how can i draw the line between friendship and love??

Well, all of the fears you mentioned are fears people have when they are in love. There are no promises with anything in life. I have to say on the other hand, saying "I love you" in a text is not the same as saying it in person. Its less personal. I know this is going to sound corny but there is a famous saying "It's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all". Having been and still being in love myself, I have to tell you. There is no greater or worse feeling in the world than that of love. Love is the feeling that can raise you up to the highest points and bring you to your knees in tears all in a matter of moments. You never know if you dont try. Without being the lover to this friend, you could also lose her as a friend. Which is worse? losing her because of pride, losing her from fear or possibly never losing her because the love is true?

It is better to have loved & lost than to have never loved at all!!! Yes, losing someone you love hurts!!! I have been there & much like you I closed my heart to everyone who might even remotely have a way of hurting me. Then I met the man of my dreams & I fell like a house of cards!!! I believe that if you're still able to draw that line of protection, then you just haven't yet met the right person for you!!! Once you meet your one real true love, you will throw the door open & say come on in!!! There were many times over the years that I "thought" I was "in love"; but once I actually met my true love, I knew that the other times weren't true feelings of love...just very heavy like. I think you should be HONEST with your best friend by telling her that you are flattered that she feels love for you, but you cannot return that love & ONLY want to remain close friends!!! Then insist that you ONLY love her as a friend NOT a romantic love!!! If she's truly your friend, she will respect your wishes. She cannot make you love her & as long as you're being totally honest about your feelings, she should have NO reasons to misunderstand how you feel!!! Once you finally find that one person who you truly love & who truly loves you back, there is NOTHING in the world like it!!! It makes ALL the old hurt just go away & fills the heart with happiness!!!

I could surely say that you should 'go for it!' because she said it first, there's no more need to court or be cute and all. She's giving herself to you. However, if you're too afraid to experience the things you are afraid of. Then it's fine. Nobody should be forced into a relationship. You could draw the line by not doing things that lovers do. If you don't want her, just say so, then don't treat her extra special - be a regular guy. Women get attached too easily when one is very sweet and is always with her. Perhaps you could avoid spending too much time alone with her. Or invite other friends in walks or time spent usually alone with her. That will give her the idea that you are not interested. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Well stop living in illusion dude... You are not even sure she loves you and you started speculating all these.. May be someone hurt you so that you feel you cant fall in love..But how will you know if you never tried..If you are afraid of trying then just sit there and fret about your past...

The only thing: time. I've been there and I was so attracted to this friend, everyone expected we to end up together, all my boyfriends were jealous of him and after a decade we were both single and I was really into him, but it was attraction. I had an insane hudge feeling of friendship towards him, until today I can say that I really love him but turned out I love more him as sort of a brother than anything else. He's an amazing person and as I trust him blindly, everything messed up. Plus, we almost lived together, like very close and talking all the time. Only when I got away from him, in time, it healed and now I know what it was. Also, when I thought about doing something about it there was this part of me that pushed him away. And also my feelings would come and go, disappear, from time to time... So, if you are feeling this, these are the signs too. Happy MyLotting!

kamalvv, the fact is that you have already crossed that line, you do LOVE this person, that being said, I understand you are fearful of taking this to a romantic level where the love tends to change from the unconditional love we enjoy with our best friends. My best advice is to have a talk with her about this issue, assure her that you do love her but that you are fearful of losing her if things change. ALSO check the text again.... there is a vast difference between 'love ya lots' and 'I am in love with you' .... and IMHO being 'in love' carries some measure of possessiveness even when we don't want to think of ourselves being 'that way'

Take a chalk piece and draw the line in ur way See when u dont feel to have such relation then automatically your deed will be as such u start drawing a line between u both. Its not that hard for a person who doesnt love to feel the love,its a hard thing for a person who is in friendship to play love.

Hi, I am not sure of your age which can and will make a difference in this relationship. This is a hard one because if you guys are truly honestly best friends well you risk losing the friendship if you try to further the relationship romantically. On the other hand I think a good strong relationship is built on 1st becoming remarkable friends to one another so your friendship could be a strong foundation to a wonderful long lasting or even here ever after relationship. One thing to keep in mind is for BOTH of you to make sure that these feelings are real into going to the next level and not just the love you two have for one another as best friends. You are between a rock and a hard place. And only you and her have the true answer to this! Follow your heart or your head? Put some thought into that as well and DO NOT rush anything is my opinion. Your fear of losing her one day. Making a rushed decision could also lead to losing her and your best friend! Being in love is a very scary feeling, because we lose all control of protecting our hearts. That person can hurt you like you have never been hurt even if unentional !! Wishing you the best of luck and lots of love. Keep smiling. Love has a way of working ITSELF out sometimes.

I can really relate to the same scenario. only thing is that I am a girl. a guy best friend admitted his feelings to me after our 4 years of friendship. unfortunately i have no deeper feelings for him. i told him straight forward that i have no feelings for him and he was like a brother/friend to me. i told him to that we should forget what happened and what he revealed to me and still be good friends. of course he was hurt and down, saw it in his eyes and heard it from other friends. Sure, there will be some uncomfortable feelings being with only him after that. but i guess what helped in our friendship was when we both worked in different countries although still having communication by chatting. i came back after some years and him too. and we saw each other again, and the friendship is still there, and we became comfortable with each other again. we're still good friends until now.

Don't be afraid to fall in love...u know life without love is empty..I know sometime love is complicated but if u meet or find a right person to love...love will be so wonderful.