Green with envy
By chaze01
@chaze01 (185)
Philippines
October 15, 2011 6:47am CST
There is a girl in my place who is getting married today. Not that I beget her happiness, but I find that I am a little envious of her. I am not really sure if what triggered the monster envy inside of me but she seemed to have everything going for her. Great career, lots of money, happiness and husband.
I am not yet old, but I feel panicky every time I hear some of my friends getting married. Have you experienced this too? What do you do to deal with the anxiety of waiting for the right person?
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5 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 May 12
Yeah it would be good to focus on being productive when we feel this way. We can always work on improving ourselves and our life.Doing the things that we need to in order to be a better wife. There is a lot involved in having a successful marriage and it's important that before we enter that commitment we know what we are doing and what we want.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Oct 11
Hi Chaze :)
Yes, I feel that sometimes, especially if my close friend will get married. I feel alone and kind of envious. But I don't want to be in a hurry. I want to get married on the right person, not on the right time. And I still haven't found the right person for me.
It's kind of hard especially if your friends are already planning for their wedding, and I sometimes feel left out and pressured.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 May 12
Yeah it is natural for us to feel that way when we are alone. And we see all of our friends getting married. We have to work on ourselves and wait for the right opportunity. We shouldn't rush into a marriage but give ourselves and the other person time to be prepared.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 May 12
Yes she will need to be patient and work on herself as the time permits. She will be surprised to see how fast another person can come into her life. We can always work on and improve ourselves. That is the biggest room there is. The room for improvement.
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
The best thing to do is to be with yourself always. Study and learn of all your positive self to enable you to acquire those positive aspects of yours to work out. Nobody is above what you really think is the best for you. Others have their own way of life, so you too. Never give a chance to your bad feelings towards other people. Also, try to learn the best method on how to capture a man of your life. Being with yourself and your positive qualities, makes a man to love you deeper than anybody else. Remember, be a good girl and doing the things in a right way. If you have problems, study and learn on how to solve it, in a manner that you can benefit out of it. Be strong and courageous enough to face the future. Enjoy life, happiness is the key.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 May 12
Yeah it is good for us to know ourselves first. This will help us to avoid a lot of heartache and pain in the future. And she will be in a better position to have a successful relationship when she takes the time to improve her own strengthens and to work on her weaknesses. This will attract a person to her as well. He will see her strengthens and know that she is a humble person.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 Dec 11
I felt this too and I'm sure that their are many others as well. I wasn't old either when I felt this way. It seemed like everyone around me was getting married and dating and happy. I felt sick when I would think about it. It made me sad and depressed, not that they were happy but that I couldn't seem to find happiness like them. Now that I'm in a relationship and we love each other dearly I can still say to you and others to enjoy your singleness. Do the things that you love and go the places you want to go. Marriage has it's blessings but also it's hard times as well. It shouldn't be something that is rushed into. So I would encourage you to do the things that you want to now and when that person comes along you can get married. But try not to sit on the sidelines pouting as we often do ( I know I did) and go ahead and live your life. Because if you don't know when you get married you will feel as if you waited your whole life for THIS only to find that it is A LOT of work and isn't as the movies make it to be. It is easy to fall in love but quit another story to stay in love. So also make sure you know what you want and what your looking for. It's good to be a little older as well that way both of you will know what your looking for in your relationship. Not only in your relationship but in life as well. If you are both at a reasonable age and both are comfortable in what you want then it's a good thing. It will happen soon enough.
