Women often tormented themselves

I also sometimes feel miserable, with all the housework. Housework is never done, if closely followed, perhaps in one day I will not quit finish the housework. I often feel miserable, especially when I'm in a very bad mood. I always try, to find a way, so I do not feel tortured. I tried to do my housework, casually, and do not feel it as a burden, and I should feel happy to do it. But, I am very difficult to do all that, because I was always a bad mood.

it is easy to become overwhelmed. Especially if you are a wife, a mother and have a full time career outside of the home. I filled all of these roles for a long time, and was often stressed to the limit. And I did finally realize that I brought a lot of the stress on myself. As my son got older, it got easier. And after my son graduated from school, I quit my job and started my own business. I am lucky to have a very supportive husband who is wonderful help to me in all areas of my life. I have decided that life is too short to waste time being unhappy and overwhelmed. Good luck to you!

Women seem to be upset at a dirty house, whereas men think "it's not that bad" and don't get stressed about it. Women also tend to put others first and think they should be perfect at everything. It doesn't work, but it takes a long time to realize that. Life is too short to be stressed all of the time. Being disabled there are a lot of things I can't do anymore. At first it bothered me if I couldn't keep something clean all of the time, now I think I'll get done what I can and let the rest go. It would probably be harder, if I had a family though. If possible try and get your husband to help in some way. Maybe he could fix dinner one or two nights a week. That would help you and be of benefit to him. He wouldn't have to live with an irritable wife.

Does it make me less of a woman if I am not bothered by this? Yes, I do like to have my place neat but not to the point that I stress myself over it. I hate it when people do house chores and then grumble at the same time. I do my chores when I feel like it. That way my heart doesnt feel heavy when I work

Well, as women our tendency is to want to do all the chores that there is to do, whenever we are at home. But that should not be the case. We should learn how to prioritize things. If the chores could be be done on weekends then we should leave it and relax after a hard day's work. Do only those that are necessary to keep our house neat and orderly. For those that are tedious, let them wait until the weekend. We need to be relaxed after a day's work.

well it is kinda unavoidable. women now might be as busy as men,but they have such an esthetic feeling that not easy for them to ignore. I am not being sexist, but I know my mom works as much as my dad, when she gets home she also cooks, cleans the house, well, makes herself busy and after that vents anger to everybody. she just needs to relax. but she cant because she just cant ignore the messy things around her. while my dad....... well everything can wait.

Very true. I have so much to do every single day. I work and also get other things done too.

tkonlinevn, I think you will need to see if your perception is one which is some sort of anger issue which might consume you on the long run and affect your relationship or marriage. Being married recently, I believe there's a lot of adjustment on both of you and if your man is not helping you to keep the place tidy then, it would be helpful for the both of you to sit down and talk. Starting with not leaving things around and placing things back to where they belong. Or, you can even ask him to help you with the dishes or vacuuming or ironing. I am sure he will be glad to help and see that happy smiling face of yours. Just don't keep everything to yourself. Men can be quite lost when they have another person in their life and like you may need some guidance here, that is domestically speaking.

the reason why women are like this is because they can multitask. unlike men, who do work one at a time, women have the capability to do multiple tasks at one time. the result is stress and irritability. i was like this before, too, and learned that i am no super woman.

You are right! We women like to torment ourselfs! I do with my confidence and how I worry about things. I have done this for years with my confidence and I am working on not to sabotage myself! I used to be a bad worrywart. I have learned to be more patience and that has made me less of a worrywart!

Well, I can say that women are usually selfless compared to men.Most women prioritize others' need than her own.Tormenting?Yes,sometimes especially if she tries to walk with a four-inch heels especially on a rocky road.

sometime we do just to make ourselves fill better or to impress of people like other woman that we know or dont know. just to say we look better than you do

Women are the ones who easily gets pressured and overwhelmed when there are a lot of things to do. Women are the ones who can't stand seeing the house messy and all. What you did was right. Plan and schedule your works so that you won't have to do all things at the same time. Try to relax sometimes and enjoy life by treating yourself. You can go to a spa if you want or you can go shopping or anything else that can relieve your stress.

Don't know i'm not a housewife yet don't think never be one , i couldn't stand it , it seems frustrating

You are correct. Many women put way too much pressure on themselves trying to do everything perfectly. I like a neat and clean house but I also like to feel rested and happy. It's a compromise sometime and my health comes first, but I do overdo it at times for the satisfaction of a sparkling organized home.