What do you do when you are angry?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
October 11, 2011 8:44pm CST
When you feel you are going to lose control of your anger, when you think you are so pissed off you want to get your hands on something, or someone... what do you do?
Is there any known exercise to keep your cool still? hehe deep breathing, taking a walk... what do you think helps to keep your mind focused on not being angry or not losing your temper?
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28 responses
@sanofer (525)
• India
12 Oct 11
i dont get angry easily.but if i feel angry on others i will take a deep breath first.then i will drink a cup of water and will start listening songs in my mobile.after that i will analyse whether i am wrong or the opposite party is wrong.if i am wrong,i will ask them sorry.if others are wrong i will make them to understand what went wrong.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
hi there sanofer. thank you for your response in my discussion.
maybe that is the best thing to do to cool down a bit, and to listen to music and sing along with the song! i mean it could get your mind off the thing that is bothering your mind right?!
hay.. i really need to know how to control anger and not jump into conclusions... it sometimes is just so heart breaking, i feel i cannot breathe...
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@sanofer (525)
• India
12 Oct 11
chiyosan,why should we get anger which dont give any happiness in return?try to smile on others who make you angry.you will see the different response from that person and you can increase your friends.they will surely help you one day when you are in need.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
12 Oct 11
When I anger I shouted loudly and tell ohhhh heard me I am angry ahhah.. just joking friend my voice is loud so I dont want to show that is I am angry and I think I trust only on laughing and fun so less time I feel I am angery.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
12 Oct 11
Haahha.... I will call them and then shout on them. If you want to check me then give me cell no. ahah... Ravision sir from USA called me to check my non stop talking..and Today I called in USA because on mylotter friend's birthday is Today not ravi sir she is good and innocent friend.
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@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
I run away from the source of anger, especially if it is my husband. The thing is I don't want to aggregate the situation, staying in one room with him will only make things worse. Besides, I feel suffocated whenever I am angry, I always have the need of fresh air. So running away is the best thing to do if it is a person.
If it is just something like a no big issue like the kids mess up with my stuff, I just take a deep breath, go to the bathroom and subject myself under a cold shower for ten minutes. It helps.
@shskumbla (3338)
• India
12 Oct 11
Hi,if you start yoga,Dyana(to concentrate one thing) half an hour daily it will help to control angry.divert your mind to any other matter listening your favorite song,watching tv etc...
@mehade (4)
• Bangladesh
12 Oct 11
Easy way to control the angry.
step-1: take a deep breath.
step-2: if you stand is moment than you should sit down.
step-3: if you sit, you should lay down.
i hope those three steps helps you.those methods helps me very lot.
i wish you control your angry & control your mind.angry is bad think.
we should control is emotion. you can't good think with angry.
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@sjvg1976 (41275)
• Delhi, India
12 Oct 11
Hello Chiyosan,
I rarely loose my temper but when i loose my temper i try to divert my mind to something which i like to do.
Like usually when i loose temper at home i try to involve myself in playing with my kids and that way i become normal and after sometime calmly analyse what went wrong.
When i get angry in my office i go to cafetaria to have a cup of coffee and enagage myself in gossiping with a colleuge.That way i easily get cool and analyse things after i calm down.
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@SilverVixen (284)
• United States
12 Oct 11
I dont normally get angry very easily. But when I do I go outside and chop down trees and bushes with a bush knife. It let's me destroy something but not hurt anyone. This wouldn't work for most people cuz they don't live in the middle of the woods,but if u do,try it. It helps me alot.
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@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
I like this discussion!
Well, I don't get angry a lot. My husband would always tell me that I have a good stretch of patience in me and I rarely get angry. But since, I'm human, there are certain things that really pisses me off to my very core. And so, thinking back when I was really really angry for some GOOD reason to be mad about, I felt like my strength really boost that I could punch a wall. I thought about doing that, but that will never help me. I went out, took a deep breath and kicked stones and grasses at the backyard. Then, I sat down, and gave myself time to calm down. I did! I was able to go back inside the house and reasoned out myself. Sometimes, when I don't have time to do it, I'd just keep quiet because I'm sure that I'd say something that will really hurt other's feelings and ask that person who made me angry to stop talking so to avoid really ugly fight. I never like fights that's why unless my string is really hit. So, it's my anger management strategy!
What's yours?
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@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Oct 11
When I get angry, I will take a deep breath, and close my eyes and count from one to ten (but it does not work sometimes lol ).
Sometimes, it works if I go to my room, lie down, close my eyes, and think of something else. Or eat my favorite ice cream to cool my head down.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
Depends on who you're angry with...
But as for me, what I do is lessen the argument with that person. Especially if those topics are the usual things and issues we fought about. That way I made myself cool and calm and no hurtful words for me to say.
Talking a walk surely helps, doing something else to forget it, say do a very long letter or write a long blog about something that would require you to research. go on shopping lol! go to nice places with happy friends. I'm sure you'll forget about getting angry....
if it's at work, then I guess taking a walk outside and stop talking to that person at least for few minutes would really help a lot. chat about it with your trusted friend if their online, it will help release your anger on some one.. hope some of this things I said helps you! =) good day!
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@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
16 Oct 11
When i get really really angry, i either make sure that i sort things out and fight over it. And if its beyond my anger then i just keep quiet and control my anger or would definitely harm someone!
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@ReViewMeMedia (3785)
• United States
23 Oct 11
I usually end up yelling at the person I'm angry with.
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@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
16 Oct 11
If I get angry I can act on it suddenly. If it is a building anger and I am in touch with it I ask myself how long I want to feel this way? I find anger sometimes motivates me to action but I have learned by listening and reading and by experience that 99.99% of the time decisions and actions in anger do not produce good results so I think in my anger what is making me feel this way and do I want to remember the reason so that when I am not with anger I can address it. I find it all changes (solutions) when I have time to cool down and think about things more. Hope this helps someone out there. If not have a nice day.
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@karstine29 (694)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
I actually don't know how to control my temper. That is why I usually feel regret sometimes. I am still on the stage of figuring out how to manage this kind of stressor. But I got tips on my mind. The first thing that you must do is to listen. Listen carefully to the person you have argued with. Then inhale and exhale. Calm yourself and think of the response that you will make. Always keep in mind that you need to keep yourself calm and make your words gentle. Just to keep situation at control.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
it probably is an art to be able to control anger. i saw my mom always losing her temper as a child. my mom really is the bully type, the one who seemed to always want a fight, who thinks things get done when you shout, etc. haha maybe that is why i myself have somehow thought that things never get done when you shout... (it just pains the ears. and nothing more!
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