would take an online relationship
@luntian_grace (1373)
Philippines
October 13, 2011 5:06am CST
there are tons of social networking sites that are available now a days... and because of that you can have a chance to meet different people. facebook can even offer you to find your long lost friends and even your exs. but the thing is are going to take the risk of having someone (relationship) with a person that you meet in the cyber world?
there are growing numbers of crime related to cyber privacy. there are those that gives their complete home address, and personal information. and with all of these crimes happening would you want to have someone from cyber space.
how about you would you do it?
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14 responses
@michellehughes (30)
• United States
14 Oct 11
I think it is quiet possible to meet some good, honest, decent people online. But I also believe that you must be cautious because people aren't always what they seem and a stranger online can tell you anything they want you to hear. I think as long as you are careful and use good judgement that it is very possible to forge relationships in cyber space!
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@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
there are decent people no question about it... but then again there is opposite in every thing... good and evil type of thing... so there are stupid people and predators out there too. so still we should be very careful.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Oct 11
I met some people in real life I met online first. Others I never met in real life but it's already years ago and we share a lot. This kind of friendship is fine with me (and so with the others). Quess I am lucky too I never had a meeting with an idiot or dangerous person. Although I have to admit there were 2 who did not look at their picture at all. Also with an other type I saw on cam, he put it on while chatting and was eating at the same time. He did not look at his pic at all and the way he ate and was typing. Our just started friendship was over I can tell you.
BTW my cam was not on.
My bf I met life but since he is far far away we have an online relationship most of the time.
BTW I would never try to find my ex or people from the past. I don't find that a great service. If you don't have contact with someone anymore there is a good reason for that or?
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Most of us will not find it necessary or will not find it worth looking forward to about knowing where those ex's are now. They have become ex's because they are already unwanted personalities in our lives in the first place.
Yes, we can meet those people by chatting with them online after having had a few exchanges of those emails. Then once we become comfortable doing the chats, we may start talking with them and use that webcam, too. All fine with me...I see them to be just okay to be going through.
Then, once the partners would decide to see if they can be an agreeable couple, they can meet. It is always best that the man visit the woman and the woman's family. That is how it should be done formally. It is most unwise if it will be the woman to go to the man's place. Lots of things can go haywire there. It will definitely be a too risky setup of a meeting.
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
14 Oct 11
yes i have online relationships, and that means to me friends and close friends and i also have new found friends and online friends. Its nice to think that even with the distance we can go on with life and enjoy the relationships we have.
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
yes that is the passivity side of cyber world... it keep us closer to your friends and family. but then again it can't grantee safety that is why we should know where the limitations come in.
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Oct 11
Sure, it can happen that we find chemistry with a guy that we meet online, in that case we would talk for half an year, then by phone and in one year maybe to meet him, because if he can wait all that then it's worthed. I don't think a murderer or whatelse would wait that long.
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
ok i hope that there is someone out there who would turn out to be a good guy... and yes criminals wouldn't wait that long unless they are still planning a long list of victims... right?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I have met an online friend before. But I guess I was lucky that he was a good guy and at that time there isnt any cyber crimes at all. But now we should really be very careful of who we trust online... we never know they were just acting nice.
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@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
true... we never know that someone would rob us using social networking sites.
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@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
i think its a must to be cautious here online... we never know whom we are taliking to. its better be safe than sorry right?
@alienstar (5142)
• India
14 Oct 11
Online relationship can blossom if two people respect each other with more trust and especially in this case, it is definitely not easy at all to know and trust each other as both will be behind the screen and in many cases true identity will not be revealed and unless this is overcome, it is really difficult for sure
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
14 Oct 11
You make it sound like a crime has never happened to someone in person. There is risk ANYWHERE with ANYONE at ANYTIME. Dating online is not very different from meeting people anywhere else. A stranger is a stranger and a stranger is a risk, nothing more and nothing less.
Yes, I have talked to men online and I was smart about it. It's not that difficult to be cautious and aware. Don't give out personal information, meet in a public place, etc.
I even fell in love online. We've been together nearly 8 years, married for a little over 3.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Long ago, they become pen pals. Exchanging letters through the regular snail mail. Marriages did happen from out of those letter exchanges then.
Now, there's email. A good number of people have met their lifetime partners that way,yes.
I believe if you will just be honest about everything that you say, you will be able to meet someone through the internet your future lifetime partner. My best friend's daughter got married to her Canadian friend whom she met through mail exchanges at the internet.
Another one I know got married to an Australian whom she met that way, too.
Anyway, they will come over to the Philippines to meet you and your family. So there is nothing to worry about that then.
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
i am happy for you friend for she got a good person... did she even tried a background check... just kidding... well she is very lucky!
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
anybody can experiment probably playing online but to get to the next level of meeting up with these people, i am not sure. it really is a dangerous thing to do.
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
I won't take an online relationship. Anyway, it depends on the person if we have friends in mutual so that at least I can ask that friend about that person what kind of man he is. I agree with what you've said. Before, my full name, complete address and many more info are posted in my facebook account. Then time came there is this girl who is really mad at me and she's willing to do anything just to bring me down and that's the reason why I changed everything in my facebook account. I replaced my name, my address and some of my info to protect myself. Anyway, I really won't do. I don't want to be in a situation that I don't want to. Its not bad to have friends online but we have to be careful what kind of person they are because like them, they also have doubts on us because they don't know us too so not all our friends online are bad too. haha we just have to choose them.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
13 Oct 11
I met my husband in 2008 in a social site I was in my country and he in USA after two years of telephone relationship, and he going to visit to my country each six months we got married and life here in USA.
It doesn't means that is the best way to meet the person with whom you will share your life, I think that I was lucky,because like you say the crime have increased a lot in the cyber world.
@Timeout (419)
•
13 Oct 11
I have a lot of online friends, and although I have never met them in real life, I know I can trust them, because we know each other for years. They listen when I need to be listened and I do the same for them. I have even met some of them, for example, I am a great reader, and internet helped me finding people that like reading too around my area, so we can share books and talk about the ones we read. Once we went to cinema together and then we went to a restaurant to have dinner, I enjoyed that day a lot!
That does not mean you don't have to be very careful of who you trust, and of what you share on the net, because once you type it, it's there forever. Your privacy is the most important thing you have, don't gift it to strangers.