Smiling because you're really angry

@megamatt (14291)
United States
October 13, 2011 9:42am CST
I think most of the time, I think that I smile, because I am happy, joyous, and rather amused. And when I get angry, I tend to get very annoyed, have expressions of annoyance, maybe raise my voice ever so slightly when I am trying to explain something to a person or express my annoyance. Then there are times where I get so mad at someone that I actually start smiling or even laugh. Have I lost my mind? Perhaps. I think that there are rare times where people can push your buttons to the fact that you actually go so far into anger, that you blast right back back around into an happy express. Its funny how that works. Funnily enough this has happened a time or two when I have had to deal with particular dim customer service representatives. I guess its a way of keeping us from getting too angry.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
When I am annoyed yes,I can manage a devilish smile. But when I am angry, and ready to burst, no way I can smile. I prefer to leave the scene/place and be alone to make myself calm. I don't want to say/do things I might regret after. have a good day
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13 Oct 11
I completely share your opinion. the same with me :) *Powered by PhOeNiX8606*
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I never smile when I am displeased and give the other person the wrong impression that what he did was okay. I show my displeasure because I believe that it is my duty to be truthful. By being honest about how I feel, I give the other person the chance to know that what he did was wrong. If he chooses to make amends, then, good for him. If he doesn't, I just have to be wary of him or her. At least, I've been honest and have given the person a chance to make his choice.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
13 Oct 11
Or you really haven't been angered enough to kind of mentally snap. Actually I fully accept that you have a few good points. Nine hundred and ninety nine times out of one hundred, my displeasure is obvious. It is just that one time that someone makes me so angry that it leads to the situation that it lead to. A handful of times but they stick out as a new level of anger. I think that many people will get the hint of your displeasure but some won't either. It all depends on the situation at hand and the people involved. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@phoenix8606 (4942)
13 Oct 11
hi there, I think that smiling while angry is something what is not in my nature. When i am angry, i mean really angry, smiling is the last thing i would think about :) *Powered by PhOeNiX8606*
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
18 Oct 11
Technically speaking it would be the last thing I would think about. However, just because I don't do something, it really doesn't really mean that I am not going to really not think about doing something. There are a lot of times where its hard to believe someone gets you angry to the extent that you cycle around the other way of being so angry that there is a force happiness. Of course, it could really always be a coping mechanism before the potential meltdown which could in fact happen before too long. Its not something that I think about. It is just something that happens. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
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18 Oct 11
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Oct 11
That can take a lot of a person, one must be really strong of the spirit so they can smile when they are angry or sad. I can't do it.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
18 Oct 11
It does take special circumstances when it is done however. When a person pushed you so far into anger, that you break out upon the other end. I doubt that many people will be pushed that far. However, I do think that some are in fact are going to really be pushed all that far into anger. Then again, anything is possible in the world. To smile when angry really does mean that they pushed some rather prominent buttons and the person in question just kind of snapped. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I think smiling is a one way of step just to lessen and to hold-on one's temper... take everything to do just to cool off.... and keep calm....
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@megamatt (14291)
• United States
13 Oct 11
Indeed it could be a mechanism against trying to not blow up and lash out in a rather irrational manner. There are a lot of times where we could get temporary hold of our facilities and we are going to take that as a hint to step away, before we start going back to the seething and steaming rage. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
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• China
14 Oct 11
Smile is best world language! Smile can relax people and give others happy! But it's difficult for me to smile when angry,It's very fake.Try our best to smile when face very situation and matter.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
18 Oct 11
Yes it is very fake but I think that it is an impulse. An impulse that allows us to take control of the situation at hand. Or at least maintain the illusion that we can. It really is a bad state of affairs when someone has pushed us that far into rage to say the very least. But it is unfortunately all too common. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
• United States
14 Oct 11
Generally I am an all smile type person. There are many of times that when I am upset and or angry I still manage to smile. Often times I think I am this way because I don't want to let the world know what I am feeling. I have often told people that if you think I am always smiling you should watch me while angry, as that is the time I believe I smile the most. lol
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
18 Oct 11
I do also think that there are different levels of smiles out there. There is the happy smile and then strained smile, when we're really trying to not blow our top. There are a lot of times where there is anger and then there is ANGER as well. The time where we really are going to pushed right to the other extreme. Yes, in the end, when many people do in fact smile in a different manner, then they might normally do, they have likely gone through the other extreme where anger is going to be there. Thanks for responding. It is appreciated. Have a nice day.
@vasumathi (436)
• India
13 Oct 11
Sometime, the density of our angry may get reduced when we give a smile at that time. Also, if we are not able to show our anger to somebody we pretend to smile.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
17 Oct 11
Indeed there are sometimes where we just got to keep in cool. Sometimes our anger is so overloaded, then we got to really calm down. It is rare that someone pushes my buttons to that extent. But it is really not all that impossible. It does happen and it does push me to an agitated level beyond many things. I try not to get this angry. I try not to allow things to escalate things to that point. People do in fact have a gift however that will really allow you to be pushed and prodded. You really do have to applaud them in a twisted way. It takes something to really motivate a person to be angry beyond all forms of recognizable anger. You really have pushed all of the buttons potential and imaginable. Still a smile can easy the situation but sometimes its a last case gesture. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.