interest, allknowing!
• Canada
9 Oct 11
I am still giggling..you are too funny, this morning, allknowing! I truly do "thank you" for taking the time to set me on a virtual path of learning...are you peeking/watching me walk around in oblivion? It is 5:05 a.m., have been up since 3:30, even tho' a day off, can't seem to sleep in! I whined about a slap in the face, in my earlier response...I think "deleting" a friend would go one step further...and that is NOT part of my demeanor! I don't walk thru life as a TIDAL wave...and I LOVE rational differences of opinions that DON'T get personal! And "thank you" for the nice compliment! It is our Thanksgiving, tomorrow..but am having the dinner today, so time I cook my "goose"...I mean the turkey..LOL! Thank you, always for taking time to respond..and have a spectacular day!
@allknowing (136100)
• India
9 Oct 11
Switching off notifiers is a wise thing to do as anyway all these topics one can see on one's home page under different tabs. But deleting a friend unless the user misuses the facility is to my mind a mean thing to do. I have not deleted any one although I do not interact with some of them as I have not felt comfortable doing so. So you have decided to cook your goose already today. Enjoy your Thanksgiving and let it be a great day for you.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
13 Oct 11
The only time I have really deleted a friend is every so often I go through the list and the ones that have had their accounts deleted or have been on there for over a year without activity..I do delete. I guess I could leave them on there but if I do, when I want to find a profile or send a message I have to go through a list where over half the people aren't on here anymore. Take care!
@shibham (16977)
• India
9 Oct 11
Yes, i do delete friends if someone never comes to my discussions and never comments back when i respond to his/her discussions and i get skipped. i delete who has no activity from years and no symptom to come back and has a very low post. have a nice time.
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@allknowing (136100)
• India
9 Oct 11
Once I accept a friend I never delete it even though they never respond to the topics posted by me nor comment on the responses I post. I find no point in doing it as they can stay there in my friends list as long as they wish to.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
9 Oct 11
We get mails whenever our friends post discussions. I recently deleted a few names --most of them were not participating in discussions for a long time. It is not for insulting the members. We should not take it as an insult when another member deletes our name from friends list. In fact there are a few senior members who have not accepted my friendship for more than 3 months. After seeing their not accepting I had to delete my request for friendship.
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@allknowing (136100)
• India
9 Oct 11
Even I have not accepted friends' requests which have been kept pending since I would accept them when I find them active. But deleting a friend after accepting the user is to my mind not being polite specially when that user is active and has no reputation of being a nuisance.
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