"What do you think of his being silent...?"

mods196621, This is classic conditioning in a karmic relationship - you are conditioned to his strategy as well as being imprisoned by your karmic debt to his cruelty and indifference. In normal circumstances, run-of-the-mill advice will probably not get to you because of this karmic bondage you shared with him and conjure in your own mind. Therefore, I will give no advice, other than an analysis of your own plight, which I will mirror your inner self, in words, to my best effort. I can tell you eventually, you will suffer emotionally until the day this karmic debt is cleared, before you are bestow the necessary clarity to leave this man. Many would have probably talked about your stupidity in your choice to remain with this man, but somehow, that hardly change your decision. The reason why is because you are somehow conformed to perceive that it is a 'norm' in Love to suffer. Your refusal to leave your desolated isle to experience a better life outside this hell is because you are subconsciously conditioned to this delusion that you will never find a better life than 'hell'. But logically speaking, let me ask you: what are the chances to find a better place than hell? It is one hell of a high possibility! What can be more hell than hell itself? You harbour on the possibility of changing him; let me tell you, you will never succeed because you are trying to change a man into another entirely different man. And ironically, the day when he change, trust me, you will never want him. Illogical? Because that's exactly the way karmic relationship and our life lessons function. When you evolved a karmic relationship into a benign source, it will cease to exist because this negative link is shattered. My best friend, in exact same scenario as yourself, stayed in a screwed relationship for five years. When she left him, this guy, end up coming back to beg her, tried to ask his parents to talk to her, promise to marry her, with not-so-screwed personality, etc. But eventually he did nothing that could make her return. Yes indeed a change man - something that she seeks years back. But because the karmic debt has been cleared - the bondage is broken. Even it was something that she wanted, eventually, it merely marked the end of the relationship because, this guy merely provide a costly lesson for her to understand that an disrespectful relationship is never a relationship - it's karmic by nature. A woman like you prefers to believe in a known evil than an unknown evil. There could also be other factors are worsening your situation. If you are the sort of woman that simply does not take want to accept the realities and remain in self denial then you will be just seeking for a greater price to pay. What happens is that you will probably suffer until you implode one day. Nobody can or will do anything to alleviate your pain because this is the price you pay for your decision. First law of life: we all have the freewill to decide the partner we want to accept - when you abrogate your freewill to 'false destiny' and accept a partner of such calibre, then you will suffer the consequence of your action. When you need a shoe, you buy a shoe. You don't purchase some leather and attempt to make a usable shoe out of it. Therefore similarly, if you seek a good boyfriend, you don't go for a cannot-make-it version and tries to convert it into a good boyfriend - that never happens in love. I can assure you this. An unsuitable partner stays unsuitable - until he becomes a shoe, he will always remain being some leather. But of course, if you are insisting to buy that piece of leather, no one can and will stop you. But when you eventually realise you cannot do anything with piece of inferior leather - you only have yourself to blame. My best friend took five years to understand this - I wonder how long would it be for you. Remember, you are only young once and please consider how much time do you think you will have.