are grades everything
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
October 10, 2011 2:59pm CST
Do you think your child's grades are everything?
I mean everything as in you get upset and made at your child if they have no straight A's. That they must be perfect at school to please you and make themselves over time to get a A.
Or do you care about your child's grade but let it be as long as they are passing the classes and giving there all and not doing the there all to please you but to please themselves.
Me I'm the kind of parent where when my child comes home happy about the grade they got and please that they did all that hard work for that grade. I rather my child come home sad they got bad grade because they feel they deserved better or worked so hard for a better grade that they didn't get. I don't want my child to feel bad that they didn't get the grade that I wanted for them the one that would please me and me alone. I would be heart broken if I cause that kind of pain to my child to be endlessly perfect when nothing is ever perfect.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
I have two nephews that go to their school. We don't really enforce them to be perfect when it comes to grades, but we really appreciate it when they do. When they have a low score on some subject, we'd ask why and we'd also help them know how it became wrong.
I also do that to my Korean students on the phone. I would congratulate them on making good grades yet I'd hear them saying their parents wouldn't be satisfied with just passing grades. Kind'a makes me pity them for studying too much. (-_-")
Yes, studying is important but grades wouldn't really determine a person's success in the future. I mean, we all know very rich and successful people in the world and you'd be surprised that their background, especially when it comes to academics aren't as impressive at all.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Oct 11
I would never enforce my child to be perfect its too much pressure for a little child. I would rather them do there best and if they don't do good I'll help them to get a better grade but I'm not going to force them to be perfect for me but just for themselves.
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
11 Oct 11
That's right! As long as your child is happy then you are happy! 
My parents always try to support me and I try to make them proud Pretty much, I actually set my own standards that I want to achieve high in school in order to take the career path that I want. Some parents even create their child's career path like forcing them to study hard so that they could become Doctor. All children deserve the right to make their own decisions and not every child wants to be a Doctor. I like to make my parents proud but because I actually get good marks, they pretty much expect high of me now but they only care if I achieve in the serious subjects like my sciences, maths and English. But really, a parent should always be supportive, never push a child's limits because some kids aren't straight A students. no matter how hard they try.
My parents always try to support me and I try to make them proud Pretty much, I actually set my own standards that I want to achieve high in school in order to take the career path that I want. Some parents even create their child's career path like forcing them to study hard so that they could become Doctor. All children deserve the right to make their own decisions and not every child wants to be a Doctor. I like to make my parents proud but because I actually get good marks, they pretty much expect high of me now but they only care if I achieve in the serious subjects like my sciences, maths and English. But really, a parent should always be supportive, never push a child's limits because some kids aren't straight A students. no matter how hard they try. @ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Oct 11
Yeah, I see that way as well as long as the child is happy you should be happy.
These days your grades don't really pick what course of like you take in life. You can have the worse grades and make it very far in life and have a really good job and a person with really good grades could have the crappy job that no one wants. A child should motivate themselves and reward themselves for there grades. As long as my child has a passing grade I'll always be happy.
@jomarie2011 (48)
• Sweden
10 Oct 11
Hi, I agree with you.. We can't actually force the mental capacity of children, if that's what he got, then just be fine with it. what parents can do is to encourage them and probably give them rewards whenever they get more than what is expected of them. When I was a kid, I always have this pressure on my shoulders especially from my mom, but that did have a positive effect on me but I told myself that, when the time comes that I will have my own child, I will not do the same to him or her, I will just be there to give the support he or she needs and be happy with what he or she gets in school...
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Oct 11
I don't think we should reward our kids for doing what they are suppose to do I never was. I some times got to go out to eat every now and then when I made the honor roll but that was it.
@ralphs (209)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
you know even though you son/daughter got an A straight be thankful that they passed their grade because i know children doing their best . just dont pressure your son and daughter to get an A+ . some parents pressure their kids to have a high grade and the kids were stress then unfortunately they kill themselves because of pressure and stress.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Oct 11
I never said I wouldn't be happy if my daughter didn't get straight A's in class, as long as she is doing it for herself and not for me. Well that is what the discussion is about parents forcing there child to be the best out of everyone in the class for there parents and not themselves. That is what I stated above which you might have missed while reading the discussion.
