Hugs

@allknowing (136406)
India
October 14, 2011 3:22am CST
I was in the US on a holiday and after my package tour I spent time with my close family and friends who have settled there.One of my friends said she would take me to a club where she is a member. She reminded me that it would be nice if I dabbed some perfume as most of the members there who are Americans would hug me when I am introduced to them! My Elizabeth Arden - Green Tea came in handy and Oo la la la I was hugged and how!! Do you like being hugged by strangers?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Actually, i don't like to be hugged by just anybody. I choose who to hug and they are just my closest and my family circle. But as to others hugging me, even when i am not a close friend of theirs, i take a step back and take their hands instead to shake hands.
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@allknowing (136406)
• India
14 Oct 11
That is if you are given sufficient time. By the time you extend your hand well......!
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@allknowing (136406)
• India
15 Oct 11
But "what can't be cured has to be endured"
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
I hope that will not happen to me, because i have never experienced one like that.
• United States
19 Oct 11
I do not greet people with hugs on our first meeting, and I do not think that I would feel very comfortable doing this. If it was the custom where I was, then I would probably go along with it as not to offend anyone, but that does not mean that I would be comfortable while doing it. Here, people usually nod and say "hi" as an acknowledgement of the introduction and greeting. Sometimes people shake hands as well, but it depends upon the people and how formal or informal the situation is.
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• United States
19 Oct 11
I agree with you too purple, I just never had this happen to me and I've lived here all my life. And yes, we do nod and say "hi", or nice to meet you, etc., but I never was hugged on an introduction. This is not a custom I'm familiar with at all here in the US, and I never had anyone tell me to put on perfume either.
@allknowing (136406)
• India
20 Oct 11
Probably the club where I was taken to was a warm and friendly club where "Your friends are my friends. My friends are your friends kind of situation existed" And the perfume. Well when so many were going to hug me I thought it was a good idea!
• United States
14 Oct 11
Hi allknowing, Hmmmm, I've lived in the US all my life and this has never happened to me, at least not on a first introduction. I do hug my close friends and relatives, and actually would probably hug a few people from myLot should I ever meet them because I've known them for quite some time. But no, I wouldn't like this. The only time I've ever been hugged similiar to this is if I really got to know someone for quite a few hours talking and we got along well, and on parting there would be a hug possibly. Other than that, no, not for me and I would feel uncomfortable. I normally shake someone's hand on first meeting, that I'm ok with. I still hope you enjoyed your visit here and had a wonderful time with family and friends.
• United States
19 Oct 11
I agree Kashmere. I have been in situations where I have met and gotten to know someone over the course of several hours, and our "good-bye" ended in a quick hug, but that is not how we normally greet each other when we are strangers.
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@allknowing (136406)
• India
15 Oct 11
Namaste the Indian way of greeting someone - Indians normally do not hug but wish this way
Shaking hands would be my choice too but as someone said here 'When in Rome do as the Romans do' as I have heard people in the West do believe in hugs strangers or otherwise. And we here in India do it with a namaste
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@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 11
of course I like to cuddle ... but, of course, people who embraced me it was really knew me. Otherwise, of course would be very surprising for me and certainly I would ask, why are you hugging me?
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@allknowing (136406)
• India
14 Oct 11
I also prefer a hug from someone who I know very well but in certain countries this is a things that is done and considered normal
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Being hugged is okay as long as I know the person hugging me. I am not comfortable doing it with strangers. Hugging as a form of greeting is common in Arab countries. It is part of their culture but only to people they know and not to strangers. A shake hand would be okay for me.:-) Glad that you enjoyed your holiday tour.:-)
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@allknowing (136406)
• India
14 Oct 11
But when in Rome do as the Romans do!
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• India
14 Oct 11
Hello, Be a Roman while in Rome is a very well known & old saying. If hugging is a custom in parts of the world [which it is] with no negative vibes about it & if we happen to be in those places, we would do well to reciprocate customarily. It may be a taboo according to our customs & traditions. I am not saying we should give our tradition a go by. At the same time, I see no harm in acknowledging the gesture. That's an opinion though.
@allknowing (136406)
• India
15 Oct 11
Go with the flow is good advice!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
14 Oct 11
I'm not really crazy about hugs from strangers but I love hugs from close friends and family. I guess it makes me feel a little awkward when a stranger hugs me..lol. I know it's a nice gesture but I am more of a big smile kind of greeter.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Oct 11
@allknowing (136406)
• India
15 Oct 11
I hope I am close enough!
@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
14 Oct 11
I love getting hugs from those I love, some hugs linger and others are warm embrasses. With my sister and kids the hugs are often a few minutes long. Sometimes My sister will put her head on my shoulder and just stand there for a few moments, long enough so I can feel her heart beat or hear it. It's the same with the kids. Hugs with strangers I rather not but I do get many hugs from strangers, the hugs are normally quick so I can handle it. If it was lingering it would bother me! Hugs to you Allknowing!
@allknowing (136406)
• India
15 Oct 11
I like the way you have described the various kinds of hugs that you enjoy. Good going there Amfyre. Those quick hugs from strangers better be quick!
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
I think in western countries it is normal to people to hug again and again when you are being introduced to friends or even to strangers. Sometimes you would experience it when you meet people in a party and you don't even know them yet.
@allknowing (136406)
• India
15 Oct 11
It looks like the Western Countries are oozing with warmth!
@kukubima (20)
15 Oct 11
I also longed a hug from someone who is very dear to me. I miss warm hug from my parents. I can imagine that