ideal partner in life
By Killerfiller
@Killerfiller (15)
Philippines
October 15, 2011 11:07pm CST
Have you ever dreamed of a happy ending life, an ever after fantasy? Does it still exist? Imagine a perfect life with no burdens, struggles, hindrances and above all, no failures.
I've been trying so hard to have a life like this but I guess I exert too much effort and none have every really worked. Do both partners really need to do their part? I did my best but she wouldn't change at all.
How can I ever fix this?!?
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9 responses
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
16 Oct 11
Well first off, I don't think a life like that exists, the best you can hope for is to get as close as you can to the ideal life.
That being said, it can't be a one way thing. Relationships have to be give and take on both parts, not just one.
How you can fix it? That's a tough one. Maybe not give so much, and make things a bit harder for her. Then maybe she will give a little back, and that can be a start on the right path.
@Killerfiller (15)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
the thing is we are far apart from each other...how can we work it? We do give and take but she will never be satisfied on what I give. She is just too selfish.
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
16 Oct 11
That is a tough situation indeed.
Relationships work (or don't) for a myriad of reasons.
I guess it would be best for you to examine your situation as far as expectations are concerned. You have to ask yourself if your expectations for life, or the relationship are realistic; and then you have to judge for yourself if her's are equally realistic. Then you have to try and find some common ground.
Think of it this way, 2 people in a relationship each have an equal amount of money, and both walk into the same store. One spends all of their money on a sandwich and soda that both can share, the other spends all of their money on a lottery ticket.
So even though they gave the same amount, one bought something that is of immediate benefit to both parties, while the other bought something that is of potential value, but only if it is a winner.
Things may appear equal but they are not; things may appear disparate, yet they are not.
Relationships are difficult, complicated matters!
Good luck no matter what you decide!
@Killerfiller (15)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I appreciate everybody's response and feedback. I am very happy though when we are together and its a fantasy being with her. It's the long distance relationship that really doesn't work. I plan to marry her soon and bring her with me. I'm sure everything will be ok when that day comes.
@sexyice (873)
• Latvia
16 Oct 11
Ideal partner are partner who loves and respect you... Because need partner who you can trust and teel all your problems. Partner whou hear you and help you and if your partner don't understand you and don't help you, you need seerch other partner, because you have one life and you need live life full with love. 
Fix - need feel your partner and respect he too, because all people need love, respect and trust 
so simply
Fix - need feel your partner and respect he too, because all people need love, respect and trust so simply 
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
Hi! We all dreams of having and meeting our ideal partner. But sometimes we become happy even if our partner is not the ideal one. It depends upon both persons, if their personalities jive and compliment each other. The most important thing is to pray fro you partner.If you are single pray that God will give you the right one that comes from God.
@AnnieliCI (8)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I've learned that being good friends with someone doesn't mean you'll be good partners in life. I've learned that love is not enough to make a relationship work. There should be commitment from both parties to build a family, stay in love with each other, face life's hurdles and challenges and preserve a life full of happiness and dreams and LOVE.
If you know and I'm sure God knows what you've done, been doing, will continue to do to make a relationship work and still the other person does not budge, don't fret. Let life and destiny take its course.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
16 Oct 11
I have a lovely partner at the moment, but I often find myself thinking about what would have happened if I'd chosen to be with someone else instead of him. He is very nice, but there are certain things that he just doesn't do, for example he never surprises me with gifts and we never go out anywhere. I know it isn't the end of the world, and we are trying to save money at the moment, but he just needs to make more of an effort sometimes, like the amount of effort that I will put into every single relationship that I have ever been in.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
Life is really hard and not easy if we are facing troubles.
But life should be appreciated as it is.
We must be thankful for all the trials that made us strong and give us more inspiration to do our best.
Have a good day and welcome to mylot
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 11
I think it's hard to make our life as happy and beautiful as fairy tales, cos life is real and fairy tales are only fiction. nobody suits each other I think cos every man has their opinion about their life, they also have self interest so if you want to make someone do exactly like what you want, it must be impossible. don't you think that life is beautiful cos we are different each other? I can't imagine how would be if all people are similar each other. life could be so boring. burdens, struggles and problems are just things that make your life more alive. without any problems, your life will be so plain, and I'm sure you will die boring..LOL..harmony is a result from our struggles. it doesn't come up in seconds. but we should struggle for it. and the journey will be hard and full of pain, but we will find peace and harmony in the end of our journey. life is struggle, so we should struggle of anything we want in life, and fixing your relationship with your partner is included..happy struggling..!! 
