If you are not jealous, you are not in love! Agree?

I do not agree. Everyone has a different personality. I know people who are completely in love, but just don't carry the trait of jealousy. It doesn't mean they love the person any less or are any less scared of losing them, they just aren't the envious type. For myself as an individual, jealousy does reflect on how much I care for someone. If I care about someone, jealousy is my way of showing I'm scared to lose them. However, I've been with many people who did not get jealous nor feel insecure, and it did not mean they loved me any less, it just meant we had different ways of showing it and reacting to certain situations. Perhaps they were more secure with themselves and our relationship.

To be jealous of some one or something is taking care of what you have in a non possessive behavior...we don't own another person we can only own material things! Intense jealousy is like an illness...it does not mean love it actually goes together with being controlling of another human been and that is not healthy in any relationship...usually people with low confidence on them selves suffers great jealousy and you will find people like this often alone without a partner!

completely completely DISAGREE for me, a very important part of love is trust. because I TRUST my husband, even if a woman is draping herself over him, I know I can trust him, so have no need to feel jealous. if you are secure in your relationship, you're not jealous.

Jealousy has nothing to do with love. Jealousy can mean thay you are not sure of yourself as a person or that you don´t have enough confidence in your reltioship wit your partner. I loved my BF and then husband for 40 years and was never jealous even though the first years of our being together he was a pro soccer player in my country and belonged to the best team in those years. Women and teens assaulted him when we walked to a movie, asking for an autograph and all that nonsense. But there was nothing to be jealous about. It was part of what he was then. And I loved him for a lot other things that those ladies did not see.

In my opinion if there is no jealousy then there is no true love. How can it be that you do not feel anything if someone interests your partner or spouse, or if you see him kissing her, or hugging or giving too much attention. If you do not feel anything then you do not care so you do not love him. Too much jealuosy is unhealthy but none at all is a sign of no love.

Jealousy is selfishness and insecurity, love is trust. You must give freedom to your partner because he or she is not a thing to be cherished inside a case.

Jealousy is a dark and negative emotion. Love, on the other hand is positive and light. Whichever way you look at it, one cancels out the other. If you are jealous, you are not truly in love. If you are truly in love, you can not be jealous. Think about it.

Well, you have a point. I am 75-25 and I think jealousy and possessiveness are the primary symptoms of love! If love is there, both of these qualities are likely to be there in the partners. I've seen so many people having this problem.

Jealousy is the spice of love. Without jealousy, love that you intertwine will not have impression and special messages. For me, Love without jealousy will taste like a meal without salt. Tasteless and easy to be forgotten

I agree with what you've said. I don't feel jealous if I don't love the person. I feel nothing whenever I saw him with someone else. No hard feelings but there is this guy that whenever I saw him talking to another girl, grrrr,, I really feel so jealous especially when I see them both laughing. I really don't like the way I feel. I don't like the feeling of being jealous. Because I'm jealous, I can say that i'm in love with that person and whenever I got more and more jealous, I feel like my love is going deeper and deeper. Anyway, that's all. Happy mylotting. :D

I have always tried not to be jealous but it doesn't work.I guess I am that kind of person who wants everything for myself.It doesn't really matter if I am in love or not but just the fact that I am seeing somebody makes me want him for me only. Sometimes I am angry to myself because I ruin my health bothering with these things but I cannot change...

I think there is a deep truth to this. There is insecurity of losing someone in certain situations, and that causes the jealousy. But if the partner is just a friend, one would not even mind losing him or her. One just has to be careful that the sense of love does not end up in obsession.

In some point or another, I would like to agree with you on this matter. To get jealous is okay as long as it is not too much. I would say its okay since for me, i could always take it as my gauge how loved I am. If my partner don't get jealous, he doesn't care about me anymore, he doesn't care if I mingle with someone else other than him, which would mean, he care less and don't love me that much. No matter how lenient your partner is, if he/she loves you he/she would naturally feel jealous if their right is touched or intruded by others. But I also believed that too much jealousy is not healthy for a relationship. Too much of everything is dangerous. Perhaps a little of everything is okay to add some flavor in the relationship to make it more delicious ;-D.

I do strongly agree with this. we will be jealous with the person whom we love much

I disargee. I think its possible to love without jealousy. If you trust someone you know they wont do wrong it wouldnt matter if someone else looked at them because you know your love only loves you.

Yes I do agree with you in this regards. If you really love someone and if he/she speaks to some one you feel jealous or you don't want the person you like to speak other.

I can tell only jealousy is disease and never cure it and there is love then there is fear our loves may lost so the both are fear. No this is not true no jealous means no love.

Well my thought is if you love someone you really shouldn't care if someone else gives them attention. Someone else giveing them attention should only make you realize how fortunate you are that they have chosen you and have put all others aside. You're the one they want to be with and if you have uncontrolled jealousy and confront them all the time about someone looking at them (which is not their fault), then you are the one with a problem. If you keep badgering them and hounding them about others that your love one has no control over, you've got a serious problem. Learn how to accept the compliments and the looks from other and be grateful that this person has decided that you are the one they want to be with. Because for sure if you keep beating them down about other people and compliments that they receive, you will loose that person and then if for some reason you decide to stalk them, well you're just asking for trouble. Appreciate the person you are with and love, cherish them, quit worrying about others, because as long as you love and cherish, respect them and treat them right they will stay with you and do the same for you. Love is the answer: not jealousy, jealousy will kill the relationship. I know I've been there.

That is not love. Love isn't jealous. Jealousy is insecurity in action. I think it is rather unrealistic to want your partners full attention at the expense of everything and everyone else. What if you have children? Do the children get shoved out the door emotionally, because there is no room for the parents to love them too? Is there no room for friends either? There must be balance in a relationship, and one that is filled with jealousy is only filled with insecurity.

Nahh...i don't see it that way.In my own perspective ..i say "TRUST is enough to STOP from JEALOUSY to keep on coming.." another point here is... "i'm SO IN LOVE WITH MY GF but i show no JEALOUS to her.." ....but i tell you, i gained the TRUST after being jealous or being possessive to her for the past whole 1 year . but we made it! despite the daily arguments for being possessive last year..whoa! yep! IT'S ALL ABOUT TRUST! FINAL VERDICT: I'M NOT JEALOUS of her anymore even she meet new male friends, for what i know is We both Love each other.and we're about to be married soon next year! OH YEAH! oh and 1 more thing! (we both wrote and dare each other on who's got more hot new friends)until now.. it's a risky challenging game for us. we only got 3 rUles or reminders: 1: Know your limits 2: He or she may be hotter or gorgeous than i? i know and i dont care. 3:I LOVE YOU