Who Amongst My myLot Family is The Most Popular?

In all honesty I am a giver, have always been and have never been too keen or strung on receiving. Although it makes for a pleasant surprise from time to time, I can't help but wonder what happened all year round and especially for years. I had to turn off the alerts part from my phone and have to go and see if I can turn it off directly from my wall and actually I am thinking that since my email address, physical address and phone numbers are the same for so many years that if they truly wanted to say hello they could find me instead of on a special day. It is oddly strange that members here on myLot care about my whereabouts more then people/friends/family I know directly offline. I know I worry about people offline and perhaps maybe more then the normal, but one thing for sure is that technology is proving to me that people are getting lazy. I have been alone for the most of my life, actually since birth and not as much as guided in the right direction of moral values, yet I found something deep within that informed me early in my teen years that as people we must do the right things in life and be caring individuals. I wonder if I do not reply to a single wall post if that would prompt anyone to wonder, not that I am testing people, but time itself has been the true test for me. I have gone through a very difficult almost two years and most are aware of what had occurred, yet no one to date has bothered to ask how are you(?) during the entire time period. Thanks for the "care-aware" wishes. Know that the good person in me will not be deterred by others action and remain a true caring person regardless of others actions.

Darn it. And here i thought i will win todays contest.

I often wonder what is on the minds of such lovely posts. I mean I have seen a few by coincidence and not a single word. I guess they are hoping to win some contest for the day.

So far you are the top runner up.

Wow so many positives today happening to those around you! I hope that we won't see you here on Saturday as you will have so much more to do and that will make it so special for you now that you are going to see them all - GREAT!

As you know the wait during the day will be a long one but it will be so worthwhile once they make it down. I might just take Sunday afternoon off from here as well, as life above stated I needed to pamper me for a day. So I might just do that, am brain storming. lol

@ the almost last - ahahaha, never thought I get from the other side but hey that makes us just that more alike. Main reason I actually started one long ago was because of my daughter and she is a Facebook junkie. lol But she has since slowed down and so have I and am wondering if I should just close it altogether. I figure I have the same phone number and email address for so long that if anyone really cares they will know how to get a hold me. For crying out loud my daughters cell number was my original number so they can get a hold of me if they really care to. At any rate, I almost did get a bit blue today, really and not so much of the miscommunication but the fact that sadly all these hundreds and I mean hundreds can't take two minutes of their time to see if I am alright. However, getting my net back up and knowing I will see all the kids on Saturday, Yes cause now my son and girlfriend are also coming down. Yay!! Thanks for the lovely e-card as I was dancing early in the morning during breakfast listening to it. Along with your lovely words, I heard the great news about the visit on Saturday, GG getting a job and writersedge test results are positive ones, what more can a girl ask for, I feel like a very happy girl.

oh hwg that so sad as though they cannot take real time out to actually talk to one other in the same house,thats really sad and I would hate that. I often stopped in my sons door way to ask how he was and to see if anything was happening I should know about.he and his dad both had a habit of shutting themselves away if they were deeply troubled until I did wo k on both of them, it was they said"We did not want to upset you dear and Mom I did not want to scare you." I let them know that I was fully aware something was eating them up and that I was not some frail little Pansy to wilt at bad news. then both of them did open up to me and of course what woes I imagined were always much worse than whatever bad thing they had to tell me.I got through to them both that troubles shared are troubles halved as two heads can sometimes figure out how to solve any kind of problem.And they realized that Mom was not a frail little violet afraid of her shadow but a grown woman well able to cope with upsets.

Isn't it amazing on how technology is affecting families. I have a family member and her husband sometimes get upset about something and one will spend most of their upstairs while the other is downstairs, all in the same home. Yet one will text the other asking for something and the other replies with a text back. They will spend an entire week if not more not speaking to one another, and only do so if something is important via text message. Oh yes I would not only hate that but something would have to change as I feel it is a loss of respect.

Now this makes a great deal of sense with what has been roaming in my mind for several years. I can't begin to tell you what a mess and clutter my Facebook is filled with as people seem to think that on special days they are runner up contestants for the world to see. It is only about wishes towards people on that one day for them. Although I too can be guilty of slacking in the human contact world, I do take time to reach out, sadly I can't say the same about the hundreds, and I mean hundreds of offline people I know. Not just towards me but with everyone. I do fear that perhaps years from now there won't be human contact as before, I mean I know people living in the same household who communicate via text message.

@the wishes to the fake account. OMG now that is too funny. I certainly understand that it is hard these days to really communicate with people. But the funny thing is that they are on FB each and every day, so a quick private message and or post just saying how are you can actually bring a nice smile to someone. When it ONLY comes on the so called special day, wow hardly special for me.

Oh my Mrs. Hatley that is so true. I often say to my kids, please do not buy me flowers after I pass away, I want to enjoy them now. lol Wow I have heard a lot of dumblondedizzy from posts here and there, but I don't think she and I have interacted much here, what a lovely gesture to come over with flowers. That has to really bring lots of smiles to you.

I have replied to you friend and not sure why the messages are not getting through. Yes I do appreciate technology to a certain extent, however I don't feel that popularity for me is important. I often wonder why people even bother, on a one particular day when technology itself is available 24/7 and all year round.

Oh my God, Surekha thank you for the wonderful call. A birthday call from a friend in India. Wow that was so much fun to hear your voice and laughing nature.

This is my pleasure my sweet friend wow! your laughing style is so nice very innocent. Friend sorry I am more talkative women so not give the chance of talking to you. I was watching KBC (Kaun Benega Carorpati) because a lady of my town wins 50 lakhs Rs. Miss you my friendfinally I got the code from my new discussion help me my mobile is doing fun with me and akp friends help me.

I sure hope you got a nice BIG bouquet of flowers for your special day! I didn't realize what my hidden motive is here, I am selfish...more than I thot! I like the phone calls, as I know I have their undivided attention for that length of time...even tho' at times in may be inconvenient. So often, I have sent an "e-card" phoned to follow up, and they will say "Oh yeah, saw it there in my in-box, just haven't got around to opening it yet!" So, my assessment, would be...I guess I need validation of my efforts, in all honesty...and just really want to let them know, I care! Voice nuances, give me a true picture, I feel! But there was a day, and age when this "technology" was fraught with dissidence, too...LOL!

I am not only a chatterbox but find that writing letters for me is a much more personal for me as well. I also try and communicate with my children who are no longer at home constantly. If I don't hear from my daughter in two days I begin to worry. Funny how she was call me and say, I have not heard from you in like forever, what is funny is that we spoke the day before in the morning, so if it is evening the next day, she says it is forever. Don't get me wrong I do find that technology is a wonderful tool, especially for anyone who is long distance, but does it mean that years go by and we just never communicate directly anymore. Now that is really sad, and the more the years are going by the more I am finding that either people just don't care and or make up excuses not take 2 minutes of their time.

I got a message this morning on my wall that said, I am sorry I was not able to wish you a grand day yesterday as my computer was on the fritz. She lives down the street from me and has called me directly numerous times she needs money. lol While I appreciate the message today and the thought behind it, I wonder if later in life that some will actually use this as the only means of communication.

Yes Mrs, Hatley many are taking for granted that we can later send a message and are forgetting to see how we are during the entire year. What is sad is that the year goes on by and and we are forgetting that tomorrow is not promised so taking a couple minutes just to check can certainly brighten up a persons day. I am happy to hear that Nelda is taking time to help you today. She sounds like a true treasure and a blessing. Thank you for the birthday wishes. My fiend Surekha here call me today directly from India. Wow I was so pleasantly surprised and we had a nice chat. Thank you Surekha for the wonderful gift of being a great friend.

Madam tell me when is your birthday I will call you. Today I called my sweet friend HWG and I heard here voice wow! I feel so happy how sweet voice and innocent laughing. Madam yesterday was the Indian famous wollywood star Amitabh Bachan's birthday and Today is the famous mylot star HWG friend's birthday..Her voice is also so sweet. You dont want to talk with me so you not send me your cell no. okkk I will not force you but if it will get me then this was pleasure for me. At least tell me when is your birthday.

I decided to completely shake it off and debated if I should respond or not. My thoughts is that I am sure they are not waiting by their PC for a return thank you. It is quite funny actually to read the most beautiful words from someone who normally does not speak much offline. Yet I suppose a well thought out post to a wall makes them seem like the most popular.

Yes I am not worried per se but more of disappointment that people offline behave this way. Makes me wonder how impersonal people are with their closet family. No worries my friend it is not really about celebrating for me, just giving a hard look at who if anyone of my offline friends and family will be there for me if heaven forbid someday I was to be sick and or in desperate need. Ahh my friend I don't use Facebook much anymore but very surprised that people take the time on the one day and not the other 300 some days of the year. Thank you for the birthday wishes.

Ah I forgot to answer to the headline - MysD and HWG are the favorites and the best - they make mylot what it is - I always say and mention - you both are the soul and heart of MyLot.

I was learning to prepare the cake for this occasion and see here I am... right on the day my GF is celeberating her B'Day with that cake of mine

Hey sid... Seen you after long time here.... Hope all is well ..

Hi bro CAKE? I have one for the party at my box. You get the champaign.... and we will find a few more friends to get the party going and rocking

The wishes can be fun and entertaining but sadly most of them on my wall are people who completely forgot how sincere I am. I wonder if they actually remembered or was it the application reminder. After today I will be forgotten until the next calendar reminder comes through. I am actually considering getting rid of the birthday section of my wall, if I can and if not maybe it is time to completely delete my Facebook. Simply because I have the same email address, phone number and home number for many years and not a one of them contact me anymore. I use to think that the wall posts was something special but then I come to realize it is more of what others sew of what they post and not something with sincerity directed towards me. No cake, sadly as everyone is too busy today and maybe sometime during the weekend it may happen. Thank you for the birthday wishes.

All is ready bro at your box !!!

Hello my dear sweet friend. I see nothing wrong with greeting friends on their walls, but is that the only day we should send a how are you? I often wonder if a person is only suppose to ask one day a year? Technology is so convenient for which I certainly appreciate, however, so is email, texting and SMS. But somehow I find that when someone ONLY greets on the special day and not all year round, something in my mind triggers me to wonder if it was sincere or not. Just food for thought as last year will not come back and a person may not make it until the "special day" the following year. So my thinking is we all can use a reminder that sending a few words every now and again can be thoughtful.

Oh my I just received a call from Surekha from India! I had a blast laughing on the phone as both of us despite the roaming charges laughed away.

Oh,I got your point there my friend. Just don't mind them my dear friend,it's your special day today so cheer up!

Yes I also use technology to my advantage but direct contact is my priority as well. I do enjoy speaking directly to someone as the sound of a chuckle and or wish sending is much more personal for me. I know what you mean about direct hugs with offline people as some day we won't get the chance to do so and having not done so when we wanted to leaves for guilty feelings later. Thanks so much for my Birthday wish.

LOL to cute and thank you. I have had so much wonderful news from several on here that it made the non-caring offline friends put to shame.

Your observation is quite interesting to read that in few years time people speak on web phone and if the net connectivity is lost, they will say they could not talk because their net was down.

Hello dpk You are right as I do the same as well, I am a very personal type person and I do enjoy reaching out directly as well as utilizing technology to also convey my regards. Sadly some people in my offline circle are becoming so impersonal that they rarely if at all reach out only via technology. I wonder what this world will become in some years far from now, where people will no longer directly speak to one another where verbal communication is such a gift. I know people who live in the same home and sadly text one another while in the same home. How sad is that. :-( Communication in itself is lacking in our country and sadly technology is now replacing what the human voice is capable of doing. So imagine in he future where no one speaks directly to one another. It is sad to hear someone make an excuse that their computer was down so they were not able to convey their regards as they had not access. At any rate this is really happening in my circle of acquaintances and as a reminder to all my myLot family, I thought I put out a tad reminder that verbal communication is an essential part of life and we should not specifically rely on technology to speak for our true feelings. My birthday was yesterday, which was Oct 12th. Thank you for the wishes, it means a great deal to me.

Sad but true as many will utilize the convenience of saying it as an excuse.

Oh, and once again, Happy Birthday I pray you have a blessed day..:)

Awwww, I see where you are going with this. None of your offline friends bothered to give you a call or spend time with you today.. Now that isn't right..If you were closer i'd come and visit you..

Yeah times are really getting busy and hectic for a lot of people and as you say you do communicate occasionally, which is fine. Sadly though I am noticing and strictly in my circle of offline friends and family that it is becoming an epidemic where no one is really reaching out unless THEY need something and or want to impress others. I get a little funky with things like this as of lately and normally I was not this way. I guess I do have way too much time on my hands and sometimes I guess I over think a little too much and it gets me, erm them in trouble. lol Thanks so much, nothing really going on for today but have spent a lovely day here though, and what better way then to have sat and dwell offline. lol

I interacted with my chattering box yesterday and I know about the phone call. Infact she is more excited on the call. It is always good listen the happy moments in somebody's life and I really proud about mylot which is making a good platform to meet us even though we are living different parts of the world. Good wishes to you always dear.

She really is very sweet and I agree with you 100%, being a myLot member has given me a great deal of very good friends here as well. Good wishes to you too and do enjoy your weekend.

hello Sreekala! Yes Surekha mentioned and not sure if you are aware, she called me at home directly from India. I was so pleasantly surprised to receive her call. It was an added happy bonus to yet a wonderful day. You are so right that technology although wonderful tools are somehow causing people to be lazy and allowed to make excuses for not being to remember on their own. I literally have heard some say that their Facebook accounts were not working properly so there was no way they could remember. It is okay not to be able to communicate as frequently as we like with friends and or family as times are getting so stressful and fast that time is not permitting. But when someone intentionally only uses the tools to express their care-awares it makes for quite a disappointment to the receiver. I know I can't control the minds of my circle of friends and families, just makes for a clearer picture and sadly nothing will get them to change. Something about myLot where here we can be genuine and not be bothered with contests and or reminders of any kind. We can read between all of the participation's lines and see the sincerity of all members. Thank you for my b-day wishes, it is so kind of you.

Hello myfb I love to write and sending cards is something I do very often. I can understand many being so busy these days but to only send a wall post on a special day is somehow impersonal for me. I would be okay without the wall posts and perhaps a one or two a year greeting to an email might give me more of a sense that the person actually does care. Seems like you are very caring towards all your offline loved ones, even if it is simply a greeting we can't forget that life is short and we may not get the chance each and every year to make up for it.

Awwh I am smiling my friend and you are so cute! Yup I have grown up a long time ago, sadly from time to time I do get a bit dishearten as it is not so much the greetings at all, simply the non-caring nature of the circle of people in my environment. All and all had a few bumps today but did spend a grand day here today. Received wonderful news from Lotters, one had very positive CA results, another got a job and another is truly once again at peace with themselves. Those my dear friend are true gifting blessings to have received today, so yup I can say that I grew up a bit more today.

Oh boy do I remember my kids on the TV, computer IMing and on the phone discussing the show on TV. Local calls here are not free so this momma use to be angry. lol But yup I know that you know myth that blessings are always welcomed.

Yeah, with a little education 'just calling them to tell them-what's gonna be on & -that you'll be thinking of them while watching it (and then hanging-up)' works just as well at a fraction of the cost! And M? I'm glad to hear about your- and/or your friend's-blessings ... not that I actually had to say that---not like you thought I wouldn't be glad to hear