How can i Become a good STUDENT?????
By Dassodils
@Dassodils (2010)
India
October 14, 2011 10:07am CST
I am very lazy. And have no interest to learn. I think it's a tough task to me. I always like to spend my time with friends. Some times, I decide to study. But when I open the book, my friends memories bring me to somewhere. Then I will close the book. Before exams starts, I decide to study well. But I can't concentrate on studies. I spend all my time to Talk or contact with them. My teachers and parents are advising me to study & score well. They says that friends will not be with me for ever. now,my friends scored more marks than me. I got only pass marks.So I want your suggestions to become a perfect learner. hope you can help me in this problem.
15 responses
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
You have to prioritize your study,don't take it for granted cause some kids wanted to be in school but has no chance because of poverty.
Its not bad to be with friends but give more time in your studies.Or you can encourage your friends to have group study,you enjoy your friend's company and learn as the same time.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Ardoy..Thanks for such good suggestions.I will try to arrange group discussions with my friends.And please give me more suggestions.Thank you.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
I think studying lessons with friends is a great idea to learn more cause there are some lessons that you don't understand but your friend could.So they cant teach it to you and vice versa.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Yaa.....Thanks...Some times, I make such discussions between friends.And it was a wonderful experience to me. I can easily grasp the lessons or theories From my friends.I can easily remember the points quoted by them. Thank you.
@atulmalla (229)
• United States
14 Oct 11
Spending your time with your friends is not bad. But ignoring your studies for your friends is surely a bad thing. If you feel very lazy to study and remember your friends every time you open your book, then you can do a group study with your friends at their house.
This way you will be with your friends and along with that you will be studying and learning something.
@atulmalla (229)
• United States
14 Oct 11
You are welcome,Dassodils! I am glad I was helpful. Even I study with my friends whenever I feel bored during exams and it boosts my learning desire significantly.
Study well and best of luck.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
14 Oct 11
Yes!!!!!!! That's a nice idea.Thank you Atulmalla..You gave me a best suggestion. Thank you.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Thank you..I want more suggestions from you to improve myself.I hope you can help me.Thank you.
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
14 Oct 11
Quit! Sounds funny but it is true. Decide what you want. Do you want to be lazy? Sometimes that can be a good thing because sometimes we need a rest. Everyone can chill out for a while it is actually good for your studies to be lazy for a while.
There is a time though to get to work, quit being lazy and if you are not motivated consider either doing something other than being a student or be a good student. A good student needs to forget about their friends and concentrate on their studies. There is time for everything. So that is your first step I think. Decide what you want.
Step two is put in the time. Do the study. The best way is to like what you are doing and only you can know this. I like learning because it makes me a better person and most importantly it allows me to be independent. Your friends will understand this if you are showing up less or they are not your friends. Later dude!
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
15 Oct 11
I think you have received some very good responses here so will not suggest more except to write this. Some people never leave school. Yes, they get jobs, start families, have careers and do many things in life. They do go on though to keep learning, to keep studies up, to try to understand life and many interests. Some subjects we choose require us to keep learning even after we leave formal education.
So everyone reading this is interested in this topic and they perhaps need to address this too in their own life. I think it is a balance we must find and there will always be sacrifices to make. I am thinking of a doctor who becomes married for example. To marry another person that needs a large amount of their time and/or requires a very active social life would be a big mistake. So we see, a doctor must decide where their devotion lies. It is their obligation they must think of but that does not mean they do not love the one they marry. It is only one example. I think the course that you have chosen is very demanding. It is a very interesting occupation and very up to date with current employment perspectives perhaps, but it will require a large amount of a persons time, forever, if they want to succeed in it.
As far as having a social life and maintaining friends are concerned, this is a positive and to be encouraged but when we have a demanding study we need to be aware of our time management skills.
You are not alone, I have this challenge as well but for slightly different reasons.
Hope this helped you in some small way Dassodils.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
14 Oct 11
Blue doll..Thank you. I think I can easily become a good student by following your suggestions. But i can't forget my friends. That's my problem.Can you suggest me a better way???From today, I will try to improve myself as obeying your instructions. Thank you.
@bodhi_91 (191)
• India
14 Oct 11
Dassodil, people learn what they love. You learn about your friends and their daily events becoz U love this topic. Everyone has their own field of love. U need to find that out first, then U will surely become a good student.
In my experience, becoming a good student has got nothing to do with studying long hours or learning in Indian Education System.
Please let me know which class you are presently studying?
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
14 Oct 11
Bodhi....Thank you for your friendly suggestion. I'm a Bca(Bachelor of Computer Application) student.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Only you can help yourself.
Your parents and teachers already advised you to study, and you know it so well too that you should study to earn good grades. But you still prioritize nonsense phone conversations with your friends which you can actually do later.
You need to focus and put into your mind that studies are always important. You may always do both if you have the talent and intelligence like some people who actually scanned their notes and books with their eyes only but get good marks. But if you arents so smart like those people, all you need to do is focus on reading andlearning your lessons =) Motivate yourself.
When I was still a student, I motivate myself into study while I was listening to music. I finished reviews late in the night because I stopped reading when there's a good song playing and i sing along with it. But at least music has motivated me to study my lessons well and I've got good grades! Try to find out what motivates you.
Goodluck!
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
14 Oct 11
Thanks for your comment Enelym001. Really i like your reply. It is help full to me as well.Thank you..
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Thanks and you're most welcome! Here's hoping that you get the good marks next semester =)
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
21 Oct 11
Yaa...thanks Ralphs...I will try to implement your suggestion...Thanks..
@GemmaR (8517)
•
15 Oct 11
The thing about being a student is that you have to really want to do well in order to do so eventually. You should decide what you want to achieve in your life, and make a plan that will help you to reach those achievements. There's no point in planning to do things which you won't be able to do, but there's no harm in being a little bit ambitious. You should set aside time every single day during which you can get some of your work done, and make sure that you stick to this plan. Providing that you do this, you should find that it is a lot easier for you to get to grips with the things that need to be done during the course of an average day.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
GemmaR.... Thank you for your comments. I will find my goal and stick on my plannings for a better life. Then Will try to reach to my destination. I know i have to work hard to achieve my dream. But i will try my best. Thank you.
@whatrow (792)
• United States
15 Oct 11
There has to be a very good reason why you are avoiding study. You are trying to find yourself. You want to know who you are and decide what you want to do. When you answer those questions you will throw yourself into learning and see your "friends" in a new light.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Thank you Whatrow..By reading you suggestions, I thought my self.And i decided to study.Thanks for giving me a tendency to learn my lessons. Thank you.
@shskumbla (3338)
• India
15 Oct 11
Yes, I can help you.
You told that sometimes you have get interest to read. That time you don't put your mobile with you. It will disturb you.
You can read in your soundless room. means read alone.
When you entering your exam hall that time you don't be tensioned..!
You told that you are reading when the exam time. I think its not good. When you came from collage(to home or hostel) you can read the lessons that the teacher studies in that day.
note points
read intrestly.
BEST OF LUCK
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Shskumbla..Thank you for your variety Solution.I think I can easily implement your suggestions. I need more help from you to concentrate on studies.Thank you for your wishes..
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
15 Oct 11
Don't your friends study? They got to be doing something right for them to even score really good and better than you. Some people are actually naturally smart and don't study that much and still top the class. But you need to know your own weaknesses and potential, don't let your friends bring them down. My parents always say that family comes first then education then friends. So make your parents proud, they have tried so hard to bring you up and they want the best for you. I'm currently in my senior year of high school and I have major exams coming up next year which will determine the course and career I will undertake. I tend to find that studying is much better if I listen to the radio. I need music to concentrate and it makes studying much fun! Spice your studying up my doing something else at the same time. Sometimes, when I get into studying, I actually start to get absorbed and then I reward myself after when I'm done studying. 
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Thanks for your comments Triple0. U gave me instructions to remember my parents. That gives me the energy to study for a good future. Thank you..
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
14 Oct 11
Hello Dassodils, When you're studying or doing any Homework think of it as if you don't do your homework or study you won't pass. Give your friends a limit. Talk to them maybe on weekends only. Give time to yourself because it seems like you care more about your friends than yourself. Don't you realize they scored more marks than you? maybe you should stop worrying about them. I have the feeling that they don't worry about you as much as you worry about them. Education comes first, your parents and teachers are right friends wont always be with you or able to hangout and talk to you, when they are older they will be busy taking care of their kids and going to work. If you want a good job you have to finish college.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Yaaaaaa............Thank you Judy..I am trying to improve my self by the suggestions made by myloters. I will try to score good marks in my college studies. And i expect more suggestions from you. Thank you.
@szm990529 (62)
• China
15 Oct 11
you should have a goal,it is important!!!you say your friends all scored more marks than you,do not you want to be a student as good as your friends?ok,you can regard it as your present target,to get a good mark like your other friends.if possible,you can study together,encouraged each other.don`t be lazy,come on!!!
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Thanks for such good suggestions Szm990529..I will keep a goal in my mind to become a successful person. Now i got energy to compete with my friends.Thank you.
@koneho12 (165)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Well, you really have big problem. You know why? It is because your mind is always focused with your friends and thats bad. Friends are just there in happy and in sad moments of your life to be your companion or partners if and only if their you true friends. To answer you query you should be honest into your self, ask this question all over again into yourself, "What is the purpose why I am here?" and then you must understand that you are studying in order to hve e better future and at the same time for you to give some reasonable pride to your parents. You are privilege for being in school, receiving allowances and not to work in an early age to gain some money. Treasure the moments in school becaue time is Gold, it will never ever go back as the same as before. Regrets will always come at the end. Do good and it is not too late to make a better change in yourself.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
15 Oct 11
Koneho...Thanks for your comments.When i go through your Suggestions, I remembered about my parents. And a good message that the time is precious. It will not come back. You are right. Regret comes after exams.The last sentence gave me a positive energy to study.Hope you will give me more suggestions at a later time.Thank you
@lijoos (346)
• India
12 Nov 11
i am also realy lazy.i spend most of my time with fiends,facebook,films,sleeping etc.
i am mca student ,but i try hard before exams.
we can enjoy our life as we wish.i never say study all time.just enjoy with your friends and just study before your exams.because its our duty ,we are students.i know that you want to have a job and protect your parents.
we need an exact ambitions in life then only we can do anything.
so first set your ambition well in your heart.then to realise your ambitiob start studying beside keep your friends and enjoyments together.
most of the students have no interest to study .but if we wants to do anything in life different we waqnt to stand on our legs .for that we want to love learning.
keep in touch.take care
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Oct 11
one hundred per cent correct. Avoid talking over cell phone and online chats and forums. they eat away your valuable time..it is happening for me also.
Read well. When you open the book read loudly--memories they will come because of your age --you must put them aside --concentrate on study and after exam you can allocate time for dreaming about friends.!! go and study and report that you studied well during the day.
