People around, giving false PROMISES..... and keep us in a mess...

I don't know how you feel. But, when it comes to me, if a person tries to comment (or command) over things that I only can decide, that's provoking, I feel. There were no friends I expected anything from, so there is no one to get the said CREDIT. (I said everyone was expecting from me only. When I occasionally expect anything, they play safe and clever.) I am glad that at least God has put me in a position that I have something that I can give to others. At the same time, I am tired that always there's someone expecting something from me. When more than one (even three or four) people expect something from me at the same time, there is someone going to be affected. If that person feels the other way and judges from his point, I can't help it and I let it be. Rectification, is possible only if there is no ego between both. If either of them thinks he/she is supreme, the problem never ends.

In one particular issue, I was thinking I have kept the commitment up and I have also informed the concerned person. At that time, that person didn't say anything about it but later he is accusing, that too after a long time. I feel, he could have clearly told me that there is some more to be done. That's a failure on his part, I think. Raking up a closed commitment, is considered as a new commitment.

I feel it is not provoking. The person one who gave words must understand the long long wait given by the person who with great and genuine human quality. When beyond limit one who was affected must and might try to explain their position. As you said, it happens to you many times that you could not kept your words. My point is when some one who can not keep their word, it can be communicated clearly to enable the other to proceed further. May be, the person who ditched me is also of the same mind set as you said, has not faced the problem of some one who ditched him by false promise. HERE also your friends are to be praised as they have kept their words. It is their CREDIT. Doing justification TO THEIR FALSE PROMISE is not right. Rather rectification would make those people evolve.

Thanks jugsjugs for the participation. Though its a belated one, I really feel happy that you participated. Me too of the same opinion. They do not come under the category of FRIEND at all. If they are, then they should have tell us their INABILITY.

Of course the real meaning of PROMISE is pretty strong. Yet we all use it even in lighter manner in life many times. Strong or Light, my view of starting this one discussion is once we give a word to the people around, be it a relative, a friend, or a not so close but a person in need, we need to keep our word. The point is when not able to keep it, at least inform - explain the situation to the person to whom it was given so he/she may not waste his/her time with false hope. Its not about the promise, its about keep it and when at a later stage one feels he cannot keep his word, it is better to explain the person concerned than to further lie, giving false hope and postponing. When beyond tolerance if the person accuses there is no point in TELLING REASONS. This is my view. No doubt people differs opinion. We need to live among people with diversity of opinions. But we can live in harmony if we make others feel comfortable. Is it not?

That was a wonderful statement. No point in waiting or considering. We must let them go and it is not our duty to continue with those kind of people. That is what I am doing now. I am now focusing on moving forward with my goal. Thanks for the participation dear passion 3924.

That is what everyone of us would wish because we are the sufferers. But I do not think it would bring any result meaning the desired change in them. Since they are ignorant of our feelings or enjoying it, it would bring us undesired results. Now I decided to move forward in making my work done. And it is more important than this person who doesn't understand the importance of his own words. Of course I told him already that he could have boldly told his position than misleading me.

It's good that you've told him already. Now that you know the kind of person that person really is, next time he says something to you, don't trust him easily. Yeah you should move forward because life has to move on.

Of course it is not money and if it is money I do not bother much. For me, TIME is more precious than money. Because, we can make the money loss but not the time lapse. Man created money. But TIME is GOD. Is it not? I understand that there are lots of such people around from your words. I give more importance to words. Now got to be careful as you said.

Ohh ! It was a family member in your case. So embracing. I understand how you would feel. Because I now know the pinch of it. I know come to a conclusion, that either these people are ignorant of what they are doing to others by not keeping their words or more self centered. They lack the knowledge of the feeling and sufferings of the other person who believes these people's words.

Of course, but what I think is - even if you speak their language, they don't understand as they are habituated to it. And we cannot claim from our level of keeping our words to the maximum extent and in the event of not able to fulfill, informing the concerned in advance. These people can cite many reasons, and in my dictionary, there is no point in telling reasons and only results count. Ultimate result, is unwanted delay on my side in waiting for months thus the work is still pending. mmm... what to do ? Its a lesson.

May be you are right. But as of now, for me, the situation is beyond that point. I am sure this person would not realize his mistake and even if that happens, I would still reluctant to trust him as I lost a lot of time due to this persons inability to keep his words. In my opinion, GOD has given us all one thing equal. Health, Wealth, Intelligence all differs. But who ever it is on this planet they all have ONLY 24 HOURS. Irrespective of their position. So, I do not want to take RISK by trusting this person again. Of course, if he realizes its good for his progress. I am no way connected.