Power of Introspection
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
India
October 10, 2011 12:49pm CST
Hello everyone,
We all get into situations of argument & confrontation with people often. Nothing wrong about it. It happens because each of us thinks he/she/they are right & the other person is wrong. It happens among siblings, friends, colleagues and even among spouses. What starts as a small difference develops into a heated conversation, argument finally leading to acrimony and bitterness. It is a result of negative vibes or feelings we carry due to various internal emotions & external influences. If each party refuses to yield or retreat, it may lead to undesirable consequences.
How to defuse such situations and restore order?
I suggest introspection. The parties concerned or at least one of the parties must retreat a bit and then both must introspect a bit. Introspection is a way of cooling off frayed nerves & temper. We are able to collect our thoughts and reason much better in solitude than amidst noise & jar.
It is quite likely that each person will be able to analyze the situation better and start reasoning right & wrong. They will both be able to shed negative vibes and be more appreciative of the other person's point of view.
Do you introspect? Do you find it is a healthy way of understanding each other? Or do you feel it is meaningless?
Share your thoughts & experiences.
3 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
10 Oct 11
To be honest I don't get into situations of argument and confrontation with people often. If someone asks for my opinion I will give it. it's not important to me to get my right or to tell the other one he/she is wrong. I don't need to or want to make a point out of that. A small difference can't develop in a heated conversation if you don't want it to be that way. It all has to do with how you respond on the different opinion of someone else.
As long as you are aware of different vibes, different feelings, the fact everybody has different life experiences and one word can mean many things to different people you will have discussions in an other way. If there is no reason for you to "win" you will have complete different conversations as when you feel competition.
In most cases there is no right or wrong just an other point of view. If you have enough self esteem, know yourself you don't have the need to prove yourself or your "right".
The only thing I find healthy is to be honest and say what is on my mind. Not important is if others agree with me or share my opinion.
I think it's meaningless to start fight about nothing or because you just want others to admit you are right (read: a great person).
@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
22 Oct 11
Nice said , kitty , I think that way too.
Many things in the reality are not the way we want , we can't force them to be how we want. We don't have to be angry about it. We just find our own way how to deal with it.
So does with other opinion : we can tell our opinion and hear their opinion. We can give our reasons and hear their reasons , we can learn how other people think.
Turning the conversation into a fight is always wrong , it's not healthy to become mad and angry.
I have a flex mind , I know there are many sides for every conversation and I even like hearing them.
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
Wow...I love discussing topics like this.Thanks for letting us share our own thoughts and experiences Pushhyarag2000:-). Whenever I and my friend,classmate,brother,mother,etc. have arguments, I always ask the other party on what makes them disagree with me. I let them speak. After I have heard their sides, I then speak mine. I could hear hurting words from them. It's hard not to get hurt but I always think that a key to cooling one's nerve is to express it.When I say my side, I'm careful not to hurt other's feelings because I believe on what Oprah said that "Always keep your words soft and sweet...just in case you'll have to eat them, you can swallow it well".
@umabharti (3972)
• India
10 Oct 11
everyone should introspect oneself ,how many do that,who have time for this,every one is right at their own place.
"Every one is right at their own place" what do u say about this ,yes or no?
I feel that is yes means when make our selves be in the others shoe then we come to know why the other person is talking like that.we feel that it is right,again when we beocme our own self then we feel that the other person was wrong,Its hard to judge my friend,its really hard.
Introspection should be there,and also when we are right we should not find fault from our end,we should have the strength to say the other person that he or she is wrong in her or his views.
